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“Everybody thought the EU was about people coming into the country … no-one told of us the benefits”.

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MrsMurphyIWish · 18/02/2026 07:00

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cm2136jnjx1o

And the response to this very now deprived community is to vote Reform.

“Brexit has removed a key source of funding, which the area desperately needs. County Durham received £154m of EU funding between 2014 and 2020, about £22m a year. Since the UK left the European Union, it receives about half that amount, £12m annually, under the UK Shared Prosperity Fund.”

The story is sad (and typical of deprived areas - I know, I live in one). Towns feeling forgotten and never recovering from closed industry but why can they not see history will repeat itself?

A row of red-brick houses with almost every window and door boarded up

Inside Horden, the County Durham town failed by politics

In Horden, County Durham, Westminster slogans have long been left unmet as the population has plummeted.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cm2136jnjx1o

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sleepwouldbenice · 19/02/2026 22:23

Petrolitis · 19/02/2026 20:26

Quite.

Let Farage fool you once, shame on him. Let's him fool you twice, shame on you.

It will be 3 times. They have a reform council....

sleepwouldbenice · 19/02/2026 22:22

Imdunfer · 19/02/2026 19:14

Paying interest on our eye watering debt?

But it was promised to the nhs!! Its almost as though it was...bull

Petrolitis · 19/02/2026 20:26

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 18/02/2026 07:25

It is obviously not true to say that people weren't warned about what they would stand to lose through Brexit. Those warnings were commonly dismissed as Project Fear at the time. Turns out that they'd have been right to be fearful. No surprises there.

What is surprising is that they're willing to put their faith in Farage again, even after he sold them a bucket full of lies during the referendum campaign.

I had huge sympathy for these communities previously, but my sympathy starts to wane when they don't learn from their mistakes. People might be forgiven for being taken in by Farage once, but twice? I'm starting to feel like those who vote him in will deserve their fate.

Quite.

Let Farage fool you once, shame on him. Let's him fool you twice, shame on you.

Hereforthecommentz · 19/02/2026 20:10

I think you need to take your rose tinted spectacles off. The EU is not doing well. Loads of countries in the EU now have right wing parties in charge, Italy, Finland, Slovakia, Hungary, Croatia, Czech Republic, Netherlands. France and Germany have a huge growth in their right wing parties. The European Union countries are not doing well economically. We can control our borders but no one has the arsehole to do it. Farage is old news. Restore Britain are the party that actually will do something if it is migration you care about. Plenty of areas do get funding, my city does from the levelling up fund. Blaming everything on brexit is nonsense. That shitshow covid hasn't helped the economy either. Instead of looking back and talking down our economy politicians need to get their arse in gear and look forward. We need young people to learn trades. They should also actually employ our British Dr's and nurses once qualified instead of opting to employ oversees nationals. Past posters have been correct that we have an ageing population and having to pay triple lock pensions and social care is crippling. That's got f all to do with leaving the EU. Instead of crying about a decision to take back control we need to actually have a party in that is going to make proper changes.

Imdunfer · 19/02/2026 19:41

It's still eye watering even after a reduction!

We have borrowed and borrowed and borrowed since Brexit (but not related to Brexit, much of it because of Covid and because of failing to reduce public spending back to pre Covid levels once Covid was over).

The £350m bus money, which was the question, is more than swallowed up by that.

It's not actually relevant to that fact that debt interest percentage payments will be reducing because inflation is falling. The amount being paid remains eye watering and swamps the spending on several government departments, like double what we spend on defence.

Thechaseison71 · 19/02/2026 19:41

Darkmark · 19/02/2026 19:35

Education is free up till the age of 18. Government subsidies are available for college courses. Night schools or lucrative night-shifts are always there (see the Post Office, local hospitals). Learning a language can be done virtually free of charge, with internet resources. Professional qualficiations could be studied for around a schedule. Excuses again.

This is a free market, and it's not on the person to feel wanted enough to get a job. It's on them to prove their worth in order to get a job.

