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“Everybody thought the EU was about people coming into the country … no-one told of us the benefits”.

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MrsMurphyIWish · 18/02/2026 07:00

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cm2136jnjx1o

And the response to this very now deprived community is to vote Reform.

“Brexit has removed a key source of funding, which the area desperately needs. County Durham received £154m of EU funding between 2014 and 2020, about £22m a year. Since the UK left the European Union, it receives about half that amount, £12m annually, under the UK Shared Prosperity Fund.”

The story is sad (and typical of deprived areas - I know, I live in one). Towns feeling forgotten and never recovering from closed industry but why can they not see history will repeat itself?

A row of red-brick houses with almost every window and door boarded up

Inside Horden, the County Durham town failed by politics

In Horden, County Durham, Westminster slogans have long been left unmet as the population has plummeted.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cm2136jnjx1o

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blooooooor · 19/02/2026 08:32

I’m sorry, but most average citizens could not realistically be expected to fully understand the implications of such a massive and complex overhaul as Brexit. There were countless technicalities that were never clearly communicated; many people wouldn’t even think to look for them, and others simply wouldn’t understand the legal jargon involved. Given all this, I’m honestly not surprised that when people were promised the moon on a stick, they rushed to vote “out”, convinced it would magically solve their problems.

Issues of this scale, whether the UK should or shouldn’t remain in the EU, should never have been decided by a referendum. The consequences were simply too complex, too technical, and too far-reaching to be reduced to a simplistic yes-or-no question.

Recently, while buying a piece of jewellery, and a casual conversation in the shop about jewellery, stones etc. led us to mention Angola, as my husband was about to travel there for work the conversation just flowed naturally. The sales assistant then asked us where Angola was😬 And we’re supposed to believe that people with such limited awareness were equipped to make an informed decision on something of this magnitude? Sorry, but I have very little sympathy…

Boolabus · 19/02/2026 08:31

Thechaseison71 · 19/02/2026 08:21

This is what also got on a lot of people's nerves.

To have a referendum to stay in the EEC which most people agreed to. Yet the government behind our back went full flung into being EU which is a totally different kettle of fish, without so much as a by your leave to people of the country.

It's like going a golf club then being told you have to play tennis as well

But that is how your democracy is set up! You are a constitutional monarchy not a republic so if that is a big issue, maybe it is time to call for a republic where in most systems a referendum is needed to make any changes to the constitution there is no such requirement in the UK

Alexandra2001 · 19/02/2026 08:28

Imdunfer · 19/02/2026 08:09

The Dublin agreement is always trumpeted in these discussions.

According to wiki it wasn't that helpful. One of several issues mentioned:

  • Low Transfer Rates: For the UK, only about 7% of outgoing requests resulted in a successful transfer to another member state between 2015 and 2018.

Yet pro Rwanda supporters say that just the threat of being sent to Rwanda would be good enough to stop people coming here....

The bottom line is that x channel migration only became an issue once we left the EU... not before.... wonder why? channel got narrower shallower perhaps...

NormasArse · 19/02/2026 08:27

Why are people forgetting that Farage was a key player in Brexit? The country was misled by his falsehoods, and are repeating that mistake. I just don’t get it.

Alexandra2001 · 19/02/2026 08:24

Thechaseison71 · 19/02/2026 08:21

This is what also got on a lot of people's nerves.

To have a referendum to stay in the EEC which most people agreed to. Yet the government behind our back went full flung into being EU which is a totally different kettle of fish, without so much as a by your leave to people of the country.

It's like going a golf club then being told you have to play tennis as well

We had several General Elections during that time period, including being able to vote for UKIP/Farage, yet no one did or very few.

Pro EU parties were given huge majorities

Thechaseison71 · 19/02/2026 08:21

Boolabus · 19/02/2026 08:13

She agreed with joining the European economic community , but she would not have agreed with joining the political union that it morphed into without any of us having any say about that.

The fact that the British public did not vote in referendums on major EU treaty amendments (such as Maastricht, Amsterdam, Nice, or Lisbon) is not to do with the EU these were ratified by Parliament in Britain. Many other european nations needed referendums to ratify them. Your statement makes it sound like your country had no say in it which is completely untrue.

This is what also got on a lot of people's nerves.

To have a referendum to stay in the EEC which most people agreed to. Yet the government behind our back went full flung into being EU which is a totally different kettle of fish, without so much as a by your leave to people of the country.

It's like going a golf club then being told you have to play tennis as well

Boolabus · 19/02/2026 08:13

Imdunfer · 18/02/2026 19:30

She agreed with joining the European economic community , but she would not have agreed with joining the political union that it morphed into without any of us having any say about that.

Do people remember the fight over agreeing the Maastricht treaty?

