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Are you now more likely to vote for REFORM (the party)

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Decisiondecisions · 18/02/2026 14:49

NC for this and apologies if Q already asked. My quick search yielded no result.

Reform plan to undo the reversal of 2 child cap benefit. Are you now likely (or more likely) to vote for them? There have been endless threads about the welfare bill.

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scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 18:31

I also think it's relevant to say that a lot of parties make promises pre election and don't follow through. Someone else said earlier in the thread that people will vote for Reform. I'm sure they will - but when people are disillusioned with other parties - they'll vote for people who promise them things.

I completely expect to see Reform MSPs in the Scottish parliament in May because they'll pick up votes from ex Tory voters. However looking at the way they run their councils down south I don't really have much faith

mimbleandlittlemy · 21/02/2026 18:27

Nope. Hell would freeze over first.

persephonia · 21/02/2026 18:22

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 18:09

Pretty sure babies were abused on Epstein Island if you read some of the comments on one of the Prince Andrew threads

Quite possibly. However, even if you only limit the discussion to the survivors that have come forward, you are still talking about children. There is of course the further problem that to come forward as a survivor you have to have... survived.

On the topic of grooming gangs, one thing I find super dark is how cases like Cyntoia Brown are just... Accepted in the US. It is a really good thing that she was granted clemency for murder, but the wider discussion still feels a bit like "these things just happen". There is a huge problem in the US of particularly African American girls being seen as older/more streetwise/more capable of consent than they are. And the same pattern of underage, usually vulnerable, teenage girls being groomed into sex work by their boyfriends. It's almost a running joke/stereotype about "ghetto" female behaviour. And it's seen as them choosing their lifestyle. Basically I think attitudes towards grooming in America are about 25 years behind attitudes towards grooming in the UK but none of the US commentators who talk about the UK grooming scandal really care. Because the perpetrators aren't Muslim. And they view the girls the same way that the UK authorities viewed white working class girls.

This isn't relevant to Reform of course. Except that many of Farage's backers are from those same US right wing circles and he is often talking partly to them in his messaging. Within the UK I want us to focus on UK CSE because that's what we can fix (can't do much about American law). But I think US people focusing on bad things Muslims have done in the UK makes it easier for them to ignore bad things happening in America. And given the amount of politicians/public figures caught with prostitutes over the years maybe that's deliberate.

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 18:15

yellowspanner · 21/02/2026 17:38

Reform have never said that they will ban abortion and I see tax breaks for families with children as a positive thing. It's better than extra UC for families with children as it incentivises work which I agree with.
And it took a Reform court case to make this govt. realise that cancelling elections was illegal. It seems the ex DPP doesn't know the law.

If you think taking money from people on UC gives them an incentive to get a job - maybe you've never been on it. Both times I was on UC and the bare bones of it - ranging from 317 to 400 quid a month I ended up suffering from depression. I'm not in the situation where I have kids so the two child cap doesn't apply to me but being on UC isn't the easy ride for a lot of people that folk think it is

It took hundreds of job applications for me to get a job offer that wasn't just zero hours which I was doing - one that I then couldn't take - and I'm very well qualified.

The poor, the sick, refugees, the disabled - asylum seekers all seem to be in the firing line of more than one party - not just Reform

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 18:09

persephonia · 21/02/2026 17:50

Its also awful because "the girls were influenced by financial gain" could just as easily be "the girls were influenced by the chance to get alcohol or cigarettes or takeaways". They were, in both cases CHILDREN being abused. As you say, that's how grooming is.

At the time it was dismissed by some in this way (including by the men committing the crimes but also by the police etc). And the same attitude was quite common. I can remember over 20 years ago when I was 15 my mum and uncle were discussing a photographer (white) who had been done for having sex with minors and my uncle said something along the lines of "oh, it'll be some 14 year olds who knew what they were doing but thought they would get fame out of it but then cried rape later when they didn't get to be famous models" and my mum agreed. 15 year old feminist me was outraged. But the point was it was a fairly common attitude that some girls were asking for it/streetwise and that fed into the official response to children being groomed.