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So explain workplaces that only advertise abroad? That shouldn't be allowed but does happen. I remember a friend of mine who was a foreman in a factory. Every time they needed staff they advertised in Poland written in polish language. In the end all the staff were polish and never spoke English in work which made it difficult for him and he only spoke English and Punjabi.

Or Basildon council when they were fitting people's kitchens . Sent out letters says the operatives were unlikely to speak English. They'd recruited them from Bulgaria.

No reason why local people couldn't do these jobs

Darkmark · 19/02/2026 19:35

WaryCrow · 19/02/2026 18:33

Nor do you have a clue how difficult it is to gain skills in a system that makes it clear every day that you are not wanted: that anyone from around the world is wanted first.

Education is free up till the age of 18. Government subsidies are available for college courses. Night schools or lucrative night-shifts are always there (see the Post Office, local hospitals). Learning a language can be done virtually free of charge, with internet resources. Professional qualficiations could be studied for around a schedule. Excuses again.

This is a free market, and it's not on the person to feel wanted enough to get a job. It's on them to prove their worth in order to get a job.

Darkmark · 19/02/2026 19:29

WaryCrow · 19/02/2026 18:31

As dutiful slaves, everyone should just be working for the benefit of our lords and masters (all male incidentally, you aren’t really doing yourself many favours either)?

Go away.

There has to be rewards, just as there has to be a framework for consent and legitimacy in a government and indeed the whole system. The alternative is slavery and force.

If that is what our government, and again, the entire system, wants, then I challenge all involved to openly say so.

No - people should be working for the good of their country and society generally. They can then start to pay taxes, and contribute to amenities and the economy. Which in turn will benefit themselves in the long run.

You seem full of excuses. If immigrants who may speak English as a 2nd language, can find jobs - you do have to have the skills and actually apply to get a job - then so can the 40-something Dunelmian (disabilities accounted for).

Slavery is a ridiculous comparison. Employment means money, which means food and lodging, which means economic freedom, which leads to wider opportunities. You could argue that those who are wilfully long-term unemployed are slaves to the state, dependent on its crumbs.

Imdunfer · 19/02/2026 19:14

sleepwouldbenice · 19/02/2026 19:02

Aaah all that money that went to the nhs you mean? Where on earth did that go?

Paying interest on our eye watering debt?

sleepwouldbenice · 19/02/2026 19:02

NarnianQueen · 19/02/2026 18:05

Do role not realise that “EU funding” is money that originated in the UK? And was paid as our dues for membership?
It’s note being siphoned off somewhere else but we haven’t actually had a net loss!

Aaah all that money that went to the nhs you mean? Where on earth did that go?

WaryCrow · 19/02/2026 18:33

Nor do you have a clue how difficult it is to gain skills in a system that makes it clear every day that you are not wanted: that anyone from around the world is wanted first.

WaryCrow · 19/02/2026 18:31

Darkmark · 19/02/2026 14:33

(In response to your original response to Nomas). Do you really think people who throw eggs at others would be the type to get social care jobs? Who deserve those jobs?

No one is entitled to a job. If locals had shown signs of upskilling or retraining into these sectors they wouldn't have needed to find these workers from further afield.

Also adults aren't children. They shouldn't need to be shown there are rewards for working. They should simply be working. The locals got complacent.

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As dutiful slaves, everyone should just be working for the benefit of our lords and masters (all male incidentally, you aren’t really doing yourself many favours either)?

Go away.

There has to be rewards, just as there has to be a framework for consent and legitimacy in a government and indeed the whole system. The alternative is slavery and force.

If that is what our government, and again, the entire system, wants, then I challenge all involved to openly say so.

SerendipityJane · 19/02/2026 18:10

Alexandra2001 · 19/02/2026 17:06

People had from 1993 onwards, the anti EU UKIP to vote for & also the Referendum Party until 1997.

I'm not sure why you cannot grasp these facts, then again, i'm not.

If your engagement in politics only extends as far as whining and perhaps randomly putting a cross in a box when you can be bothered, then maybe your views on democracy are rather limited.

