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To think Queen Elizabeth's legacy is going to be seriously harmed by this?

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Gymnopedie · 19/02/2026 18:45

I mean I doubt he bounded into the palace shouting 'you'll never guess what I did last week'. He will massively have played down the extent of his friendship with Epstein and may even at times have lied about where he was when he was away. It seems his protection officers have some serious questions to answer around this. I doubt anyone in the RF had anything like the full picture. But QE stood by him and I can't see her coming out of this well.

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Carla786 · 20/02/2026 02:42

Whyhaveibeencutoutofmamsnot · 19/02/2026 20:36

Many mothers will go the whole way to protect their children and can't see a thing wrong with their adult child's behaviour.
I don't feel it counts as being a paedophile - the females were over the age of consent in this country. Agree it is unpleasant and exploitative and very sad for the young people involved.

'the females were over the age of consent in this country. Agree it is unpleasant and exploitative'

  • 'females' - are you a man, by any chance?

'Unpleasant and exploitative' - understatement! They were enslaved, they couldn't meaningfully consent.

Carla786 · 20/02/2026 02:40

AnyoneWhoHasAHeart · 19/02/2026 20:10

Firstly, people need to stop throwing around the word paedophile so casually.

Man has sex with younger woman, “paedophile.” The definition is very clear a paedophile is someone who has an attraction to prepubescent children, and absolutely nowhere is there any evidence that Andrew is a paedophile, and to suggest this fact is in fact not only defamation but is an insult to the victims of actual paedophiles.

Secondly. We all assume that the queen must have known what Andrew was doing by virtue of the fact she was the queen. But how many parents actually do know what their kids are up to? Genuinely?

People are quick to blame the queen, but that is a slippery slope to go down. By that definition if a person commits a crime their whole family must be considered complicit and held accountable accordingly? Except nobody would argue that would they?

Man has sex with younger woman,

  • they weren't just younger women (underage teen girls), they were trafficked. They could not meaningfully consent.
Carla786 · 20/02/2026 02:32

Ihatethistimeline · 19/02/2026 20:44

The ones we’ve heard about so far were over UK age of consent. However, the latest files describe covert flights through UK airports of girls on Epsteins plane, girls as young as 9 are mentioned, torture videos featuring Middle Eastern royalty. Virginia was the tip of the iceberg so it seems.

ME royalty - which country? Saudi? Dubai?

Carla786 · 20/02/2026 02:31

Cheese55 · 19/02/2026 22:23

She was trying to keep up the illusion of propriety to keep their position and money safe. She was not that interested in her children

I don't think that's true. I think she did care about them - not that this makes her a good person.

rainandshine38 · 20/02/2026 02:31

She paid of the victims with £12 million didn’t she? Of course she knew.

Carla786 · 20/02/2026 02:30

RainbowBagels · 20/02/2026 00:44

Yes since when? I doubt their education was about anything of the sort! I think the only one who can even fake empathy is Charles. Anne is a pretty brusque woman and Edward couldn't even answer a simple question off the cuff without making a hash of it.

Hmm...I don't think Princess Anne is mean. I agree she can seem brusque but she's also done a lot of productive charity work for Save The Children (also Riding For The Disabled).

Carla786 · 20/02/2026 02:28

Discoated · 19/02/2026 23:08

This was due to a combination of factors. She was quite marketable as a queen in the mid 20th century and became essentially a global brand, a living relict from the old world, where Britain was a powerful empire but also modern as she was a female monarch. The fact that she wasn't actually born into her role but ascended to the throne due to her uncle's scandals and her father's early death helped frame her as a dutiful, calm and mild mannered monarch. Being nice to look at didn't hurt either. Her coronation was one of the first major global televised events, turning her into a household presence and strengthening the monarchy’s accessibility. My grandparents lived in another country and bought their first ever TV to watch the coronation.

She certainly is an important figure in history but was fallible like all people.

'Being nice to look at didn't hurt either.'

