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What would you think of this incident at work? Xenophobia

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Dietstartsnextweek34 · 19/02/2026 14:51

In a Teams group at work with a number of other teams, working in a public facing role.
I'm one of the very few with a 'European' surname and basically a surname that isn't Smith, Jones, Roberts etc.

A woman made a joke about a certain nationality, she had some customers that were suspected of fraud and she wrote in the chat 'And of course they're _ nationality, no surprise there 😂'

I was quite surprised she put this in a public Teams chat with over 40 people on. I saw she deleted it 2 minutes later then literally right after that I got a private message from a manager saying, 'Oh just out of interest, where's your surname from?' 🙄

Clearly trying to check it wasn't the country she'd made a comment about. It isn't but it's a neighboring country, tbh it's made me think a bit less of the woman who posted it, people can have their opinions but to voice it so publicly says a lot.

OP posts:
Dietstartsnextweek34 · 19/02/2026 14:54

She also made a comment like 'AND she had 6 kids'!

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BrentfordForever · 19/02/2026 14:53

YANBU I have a European surname too, I get all sorts of… but I give it back 😉