I thought at least one positive change was that it is seen differently now. But I think for some people ithe grooming gangs abuse was ONLY bad because the perpetrators were brown. And worse than that there is a really concerted effort to draw a sharp line around the grooming gangs as the "bad type of child abuse" and basically push attitudes back to where they were. I don't know if it's subconscious or deliberate but it's definitely happening. I think some people aren't happy with the idea that no child is able to consent to sex.

Pretty sure babies were abused on Epstein Island if you read some of the comments on one of the Prince Andrew threads

persephonia · 21/02/2026 18:02

pointythings · 21/02/2026 17:41

That would be called 'grooming'. Aside from your horrific assumption that these girls somehow deserved it and were old enough and chose it because of money, and it was therefore not as bad - many were as young as 14, there are accounts of horrific rape and torture. Why would anyone think this was somehow 'less bad'? Unless of course it's because it was white men doing it, not brown men... (Not all grooming gangs were brown, btw).

I think the "they were over 17" thing partly comes from the fact some commentators (Meghan Kelly etc) kept referring to most of the victims being "barely legal" or "a year underage". Which gives the impression most of the victims were 17. But the age of consent in the Virgin Islands where a lot of the abuse happened is 14. So what they are actually saying is that most of the victims were at least 13 or 14. And some were younger. Exactly the same age range as the child grooming gangs.
The deliberate lying from people like MK and the amount of people happy to unquestioningly perpetuate it is very sinister.

TopPocketFind · 21/02/2026 18:00

Reform candidate Matt Goodwin is accused of sexual harrassment at GB News,

Nigel Farage says "That's just Matt being Matt."

ForWittyTealOP · 21/02/2026 18:00

yellowspanner · 21/02/2026 17:38

Reform have never said that they will ban abortion and I see tax breaks for families with children as a positive thing. It's better than extra UC for families with children as it incentivises work which I agree with.
And it took a Reform court case to make this govt. realise that cancelling elections was illegal. It seems the ex DPP doesn't know the law.

You only have to look at similar parties/governments across the globe to see that the hard and far right have abortion in their sights. It would be incredibly foolish to believe that a Reform government whose leader has string links to other far right politicians would leave abortion (or any other women's rights) alone. And Reform voters might want to turn a blind eye to the dangers but their actions will impact everyone.

What on earth makes you think that (a) postponing (not cancelling) the local elections was illegal and (b) that it took Reform to make the government realise that? Do you seriously believe that Starmer doesn't know the law or, indeed that he makes legal decisions unilaterally as PM? Do you actually have the ghost of an idea how government and Parliament operate?

persephonia · 21/02/2026 17:57

Selenassunsetsangria · 21/02/2026 17:49

No where did I say they deserve it, abuse is abuse. I was attempting to explain the rationale how victims end up in that situation.

From what I have read, the rape gang victims were literally dragged off the streets to be tortured.

The other were manipulated and coerced.

Then you haven't read much. The most common pattern for the rape gang victims was that they were identified as vulnerable, befriended by one or a few of the men often under the pretense that one of the men was their "boyfriend", lured in to relationships through affection(these were often children who had had not had enough of this in their lives) and alcohol and drugs. They were then coerced into having sex with other men and the rape and torture escalated as a way of keeping them under control.

The lack of understanding - that rape and sexual exploitation only happens when someone is "literally dragged of the street" is exactly how the grooming gangs were able to operate unchecked for so long. Because girls appearing to willingly go of with those men made them seem like not real victims. It's very disturbing to see those exact same myths perpetuated all over again by people who claim to care about child abuse. You can hold whatever views on Muslims you want. Be as racist as you want. But it would be nice if you could do that without spreading regressive lies about what "real" child abuse looks like.

TopPocketFind · 21/02/2026 17:52

yellowspanner · 21/02/2026 17:38

Reform have never said that they will ban abortion and I see tax breaks for families with children as a positive thing. It's better than extra UC for families with children as it incentivises work which I agree with.
And it took a Reform court case to make this govt. realise that cancelling elections was illegal. It seems the ex DPP doesn't know the law.