NarnianQueen · 19/02/2026 18:05

Do role not realise that “EU funding” is money that originated in the UK? And was paid as our dues for membership?
It’s note being siphoned off somewhere else but we haven’t actually had a net loss!

Imdunfer · 19/02/2026 17:59

Needlenardlenoo · 19/02/2026 12:15

I have done some reading on this and the economy does gain from immigration, but in terms of the people in it, there are winners and losers.

So it can absolutely be true that the economy gained but individuals and groups lost out.

It's evident from the article. What benefit of growth in London and the SE accrues to the remote area? Not much apart from national health and education systems (that didn't keep up with growth anyway) and er, a new rail station - so they can leave the area quicker?!

Your points are well made but I want to add to this one.

I have done some reading on this and the economy does gain from immigration, but in terms of the people in it, there are winners and losers.

I find on these discussion that people consistently refuse to segment the immigrant base. Not all immigrants are equal in economic contribution.

The studies I have seen ignore the fact that there will be a percentage of immigrants who are a net drain on the economy and that the economy would benefit from them not being allowed to be here. They also seem to calculate the economic benefits as growth in GDP, when the measure of whether people are any better off is GDP percent head.

There are other aspects to this as well. I am sure that my brother's sizeable second hand vehicle business wasn't alone during the free movement years in finding it far more cost effective to employ a fully trained Polish mechanic than to train up a young British person. And Costa would have been mad to employ wet behind the ears school leavers or hassled returned mothers when they could just take on a bilingual Spaniard.

So opportunities for the young and less skilled were reduced by free movement.

Of course immigration was and remains essential, but it does need better control than free movement or the fiasco with which Boris replaced it.

Dweetfidilove · 19/02/2026 17:46

trappedCatAsleepOnMe · 18/02/2026 10:15

I still don’t understand how people who were taken in by Brexit promises, who now concede they were “lied” to are prepared to do the same again.

They feel them and their area have been left behind - social mobility done nothing but go down in last few decades - they want a decent life for them and their kids.

I personally don't think Reform are a serious party- but these people are fed up at being ignored and fed up they lives keep getting harder.

Instead of blaming the electorate and calling them thick why are the other poltcial parties getting in their with polices selling themsleves with a view to imporving those areas?

Thing is I strongly suspect I know why - as social moblity has declined more poltcians and their advisors come from a very narrow social economic strata and from same edcuational backgrounds and increasingly little to connect them with these communities - they haven't come up through trade unions or even churches ( more US in recent past ) many go straight from uni to political jobs - and areas become more disjointed not like they even have the links old noblity had with their workers in those areas. Instead of thinking how can we reach these voters they increaingly seem to sneer at them and look down and then act surpirsed those voters vote for people who at least appear to talk to them notice they exist.

It's not just poltcian acting another area - media more general from news to publishing - the doors in if you aren't from certain group/class have in last decades started to close - people there come from an ever narrower group and have little contact with other groups and then start to look down on those groups when they don't behave or think in the same way.

Question- I agree with much of what you say has happened to these communities and I understand they want change...

They voted Brexit (championed by good ol Nigel) and we're shat on.
They then turned around and lent Boris their votes to 'finish Brexit', which screwed them even more.
Post Brexit, the Tories opened the floodgates and let more immigrants in...
In Austerity Britain we watched millionaires get richer than ever...
During Covid they fleeced us a bit more.

ALL VERY HIGHLY PUBLICISED, so wherever you get your news, you couldn't miss any of this happening.

Now, instead of acknowledging these politicians are not on their side, they dig themselves further into a hole of letting the same politicians tell them that their neighbours (usually in the same financial and social position as them), are the source of their problems.

Now Reform comes with a new wave of brainwashing, supported by the billionaire Elon who has never contributed a penny to them or their community, and they discover they have the power to 'effect change'... so what they use that power to do, is consume more hate and obvious nonsense and go to March on immigrants.