Does anyone know that the EU is now double borrowed against the same assets? Each county has is own eye watering national debt borrowed against its own ability to pay the interest. But on top of that the European Central Bank has borrowed again against those same countries abilities to pay the interest.

God help the EU when the first lender to either one of those countries (France being top
of that list) or the ECB, decides they want their capital back and nobody else wants to buy it).

She agreed with joining the European economic community , but she would not have agreed with joining the political union that it morphed into without any of us having any say about that.

The fact that the British public did not vote in referendums on major EU treaty amendments (such as Maastricht, Amsterdam, Nice, or Lisbon) is not to do with the EU these were ratified by Parliament in Britain. Many other european nations needed referendums to ratify them. Your statement makes it sound like your country had no say in it which is completely untrue.

Imdunfer · 19/02/2026 08:09

The Dublin agreement is always trumpeted in these discussions.

According to wiki it wasn't that helpful. One of several issues mentioned:

  • Low Transfer Rates: For the UK, only about 7% of outgoing requests resulted in a successful transfer to another member state between 2015 and 2018.
Alexandra2001 · 19/02/2026 08:03

CaptainMyCaptain · 19/02/2026 07:25

Why do you think migrants didn't cross the channel in boats pre 2020?

Because they were hiding in lorries or hanging underneath trains snd coming through the tunnel for one thing. That route was made more difficult so they found an alternative that was harder to police.

Simply not true, lorry numbers peaked in 2002, at around 25,000 pa, due to agreements reached with the French ie UK border control in France and the wider EU, this is also when hi tech was bought in, making, as you say, a lot harder to do.

So for some 18 years, migrants and traffickers never thought to use the channel?

The truth is, once we left the EU and rights to return migrants, we became easy pickings, coupled with the French doubtless having no real reason to stop.

Don't you think its rather odd that the rapid increase in x ch boats coincided with the UK officially leaving the EU in 2020 ?

Skybunnee · 19/02/2026 07:42

Looked up what my Eu mp was doing in the EU Gov just before polling day (of course I didn’t even know who they were like most people) they were a group of snp having meetings one a day about meetings - none of which ended with a decision just a meeting - paid for and their accomm and flights and good pay generously funded by my tax - for nothing as far as I could see -oh and I was also funding MPs in London and MSPs in Scotland and the House of Lords -and all that growing numbers generous pensions -and I’m in a deprive area still going slowly down hill. Why would I vote for them it would be silly -we already have too much government.

Needlenardlenoo · 19/02/2026 07:25

KimberleyClark · 19/02/2026 07:00

He didn’t argue passionately enough for Remaining though for fear of alienating his party. We are in this situation because Cameron put party ahead of country. And Corbyn was an absolute disgrace.

My point yesterday about the 1975 leaflets was if you think you've got a strong case, you're not threatened by discussion of counter points. And in 1975 it came out 2:1 remain:leave (albeit overall not a majority if voters who didn't participate are included - just like in 2016).

CaptainMyCaptain · 19/02/2026 07:25

Why do you think migrants didn't cross the channel in boats pre 2020?

Because they were hiding in lorries or hanging underneath trains snd coming through the tunnel for one thing. That route was made more difficult so they found an alternative that was harder to police.

Imdunfer · 19/02/2026 07:24

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 19/02/2026 01:08

It isn't about raw numbers, it is about purchasing power. Costs have gone up across the board, and a vast amount of money is spent on servicing our debt interest - a lot of which links back to covid and all of the support measures that were implemented during the pandemic. That isn't the fault of Brexit of course, but it would have been easier to pay for it if the overall economy had grown as economists think it would have had we stayed.

I'm not sure where exactly you think all the extra money has gone or what these other government priorities might be. ..it isn't as if anything in the country is well resourced any more. But we are paying billions in interest on our national debt.

I haven't mentioned any "extra money".

"We might have had more of we hadn't had "Brexit" isn't the point.

If poorer areas are getting less after leaving the EU it is simply because our goverment has other priorities for spending what money we have than the EU had.

KimberleyClark · 19/02/2026 07:00

caringcarer · 19/02/2026 03:07

I recall David Cameron sending out leaflets extolling the virtues of staying in the EU before Brexit referendum.

He didn’t argue passionately enough for Remaining though for fear of alienating his party. We are in this situation because Cameron put party ahead of country. And Corbyn was an absolute disgrace.

KimberleyClark · 19/02/2026 06:58

Someone I know had a property in Spain and had plans to retire there. Still voted for Brexit. That’s just being thick.

Wales voted for Brexit in the most deprived areas despite benefitting hugely from EU funding. There is no way the Welsh Parliament can make up for that funding loss.

Alexandra2001 · 19/02/2026 06:26

Winter2020 · 18/02/2026 13:12

A lot of "we" didn't. A lot of "we" voted to control our borders. You might have supported this but a lot of the population did not as evidenced by the Brexit vote and the rise of Reform - and the fact that any political party not talking about reducing immigration now is making themselves unelectable.