They platform anti abortionists, as well as anti vaccine promoters

persephonia · 21/02/2026 17:50

pointythings · 21/02/2026 17:41

That would be called 'grooming'. Aside from your horrific assumption that these girls somehow deserved it and were old enough and chose it because of money, and it was therefore not as bad - many were as young as 14, there are accounts of horrific rape and torture. Why would anyone think this was somehow 'less bad'? Unless of course it's because it was white men doing it, not brown men... (Not all grooming gangs were brown, btw).

Its also awful because "the girls were influenced by financial gain" could just as easily be "the girls were influenced by the chance to get alcohol or cigarettes or takeaways". They were, in both cases CHILDREN being abused. As you say, that's how grooming is.

At the time it was dismissed by some in this way (including by the men committing the crimes but also by the police etc). And the same attitude was quite common. I can remember over 20 years ago when I was 15 my mum and uncle were discussing a photographer (white) who had been done for having sex with minors and my uncle said something along the lines of "oh, it'll be some 14 year olds who knew what they were doing but thought they would get fame out of it but then cried rape later when they didn't get to be famous models" and my mum agreed. 15 year old feminist me was outraged. But the point was it was a fairly common attitude that some girls were asking for it/streetwise and that fed into the official response to children being groomed.

I thought at least one positive change was that it is seen differently now. But I think for some people ithe grooming gangs abuse was ONLY bad because the perpetrators were brown. And worse than that there is a really concerted effort to draw a sharp line around the grooming gangs as the "bad type of child abuse" and basically push attitudes back to where they were. I don't know if it's subconscious or deliberate but it's definitely happening. I think some people aren't happy with the idea that no child is able to consent to sex.

Selenassunsetsangria · 21/02/2026 17:49

pointythings · 21/02/2026 17:41

That would be called 'grooming'. Aside from your horrific assumption that these girls somehow deserved it and were old enough and chose it because of money, and it was therefore not as bad - many were as young as 14, there are accounts of horrific rape and torture. Why would anyone think this was somehow 'less bad'? Unless of course it's because it was white men doing it, not brown men... (Not all grooming gangs were brown, btw).

No where did I say they deserve it, abuse is abuse. I was attempting to explain the rationale how victims end up in that situation.

From what I have read, the rape gang victims were literally dragged off the streets to be tortured.

The other were manipulated and coerced.

pointythings · 21/02/2026 17:41

Selenassunsetsangria · 21/02/2026 17:32

They need to be held to account.

Rape gang victims were younger and had no choice. The others were influenced by financial gain.

That would be called 'grooming'. Aside from your horrific assumption that these girls somehow deserved it and were old enough and chose it because of money, and it was therefore not as bad - many were as young as 14, there are accounts of horrific rape and torture. Why would anyone think this was somehow 'less bad'? Unless of course it's because it was white men doing it, not brown men... (Not all grooming gangs were brown, btw).

yellowspanner · 21/02/2026 17:38

ForWittyTealOP · 20/02/2026 11:47

All good with abortion rights being stripped away then?
As I said, it's generally people who aren't that good at thinking in the long term who agree with the two child benefit cap. I wonder what a venn diagram would look like there?

Reform have never said that they will ban abortion and I see tax breaks for families with children as a positive thing. It's better than extra UC for families with children as it incentivises work which I agree with.
And it took a Reform court case to make this govt. realise that cancelling elections was illegal. It seems the ex DPP doesn't know the law.

persephonia · 21/02/2026 17:35

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 17:28

The victims were not all over 17 if you are talking about Epstein.

It's amazing whataboutery anyway.
Some people did this when the grooming gangs scandal was breaking - "what about Catholic priests etc". Now a surprising number of online "influencers" and anonymous web posters are trying to do the same thing for the Epstein files.

All child abuse is bad. If someone is trying to handwave Epstein away because he wasn't a Muslim and therefore it doesn't matter as much that says a lot about them.