Immigrants did not close industries.
Immigrants did not crash the economy.
Immigrants did not say - vote Brexit at your detriment.
Immigrants did not close the colleges that taught trade.
Immigrants did not...
They are just trying to get by, like you are...

You have access to television, social media and all sorts. You know that people march on government when change is needed, but you choose to use your 'power' to terrorise regular folks. Not against businesses, not against governments; but against the people that live alongside you.

Being working class cannot be an excuse for fighting against your interests. Accept you have been lied to. Look at who has lied to you and fight that enemy.
Until you take responsibility for your own foolishness, you will continue to make the same mistake.

Thechaseison71 · 19/02/2026 17:36

Alexandra2001 · 19/02/2026 17:06

People had from 1993 onwards, the anti EU UKIP to vote for & also the Referendum Party until 1997.

I'm not sure why you cannot grasp these facts, then again, i'm not.

Because I'm talking about JOINING it in the first place so PRE 1993. Not sure why you can't grasp that

Alexandra2001 · 19/02/2026 17:06

Thechaseison71 · 19/02/2026 13:58

Yeah like Hobson's choice the n. No anti EU party to vote for

People had from 1993 onwards, the anti EU UKIP to vote for & also the Referendum Party until 1997.

I'm not sure why you cannot grasp these facts, then again, i'm not.

Needlenardlenoo · 19/02/2026 16:33

SerendipityJane · 19/02/2026 13:56

I have done some reading on this and the economy does gain from immigration, but in terms of the people in it, there are winners and losers.

Newsflash:

everything has winners and losers.Joining the EEC ? Joining the EC ? Joining the EU ? Leaving the EU ? Joining the gym ? Buying a weekly shop ?

All events that produce winners and losers.

I am struggling to find a word for a person who cannot see that. I wonder if any other posters can help ?

I mean I know "nuance" and "BREXIT" is a big ask but if I feel that my area has lost something due to immigration, then the fact that people in a city far away have got more growth, more skilled people, a wider range of restaurants or whatever, is entirely irrelevant to me if I don't plan to move there (apart from I suppose it props up the subsidy they might give me, but that's very indirect and uncertain).

Who's the "loser" from someone buying a weekly shop or joining a gym?

SerendipityJane · 19/02/2026 14:46

(In response to your original response to Nomas). Do you really think people who throw eggs at others would be the type to get social care jobs? Who deserve those jobs?

Part of the problem is the number of people in the UK who are convinced that they would be the next Elon Musk if it wasn't for all the immigrants.

Darkmark · 19/02/2026 14:33

WaryCrow · 19/02/2026 11:06

Actually I have some sympathy for that view. What jobs there are, we should be training up our own people for and making it worth them working. Showing them that there are rewards for working. Not just continuing to import more mouths to feed.

The argument that more immigrants magically improve the economy is demonstrably false. How many millions have we imported now? Where’s the benefit for these towns, watching the immigrants imported specially to take the health and social jobs their parents and greatparents could have done? Purely there as cheap labour in the failure demand economy of the poverty industry?

(In response to your original response to Nomas). Do you really think people who throw eggs at others would be the type to get social care jobs? Who deserve those jobs?

No one is entitled to a job. If locals had shown signs of upskilling or retraining into these sectors they wouldn't have needed to find these workers from further afield.

Also adults aren't children. They shouldn't need to be shown there are rewards for working. They should simply be working. The locals got complacent.

sleepwouldbenice · 19/02/2026 14:33

I read this article yesterday
Very depressing, not just the voting but the sheer decline of that area
I dont actually mind them voting for brexit, much better reason to do it for the hope of change than racist reasons
But voting for reform again at council level then again at national elections would be mad

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 14:31

Probably because it wasn’t a popular position

if they had felt their support was predicated on it then it may have been different

SerendipityJane · 19/02/2026 14:07

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 14:03

I guess the fact that most people wanted to join doesn’t matter ?

if you wanted to, I think Labour were your choice

In 1975 ? Labour opposed the EEC as a party. However they did not make it an official government position.

I guess you had to be there.

And paying attention.