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Are you now more likely to vote for REFORM (the party)

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Decisiondecisions · 18/02/2026 14:49

NC for this and apologies if Q already asked. My quick search yielded no result.

Reform plan to undo the reversal of 2 child cap benefit. Are you now likely (or more likely) to vote for them? There have been endless threads about the welfare bill.

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Selenassunsetsangria · 21/02/2026 12:09

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 12:06

I might as well debate with a plate of jelly if you think white people get abused because of their skin colour

Pakistani rape gangs targeted white girls. What do you call that if it wasn't racially motivated abuse?

LoveHearts69 · 21/02/2026 12:08

Just how diverse is the area you live in @Moonshadowmoon? I’m just baffled how you seem to think stopping brown men coming into the country is more important and will affect your day to day life more than any of the other policies Reform stand for.

The the rich will pay less tax, you’d have a US style healthcare model so no more NHS and you’d have to fund insurances to pay for any healthcare needed, no minimum wage, cuts to benefits, and you’d have no rights when pregnant or being female as we’d be leaving the ECHR and scrapping the equality act.

Does getting rid of brown men really mean that you’re happy at the cost of all the above?

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 12:06

Thechaseison71 · 21/02/2026 11:45

Really? So no white people ever get racially abused ? Dream on

I might as well debate with a plate of jelly if you think white people get abused because of their skin colour

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 12:02

Moonshadowmoon · 21/02/2026 11:57

“The issue for me is - as a white person - I am never going to be abused because of the colour of my skin. I'll never know what that feels like“

Here you say white people cannot be abused because of the colour of their skin, unless you really are solely talking about yourself in that case how do you know you will never be abused because of the colour of your skin?

How many white people experience racism?

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 12:01

Moonshadowmoon · 21/02/2026 11:50

Didn’t say you were lying, maybe it’s different in Scotland maybe the waiting lists aren’t as long because there’s less people up there.
Was a time I would have lived anywhere, there’s millions of people who will happily live anywhere to have their own place. Hard to believe “no one” wanted to live there but I’m not saying you’re lying

I'll say it one more time. I lived in an area for 25 years that was more or less half full when I moved in.

There was one very anti social family - they were drug dealers. More than one family left the area because of them.
I also had another dealer living next door to me for a few years.

At one point the council furnished some of the flats to try and get the scheme full and it only got fuller in the end because a lot of Polish families moved in

You're trying to suggest that I'm not telling the truth - when I am. And the suggestion seems to be that why should refugees have got these flats when there are local people on council waiting lists - because no one wanted to live there

I DID live anywhere - other people didn't want to

I really can't be bothered "debating" with someone who dismisses everything I post

There are still some towers in the area which will be eventually flattened as well - at the moment there are Ukrainian refugees in them

Moonshadowmoon · 21/02/2026 11:57

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 11:36

I didn't say I spoke for all white people. You point me to where I said that?

Is that right - well that's odd that I lived in a council scheme for 25 years that was eventually demolished because people didn't want to live there because of anti social behaviour

You're views don't trump other people's lived experiences Im afraid - I don't appreciate the suggestion that I'm lying

“The issue for me is - as a white person - I am never going to be abused because of the colour of my skin. I'll never know what that feels like“

Here you say white people cannot be abused because of the colour of their skin, unless you really are solely talking about yourself in that case how do you know you will never be abused because of the colour of your skin?

ForWittyTealOP · 21/02/2026 11:55

Moonshadowmoon · 21/02/2026 11:51

The vast majority of Afghan migrants are male

Yes. Why?

TopPocketFind · 21/02/2026 11:54

2dogsandabudgie · 21/02/2026 11:12

We need controlled immigration. At the end of December last year unemployment in the UK reached its highest level for 5 years. We don't need low skilled workers from other countries filling these jobs.

Do you want a UK style ICE as Reform (and the Conservatives) are proposing?

Moonshadowmoon · 21/02/2026 11:51

LoveHearts69 · 21/02/2026 11:44

Feels sorry for Afghan women yet doesn’t want them to be able to seek asylum here. 🙃

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The vast majority of Afghan migrants are male

Moonshadowmoon · 21/02/2026 11:50

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 11:36

I didn't say I spoke for all white people. You point me to where I said that?