Some of the girls were as young as 11/12/14 when they were first groomed. In many cases that abuse continued for years (or was perpetuated by other men). Once they reached the age of 17 it didn't make it OK. That's exactly the same as Epstein's MO. It's not somehow better because the abusive man wasn't brown. And while South Asian men were overrepresented in the grooming gangs relevant to their number in the total population, they still made up less than 50% of grooming gangs perpetrators. The people insisting that we need to only concentrate on the grooming gangs cases that involve South Asian men need their hard drives checking frankly.
And of course, grooming gangs is only one specific type of child sexual exploitation. The people trying to detail every other effort to address CSE because it doesn't involve Muslim grooming gangs again need their hard drives checking.

Selenassunsetsangria · 21/02/2026 17:34

None of the rape gang victims were paid off. Never mind being offered millions.

Selenassunsetsangria · 21/02/2026 17:32

LoveHearts69 · 21/02/2026 17:29

Yet the rich white men named numerous times in the Epstein files who have trafficked, raped, killed and done all sorts of horrific things to children are still free to run countries all in the name of privilege.

They need to be held to account.

Rape gang victims were younger and had no choice. The others were influenced by financial gain.

Sirzy · 21/02/2026 17:30

Selenassunsetsangria · 21/02/2026 17:25

Low priority dragging their feet over an enquiry.

Uproar over Prince Andrew yet the victims were over 17 and gained financially.

Rape gang victims were as young as 11 suffered unbelievable torture and the gangs specifically targeted non Muslim girls and white.

Both are awful. Why try to compare?

all it does is show sexual assault isn’t restricted to any enthnicity or walk of life. There are awful men across society.

LoveHearts69 · 21/02/2026 17:29

Selenassunsetsangria · 21/02/2026 17:13

Not racist. Also I would say anyone who condones the rape gangs are the worse kind of child haters.

Yet the rich white men named numerous times in the Epstein files who have trafficked, raped, killed and done all sorts of horrific things to children are still free to run countries all in the name of privilege.

scottishgirl69 · 21/02/2026 17:28

Selenassunsetsangria · 21/02/2026 17:25

Low priority dragging their feet over an enquiry.

Uproar over Prince Andrew yet the victims were over 17 and gained financially.

Rape gang victims were as young as 11 suffered unbelievable torture and the gangs specifically targeted non Muslim girls and white.

The victims were not all over 17 if you are talking about Epstein.

Selenassunsetsangria · 21/02/2026 17:25

Sirzy · 21/02/2026 17:19

Who has condoned them?

Low priority dragging their feet over an enquiry.

Uproar over Prince Andrew yet the victims were over 17 and gained financially.

Rape gang victims were as young as 11 suffered unbelievable torture and the gangs specifically targeted non Muslim girls and white.

LoveHearts69 · 21/02/2026 17:22

2dogsandabudgie · 21/02/2026 15:06

Well if you think that's not true then don't assume that right wing voters are racist because that's not true either.

I mean we’ve asked about other Reform policies and @Moonshadowmoon admits she doesn’t know and hasn’t read any of them but is purely voting for Reform because she wants Afghan men out.

Why else would you vote to surrender your equality, human rights, NHS, and help to line the pockets of the elite if it wasn’t for their views on getting all brown people out?

BlueJuniper94 · 21/02/2026 17:21

Sirzy · 21/02/2026 17:19

Who has condoned them?

The authorities who turned a blind eye

Sirzy · 21/02/2026 17:19

Selenassunsetsangria · 21/02/2026 17:13

Not racist. Also I would say anyone who condones the rape gangs are the worse kind of child haters.

Who has condoned them?

SaturdayFive · 21/02/2026 17:19

The more I hear about their policies, the less likely to vote for them I become.
Womens' rights, workers' rights, the NHS, working from home even, all in the firing line. Tax hikes for women without children. A return to "Christian values" that doesn't include caring for the poor?
Why any "normal" person would run towards this is a mystery.