I didn't say migrants given EU citizenship would "all" come here. I said if they wanted to then (without Brexit) they would be free to come here under free movement. Which they would.

Its fairly obvious, if you read the post, i was referring to the UK.

On Reform, 24% of the vote atm?? so 3/4 don't support the far right.

We have carried on taking HCPs from any country that will allow us to do so, we voted back in, Govt s that did this, we are still doing it.

Net migration might well be lower but thats in no small measure to people leaving, inc around 70,000 EU citizens last year, the UK is no longer quite so attractive to our European neighbours as it once was or you think it still is.

A migrant from Somalia is going to take many years to obtain EU citizenship, if he/she ever does.

Why do you think migrants didn't cross the channel in boats pre 2020?

caringcarer · 19/02/2026 03:07

I recall David Cameron sending out leaflets extolling the virtues of staying in the EU before Brexit referendum.

Strngerthings · 19/02/2026 01:47

@MrsMurphyIWish everyone had google or wikipedia or books from the library etc

MaidOfSteel · 19/02/2026 01:46

MrsMurphyIWish · 18/02/2026 07:08

Absolutely and time can not be reversed. However it’s the same ideology. In this community Brexit was seen as a solution to their deprivation, now Reform is and these decisions are being made based on social media slogans and not research.

I’m from a very deprived part of the north-east. All we’ve ever known, really, is being let down by successive governments. The decline started in the late 70s and now it’s getting harder & harder to access the few public services that are left. I don’t like Reform at all and know they don’t have all the answers, but I think I can understand the draw to some people; they’re talking about the things that people in these areas are experiencing and, simply, Reform are something different to try. All the other parties have done next to nothing for them, so why not.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 19/02/2026 01:08

Imdunfer · 18/02/2026 21:17

Our GDP is not smaller than it was at Brexit, it is smaller than some people think that it might have been if we had not Brexited (in spite of the fact that other major EU countries are in worse economic positions).,

There is no reason for smaller than previous regional payments than that our own elected government has other priorities for the money.

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It isn't about raw numbers, it is about purchasing power. Costs have gone up across the board, and a vast amount of money is spent on servicing our debt interest - a lot of which links back to covid and all of the support measures that were implemented during the pandemic. That isn't the fault of Brexit of course, but it would have been easier to pay for it if the overall economy had grown as economists think it would have had we stayed.

I'm not sure where exactly you think all the extra money has gone or what these other government priorities might be. ..it isn't as if anything in the country is well resourced any more. But we are paying billions in interest on our national debt.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 19/02/2026 00:55

Imdunfer · 18/02/2026 21:19

The Remain campaign did highlight many of the issues that subsequently transpired, including the hit to the economy, the Northern Ireland issues

I learned about the NI issues from posters on another forum, I have no recollection of it featuring in the Remain campaign.

Your poor memory and/or lack of engagement during the referendum campaign doesn't mean that the issue wasn't highlighted at the time. It was.

Imdunfer · 18/02/2026 21:20

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 18/02/2026 21:03

That argument would stand up if the economy as a whole hadn't been negatively affected by Brexit.

But if the overall pie is significantly smaller, then people will inevitably get smaller slices of pie.

It isn't smaller. It's smaller than some people think it might have been without Brexit.

Imdunfer · 18/02/2026 21:19

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 18/02/2026 21:08

The Remain campaign did highlight many of the issues that subsequently transpired, including the hit to the economy, the Northern Ireland issues and the increased barriers to travel.

The problem wasn't that people weren't warned, it was that they put their fingers in their ears and chose not to listen.

The Remain campaign was undoubtedly too complacent. They were operating from the assumption that the electorate wouldn't be stupid enough to vote for Brexit, and obviously that was wrong. But it absolutely isn't true to say that the big issues weren't talked about

Unfortunately, Michael Gove told people that they had had enough of experts and they chose to believe him.

The Remain campaign did highlight many of the issues that subsequently transpired, including the hit to the economy, the Northern Ireland issues

I learned about the NI issues from posters on another forum, I have no recollection of it featuring in the Remain campaign.

Imdunfer · 18/02/2026 21:17

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 18/02/2026 21:03

That argument would stand up if the economy as a whole hadn't been negatively affected by Brexit.

But if the overall pie is significantly smaller, then people will inevitably get smaller slices of pie.

Our GDP is not smaller than it was at Brexit, it is smaller than some people think that it might have been if we had not Brexited (in spite of the fact that other major EU countries are in worse economic positions).,

There is no reason for smaller than previous regional payments than that our own elected government has other priorities for the money.

Needlenardlenoo · 18/02/2026 21:10

The message might have been correct but it was coming from people they distrusted.