Is that right - well that's odd that I lived in a council scheme for 25 years that was eventually demolished because people didn't want to live there because of anti social behaviour

You're views don't trump other people's lived experiences Im afraid - I don't appreciate the suggestion that I'm lying

Didn’t say you were lying, maybe it’s different in Scotland maybe the waiting lists aren’t as long because there’s less people up there.
Was a time I would have lived anywhere, there’s millions of people who will happily live anywhere to have their own place. Hard to believe “no one” wanted to live there but I’m not saying you’re lying

Thechaseison71 · 21/02/2026 11:45

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 11:26

The issue for me is - as a white person - I am never going to be abused because of the colour of my skin. I'll never know what that feels like.

As for the suggestion that Afghan males are coming to the UK to groom people - do people think that women aren't groomed or maltreated or sexually abused by white men?

Someone is a groomer because of the colour of their skin and the fact that they are fleeing oppression?

Around 7 years ago a number of refugees were given council homes in my home town - these were homes in a rough area that no one wanted to live in

The Scottish defence league turned up - they were given a police escort to and from the train station. They threw smoke bombs at us. They intimidated us - they also had their faces covered - cowards.

Shops had to close - and things are worse now.

It's always the people at the bottom who are for all the ills in society. Unemployed. Disabled - asylum seekers

Really? So no white people ever get racially abused ? Dream on

ForWittyTealOP · 21/02/2026 11:45

Moonshadowmoon · 21/02/2026 11:39

You know what, fair enough. you are free to describe yourself as intelligent.

Being able to read and write is taken for granted an Afghan woman is lucky to be educated to that level. I do think some on here are unaware what it’s like over there

Yes I agree, plenty are unaware of the ongoing crisis in Afghanistan and its history. If they were, they'd know why there are male refugees from that country.

LoveHearts69 · 21/02/2026 11:44

Moonshadowmoon · 21/02/2026 11:39

You know what, fair enough. you are free to describe yourself as intelligent.

Being able to read and write is taken for granted an Afghan woman is lucky to be educated to that level. I do think some on here are unaware what it’s like over there

Feels sorry for Afghan women yet doesn’t want them to be able to seek asylum here. 🙃

Thechaseison71 · 21/02/2026 11:43

It's interesting to read that everyone would " never" vote for Reform yet people obviously are as they seem to be gaining in popularity.

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 11:41

Moonshadowmoon · 21/02/2026 11:39

You know what, fair enough. you are free to describe yourself as intelligent.

Being able to read and write is taken for granted an Afghan woman is lucky to be educated to that level. I do think some on here are unaware what it’s like over there

I'm very aware of what life is like for women in certain countries. That still doesn't translate to Afghan men seeking asylum coming over here to groom women and kids

Moonshadowmoon · 21/02/2026 11:39

ForWittyTealOP · 21/02/2026 11:35

I am intelligent. Why shouldn't I say so?
Being educated isn't solely about being able to write.

You know what, fair enough. you are free to describe yourself as intelligent.

Being able to read and write is taken for granted an Afghan woman is lucky to be educated to that level. I do think some on here are unaware what it’s like over there

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 11:36

Moonshadowmoon · 21/02/2026 11:30

You as a white person have never been abused because of the colour of your skin but you don’t speak for all white people. It’s very unusual for no one to want to live in a council home no matter how bad the area there are millions on the waiting list

I didn't say I spoke for all white people. You point me to where I said that?

Is that right - well that's odd that I lived in a council scheme for 25 years that was eventually demolished because people didn't want to live there because of anti social behaviour

You're views don't trump other people's lived experiences Im afraid - I don't appreciate the suggestion that I'm lying

ForWittyTealOP · 21/02/2026 11:35

Moonshadowmoon · 21/02/2026 11:34

I’m not angry you describe yourself as educated and intelligent, but most of us are educated wouldn’t be having this conversation if we couldn’t write. And calling yourself intelligent is a little braggy I’d say the same about a man

I am intelligent. Why shouldn't I say so?
Being educated isn't solely about being able to write.

