Dh’s sister and her family drove down and stayed with us last weekend. On the first evening, SIL discreetly asked me for a plastic bag and wipes for DN. It was obvious what had but I didn't say anything, thought it was a one off.
Next day we're at the park, kids run off to play. They come back and she pulls me aside saying he's had another accident and they need to pop to the loo to clean up. She looked embarrassed but seemed like was it was a routinely. I assumed he must have a medical condition.
I managed to ask her about it later and she was very blase. Said it happens when he's overexcited or if he "puts off going". I asked if they'd seen a GP or anyone about it and she just said "Oh no, he'll grow out of it” And that it had gotten better recently.
I was shocked. Surely a child having accidents at aged 9 is a huge red flag for medical attention? And If it happens at school? I can’t began to think how embarrassed he feel about the whole thing. I did want to say something more but didn’t in the end, not wanting to over step.
I think this is a really serious issue that needs proper attention, not a wait and see approach?