  • I think it's fair to say Elizabeth & Margaret both had a halo effect from being royal. I don't think they would have been seen as particularly notable looking if they hadn't been royal. Imo an error of the crown was that they cast actresses who were excellent but arguably more Hollywood-looking than either Elizabeth or Margaret were.
Carla786 · 20/02/2026 02:25

Cheese55 · 19/02/2026 22:12

I think she was largely indifferent towards her children. Had them as a duty. She kept him close because she thought that would make people look the other way when he started going 'to parties'.

That's unfair imo. She was closer to Edward & the Unmentionable because they were born when she'd settled into her job. I thunk she ended up close to Anne too.

Carla786 · 20/02/2026 02:23

Yes, definitely. Covering up Mountbatten's probable abuse too.

Ukefluke · 20/02/2026 02:15

FiatLuxAdAstra · 19/02/2026 20:48

The first inklings of the Epstein crimes started to leak out in 2008 when the Queen was 82yrs old and already in cognitive decline.

I don’t think she ever got a whiff of the truth. I am sure Charles and Anne decided not to tell her so she wouldn’t die on the spot from the shock.

Edited

She knew it was bad enough to cough up 12 million to pay off somebody "he never met"

Ukefluke · 20/02/2026 02:13

ChangePrivacyQuestion · 19/02/2026 19:55

In all honesty, I caught myself playing a bit of a devil's advocate over my lunch break. If you step away from queen as a queen, and think of her as a mother, is there anything you wouldn't do for your child, were it in your power. Then I realised rape is my line in the sand. I'd probably do the patio-and-alibi for my child in case of murder, but this is where I draw my line. But would that have been her line? I don't know. I'm not defending what she did/didn't do, that's another kettle of fish, and I'd happily watch HIM thrown in the cell with the key tossed away. Playing the devil's advocate, where would you stop for your child?

You would cover for your child murdering somebody but not for raping them?

PollyBell · 20/02/2026 01:26

With the highly intelligent conspiracy theories around, is the queen even his mother?

RainbowBagels · 20/02/2026 00:44

mathanxiety · 20/02/2026 00:25

Why do you believe their education was planned with morals and empathy in mind?

Yes since when? I doubt their education was about anything of the sort! I think the only one who can even fake empathy is Charles. Anne is a pretty brusque woman and Edward couldn't even answer a simple question off the cuff without making a hash of it.

mathanxiety · 20/02/2026 00:25

SnowyRock · 19/02/2026 22:05

I dont think she is to blame. I think its potentially another an interesting picture into the nature vs nurture aspect of a psychopath though.
In an upbringing intended and rigidly planned to teach morals and empathy, out of the 4 children it was the one most doted on who developed those traits.

Why do you believe their education was planned with morals and empathy in mind?

mathanxiety · 20/02/2026 00:18

Andouillette · 19/02/2026 22:56

Let's also remember that Philip's mother spent quite a lot of WW2 saving the lives of Jews, and was declared Righteous Among the Nations for it.

She saved three Jews, sheltering them in her home. This is why she received the Righteous Among the Nations recognition.

I don't want to downplay her bravery here. Her home was close to Gestapo HQ. Betrayal or a routine search would have meant death for her and probably torture too.

mathanxiety · 20/02/2026 00:11

YANBU.

If she even had a slightest whiff of a rat, she should have hired a few private investigators to get to the bottom of matters.

It's inconceivable that she wasn't aware of the many whispers there were about his conduct as trade envoy. It's inconceivable that she didn't ask any questions about the sale of the house she had given him. She should have verified all the answers to any questions she asked. If people were afraid to approach her with the truth then that's a huge issue too.

The payoff that kept AMW from testifying in a NY court was a clear sign that she had no interest at all in anything but sticking a bejeweled middle finger in the air at all that is decent and lawful.

Over40Overdating · 19/02/2026 23:16

The infantilising of a woman renowned for her steeliness and duty above all else would be hilarious were it not for the fact that as head of state, she would have been fully appraised of the situation regarding her beloved Randy Andy, long famed for being a greedy, obnoxious entitled pig, when it came to negotiating a 12 million quid payment.

