Dh works full time and I work part time. This means that I do the vast majority of the cleaning and housework.
I would include in this cleaning/dusting/vacuuming/mopping floors/changing bedding. The rooms tend to be done weekly and being a family of four and a large house, the house does get grubby quickly. Dh for example spills coffee everywhere, no one would think to wipe the sink round if it was looking a bit dusty or covered in toothpaste, everyone drops crumbs around. Stuff like that.
I also do a wash load each day, empty/load the dishwasher as and when needed, wiping kitchen worktops over, I plan the meals and order the food shop. I do 100% of school runs and any other school related stuff.
Dh does a fair bit of cooking, so do I but he probably does 70%, partly this is because I do clubs in the evening so Dh will cook while we are out, he will put a wash on if needed and he tidies up the kitchen often, but that tends to just be doing the dishwasher, he doesn’t really clean anything or wipe the worktops. He is a tradesman so he does most of our DIY too.
The dc also empty and load the dishwasher and eldest will put a wash on, they do help with cleaning in school holidays.
All mostly fine, but this usually comes up so we are both off work this week. I’m not feeling well and the house has become a tip.
Instead of dh getting on and having a bit of a clean and tidy he’s finding pointless jobs to do outside.
I don’t expect him to start turning the house upside down on his week off but just an hour would make a huge difference.
Instead he starts ranting on about how the house is a mess because he’s let it slip because usually he does everything. How he does all the washing and then starts naming how he did the washing at the weekend. Even though it’s now Thursday and I’ve done 2 more loads since then.
In his head he really does think that he does it all.