Has anyone on here ever made you cry?

Yes, that would upset anyone. Harsh, personal comments can hurt, even from strangers. It doesn’t mean you’re weak it just means you’re human.

No one has made me cry.

I do find myself astounded over and again at the ganging up.

Someone starts a thread asking a question, or for people’s opinion on a situation, you reply and give your opinion or answer the question and then along come people who disagree with you - which is perfectly fine by the way - but are unable to do so in a polite way. And once one starts, it’s a free for all.

I do think though that people that disagree but in an uncivil manner instantly lose any credibility.

Maybe ripping into people makes them happy.

Anyway, to the posters here who have been brought to tears by the mean and spiteful comments on here, have heart. You’re worth so much more than they are.

@pictoosh ive had that - such an awful thing to say. I work full time, great job, single parent, kids thriving. 10 years previously was with their abusive dad. I left for them to have a better life. Im there for every pickup, drop off, every event at school. And someone here said that to me!

When I first joined around 2011 there was a regular poster. She had one DD, hadn't known that she was pregnant and posted pictures weeks before she gave birth, to show it was possible to not know. She loved being a Mum. Her DD was around six. Then one day, it was her last post, her DD had died. You could feel the devastation in what she wrote. I had a cry that day. I'm not a cryer at all.

No, I am usually more disgusted at people’s posts than upset. Especially when a few bullies get together and pile on on one poster.

Just remember how pathetic these people’s lives must be and be glad you’re not like them.

To be clear, it was a really small thing about my DD's fingernails after getting hand foot and mouth. And I didn't flounce on the thread 😁

I think that - sometimes - people who get ripped to shreds on Mumsnet are ridiculously awful people and absolutely deserve it.

Mostly they don't. But sometimes when people say 'I'm leaving this thread because I'm being attacked really harshly' I think 'Nowhere near harshly enough, you terrible cunt'.

Not crying but the lack of understanding around SEN is really awful on here and can compound feelings of isolation and shame when old fashioned posters pile on blaming parenting and lack of boundaries. The lack of empathy, critical thinking and ability to imagine what it might be like can be astonishing and depressing. On the other hand there is an enormous amount of solidarity amongst the many people on here who do get it.

I wish people would be less adamant and entitled and could acknowledge when something goes way beyond their own realm of experience. It’s infuriating.

About eleven years ago I got flamed alive for asking a child health question. It got taken the wrong way and one person actually accused me of refusing to get my child medical attention. I took it really hard at the time and deleted my whole account. Silly, looking back! Because I knew I would never do anything of the kind to my DD. But I had hideous anxiety at the time.

I've been here for years and this is something you learn about mumsnet. People will gladly pick up the ball and run with it.
Not good for anxiety at all.

Never at someone being mean but a few very sad (and sometimes relatable) posts have made me cry before.

Also no one can seemingly detect something tongue in cheek or humourous or playing devils advocate as part of an interesting discussion. No nuance.

Terrible lack of SOH on this site, so po faced.

Not made me cry, but I could certainly see how that could happen. I stupidly went on a political thread and stated the opposite opinion of what the OP and others were virtue signalling about and riling up. It was light-hearted, in good faith... Just a different perspective. But no. They were like a swarm of vultures coming for me. It reminded me that not everyone operates in good faith or from a good place.

And I've seen how people speak to others on here. It can range from unnecessarily dismissive and bitchy to downright nasty. I think some people enjoy it. Trolls, they used to be called.

About eleven years ago I got flamed alive for asking a child health question. It got taken the wrong way and one person actually accused me of refusing to get my child medical attention. I took it really hard at the time and deleted my whole account. Silly, looking back! Because I knew I would never do anything of the kind to my DD. But I had hideous anxiety at the time

I also got flamed a couple of years ago, just before my breakdown. That was my fault, but was pretty upsetting none the less

I've cried at other people's circumstances. I can't take that anymore though and don't read anything upsetting. I hide a lot of threads and some whole sections

Although I did get some very kind DM’s 😊

Yes, the first time I posted on here 14 years ago! There is more generalised nastiness now but there was certainly some then too. This was in Relationships - someone who was clearly a “character” back then created a pile on. I didn’t know enough about MN then 🤦🏻‍♀️

I particularly like 'you're a man' or 'you're misogynistic'

It seems that is apparently the worst insult someone can throw at someone on this site.

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I've been shredded on here...even had the exceptionally disrespectful, "I feel sorry for your children.", chucked at me.

I am not surprised people cry at some of the responses they receive on here.
I maintain that sadly, mumsnet isn't a great place to go if you're feeling emotionally fragile. There is some great support at times but it's just as likely to end up as a race to the bottom. A thread can take a nasty turn seemingly out of nowhere.

But its really not personal because none of us know you. People are reacting to a very breif snapshot of your life that you present in a post. They’re bringing assumptions and their own experiences into their reactions.

Likewise, you don't know us. It's highly likely that most of us are not people whose options you'd want in real life!

I once wrote about my nasty and spoilt sd-i stand by it,she is nasty and spoilt

She has a mother that just threw money at her and her dad (my dp) is a soft touch and she tried to take full advantage

She hated me from day 1 and did her best to break us up

Some of what she did should have landed her a prison sentence-this was that serious

I wrote about this on a thread ages ago and some posters tried to hand me my arse saying 'how dare you call her spoilt?' 'your the nasty stepmother to an innocent child' (she was an adult) and 'you personally are the reason my dc will never have a stepmother'

I just laughed-these idiots hadn't welcomed her into their homes,hadn't tried to help her or had what she did thrown in their faces

I think I must have triggered one person and the rest saw a good pile on

I didnt report them as they where showing their own ignorance but others must have reported them as they did get deleted

Not made me cry no but I was heavily pregnant and started a thread about a certain celebrity who had recently gone no make up which was unusual for her and I posted the pictures complimenting her, omg I was absolutely piled on, apparently I only started the thread to slag her off, how dare I comment on someone’s looks, I was a terrible person etc. It really upset me, maybe more so that hormones were amplified at the time but I remember thinking you can’t win either way on this website. There are some really miserable nasty people on here who’s mission it is to make people feel bad about themselves

No because the opinions of random strangers on the internet mean nothing to me. I laugh regularly at how stupid a lot of posters are though - this site is great for entertainment. I'm sure I could cry at individual situations though but I don't read those types of threads.

Moved to tears, no. I have felt outrage, sorrow, deep pity, anger and even fear for posters but I've never cried about it.
I've had a think about it. Are my emotions only valid if there are tears?

No. But there was a time (about 6 years ago) where there were quite a few nasty women. They wrote horrible things about how my partner was going to leave me and then reported my post and had me banned. It was awful.

I think they aren’t on here anymore. They used to gang up on people and just be nasty and horrible.

Quite an “ordinary” thread a few months back talking about the greyness of the winter and how everything seemed hard going, brought tears to my eyes, because posters were recounting the daily challenges they were facing such as grief for a husband of over forty years, or the struggles of caring for a disabled child, or the abuse they were suffering from a partner, or ill health themselves. It was incredibly moving.

No one has brought me to tears because of arguing or being deliberately goady although some of the royal family threads have made me feel quite pissed off and irritated! 😁😆