In her position why would anyone pay that amount of money to a blind stranger

Discoated · 19/02/2026 23:08

Gymnopedie · 19/02/2026 20:25

Her persona was one of a wise stateswoman who could be relied on to behave with dignity and never put a foot wrong whichever head of state she was with. To give wise counsel to all the Prime Ministers who consulted her. That she represented the best of British. The longer she reigned the stronger that persona became and things like Charles marrying Diana were glossed over, and often reasons found for why she wasn't as wrong as she seemed. The world's media stopped when she died, not just the British press.

I've thought about the point made by @ChangePrivacyQuestion before I started the thread. How far will a mother go to protect her adult children? There have been posts on here where the adult child has been in serious trouble and the OP has asked whether she should cut him (it's usually a him) off. Lots of replies saying that they would only cut their child off for child abuse. Anything else and although they wouldn't like what they'd done that person would still be their son and they would still love them.

This was due to a combination of factors. She was quite marketable as a queen in the mid 20th century and became essentially a global brand, a living relict from the old world, where Britain was a powerful empire but also modern as she was a female monarch. The fact that she wasn't actually born into her role but ascended to the throne due to her uncle's scandals and her father's early death helped frame her as a dutiful, calm and mild mannered monarch. Being nice to look at didn't hurt either. Her coronation was one of the first major global televised events, turning her into a household presence and strengthening the monarchy’s accessibility. My grandparents lived in another country and bought their first ever TV to watch the coronation.

She certainly is an important figure in history but was fallible like all people.

Andouillette · 19/02/2026 22:58

Elizabethandfour · 19/02/2026 22:14

They are all like that. The ultimate nepo babies with no redeeming qualities. Andrew is the patsy because he got caught. It’s no coincidence that Charles was best friends with Jimmy Saville and his favourite uncle was also a horrific satanic child abuser. I just don’t get the pearl clutching for this horrible, evil family. What more do they have to do? Diana tried in fairness. The only decent one of the entire, rotten lot.

Edited

Your blessed Diana was also friends with J Savile.

Andouillette · 19/02/2026 22:56

Brefugee · 19/02/2026 21:46

well clearly Philip wasn't his sisters was he? and he served in the British navy during the war so clearly he wasn't a huge fan of the Nazis.

Let's also remember that Philip's mother spent quite a lot of WW2 saving the lives of Jews, and was declared Righteous Among the Nations for it.

RafaistheKingofClay · 19/02/2026 22:52

BIossomtoes · 19/02/2026 22:00

I hope some of you don’t have kids who turn out to be wrong uns.

There’s a difference between loving your kids wherever they do because you are their mum and covering up for them, isn’t there? And in this case that’s complicated by an additional layer of protecting The Firm at whatever cost.

It will not be a surprise if it turns out the family, including the Queen, knew exactly was Andrew was. At the bare minimum she paid of a trafficked rape victim without bothering to ask any questions.

Andrew alone is guilty for any crimes that he committed but I’m not convinced bed he’s the one that ruined her legacy. She did that.

Aliceisagooddog · 19/02/2026 22:50

They all knew. Been warning off journalists like Andrew Lownie gor years with legal threats. Bring on the Republic!!

Emotionalsupporttissue · 19/02/2026 22:48

I don't know how much the Queen knew , I'm very close to my family but only know what they choose to tell me about what they're doing. How many people live with their partners and have no idea that they are being cheated on?
But her paying VG off should have made her ask more questions.

MoFadaCromulent · 19/02/2026 22:47

MrsLizzieDarcy · 19/02/2026 21:37

In terms of damaging the RF reputation, yes Harry is little better.

Harry and Andrew have both bitten the hand that feeds them.

Harry is the only likeable one of the cunts

YourGreenCat · 19/02/2026 22:34

Catza · 19/02/2026 21:56

Yes, actually, it is. I don't know how much more needs to be said. Here is an adult male (allegedly) committing a crime and instead of focusing on that, the poster choses to blame his mother.
It's absurd that we are even doing that. I don't know what else is to be said on the subject...

If we accept that the head of state can be a woman (and we should) , we can't then play the card "don't blame the woman". Can't have it both ways

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