ForWittyTealOP · 21/02/2026 11:34

ForWittyTealOP · 21/02/2026 11:29

Why do you have a problem with women who are educated and intelligent describing themselves as such? Do we need to pretend that we're a bit daffy and daft or that our ability to think hasn't been honed through education? Do you demand this of men as well?
Your anger and discomfort at assertive and educated women is odd.

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This was directed to "moonshadowmoon" - think the comment I was responding to was deleted by moderators.

Moonshadowmoon · 21/02/2026 11:34

ForWittyTealOP · 21/02/2026 11:29

Why do you have a problem with women who are educated and intelligent describing themselves as such? Do we need to pretend that we're a bit daffy and daft or that our ability to think hasn't been honed through education? Do you demand this of men as well?
Your anger and discomfort at assertive and educated women is odd.

Edited

I’m not angry you describe yourself as educated and intelligent, but most of us are educated wouldn’t be having this conversation if we couldn’t write. And calling yourself intelligent is a little braggy I’d say the same about a man

ForWittyTealOP · 21/02/2026 11:32

Moonshadowmoon · 21/02/2026 11:22

I won’t be the first on here to put words in someone’s mouth, I’m neither rich or poor and I’ll vote for whatever party says it will stop this madness. As will many of my friends who are also not rich or poor, if that matters so much.

As is your right. All votes count equally, informed or otherwise.

Selenassunsetsangria · 21/02/2026 11:31

KatiePricesKnickers · 21/02/2026 11:11

@LoveHearts69 ’We need immigration’.

We need high quality immigrants who can pay for themselves.
Up to now, most of the immigrants have been low paid and are a cost to the economy.

Yes the issue is not that the country is being flooded with immigrants but the fact the country is being flooded with low level people who happen to be mmigrants.

The same with the birthrate. Decrease in accountable responsible parents and increase in low level parents.

Decades ago immigrants came to make a better life for themselves and contributed to the country. Parents had children and contributed. Now too many are taking.

Due to a rapid increase in low level people, we have a huge accountability problem.

Moonshadowmoon · 21/02/2026 11:30

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 11:26

The issue for me is - as a white person - I am never going to be abused because of the colour of my skin. I'll never know what that feels like.

As for the suggestion that Afghan males are coming to the UK to groom people - do people think that women aren't groomed or maltreated or sexually abused by white men?

Someone is a groomer because of the colour of their skin and the fact that they are fleeing oppression?

Around 7 years ago a number of refugees were given council homes in my home town - these were homes in a rough area that no one wanted to live in

The Scottish defence league turned up - they were given a police escort to and from the train station. They threw smoke bombs at us. They intimidated us - they also had their faces covered - cowards.

Shops had to close - and things are worse now.

It's always the people at the bottom who are for all the ills in society. Unemployed. Disabled - asylum seekers

You as a white person have never been abused because of the colour of your skin but you don’t speak for all white people. It’s very unusual for no one to want to live in a council home no matter how bad the area there are millions on the waiting list

ForWittyTealOP · 21/02/2026 11:29

Why do you have a problem with women who are educated and intelligent describing themselves as such? Do we need to pretend that we're a bit daffy and daft or that our ability to think hasn't been honed through education? Do you demand this of men as well?
Your anger and discomfort at assertive and educated women is odd.

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 11:26

The issue for me is - as a white person - I am never going to be abused because of the colour of my skin. I'll never know what that feels like.

As for the suggestion that Afghan males are coming to the UK to groom people - do people think that women aren't groomed or maltreated or sexually abused by white men?

Someone is a groomer because of the colour of their skin and the fact that they are fleeing oppression?

Around 7 years ago a number of refugees were given council homes in my home town - these were homes in a rough area that no one wanted to live in

The Scottish defence league turned up - they were given a police escort to and from the train station. They threw smoke bombs at us. They intimidated us - they also had their faces covered - cowards.

Shops had to close - and things are worse now.

It's always the people at the bottom who are for all the ills in society. Unemployed. Disabled - asylum seekers

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