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“Everybody thought the EU was about people coming into the country … no-one told of us the benefits”.

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MrsMurphyIWish · 18/02/2026 07:00

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cm2136jnjx1o

And the response to this very now deprived community is to vote Reform.

“Brexit has removed a key source of funding, which the area desperately needs. County Durham received £154m of EU funding between 2014 and 2020, about £22m a year. Since the UK left the European Union, it receives about half that amount, £12m annually, under the UK Shared Prosperity Fund.”

The story is sad (and typical of deprived areas - I know, I live in one). Towns feeling forgotten and never recovering from closed industry but why can they not see history will repeat itself?

A row of red-brick houses with almost every window and door boarded up

Inside Horden, the County Durham town failed by politics

In Horden, County Durham, Westminster slogans have long been left unmet as the population has plummeted.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cm2136jnjx1o

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Katiesaidthat · 18/02/2026 08:26

Sparklybanana · 18/02/2026 07:51

Seriously? Nigel is the lying reason why they lost eu funding and the tory mps who did nothing to help during the years they were in power will suddenly step up will they? Farage has done nothing for Clacton but everything for his own pocket because surprise surprise, he's more interested in making his own nest more comfortable. To do that, money has to come from somewhere and its not going come from his rich friends is it. Where do you think money will flow from?

Actually, I read the pp´s comment as sarcastic, I may be wrong though.

Thechaseison71 · 18/02/2026 08:25

HeBeaverandSheBeaver · 18/02/2026 07:30

In many way we were deceived. Instead of facts we had fighting and conspiracy and propaganda. That clouded any facts about any benefits.

for example the small
boats. How many knew about the Dublin agreement. I certainly didn’t.

it might have gone an different way.

the eu were choking us with rules but like you say

we need to sort these issues out now and nige isn’t the answer imo. But who is ? Honestly? the whole of the west is in decline

China and India are the new superpowers.

all we can do is try
mitigate the consequences

add ai and we are all screwed tbh Brexit will be the
least of it.

Hmm the small boats are instead of the people hiding in lorried which used to happen long before Brexit

As for the crappy towns. Wonder when they became in that state. After all we joined the EU in 1993. So if they've hand finding since then until 2019 that should've been enough money to help get them on their feet. Or are people meant to subside places that make no effort to help themselves indefinitely

CaptainMyCaptain · 18/02/2026 08:25

AreYouSureAskedNaomi · 18/02/2026 07:06

"No one told us of the benefits"
That's not true, is it?

No. Plenty of people were trying to do that but any warnings of the negative consequences of Brexit were written off as Project Fear. The only people who benefited were the likes of Farage snd Reece-Mogg. The poor have suffered the most - turkeys voting for Christmas.

ThiagoJones · 18/02/2026 08:24

WhatAboutThisUser · 18/02/2026 08:22

“Brexit has removed a key source of funding, which the area desperately needs. County Durham received £154m of EU funding between 2014 and 2020, about £22m a year.“

The £154m didn’t come for free, it came from a shared pot that we paid into, and the UK paid £6 billion more in than we got back out. BBC link below.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-48256318?app-referrer=deep-link#:~:text=Germany%2C%20with%20a%20net%20contribution,goods%20enter%20the%20customs%20union.

So those areas should be getting more funding now then, no? The amount they were getting before plus a share of the £6bn we ‘saved’ by leaving?

NotNowFGS · 18/02/2026 08:24

dudsville · 18/02/2026 07:07

I actually do recall the funding loss being discussed widely. Just saying.

I expect that no one who voted to leave does either funnily enough.

Whatafustercluck · 18/02/2026 08:24

Multimillionaire grifters have always been exceptionally good at creating a false narrative around a faux enemy that divides the rest of us. I'm always reminded of the cartoon of Rupert Murdoch hogging a plateful of cookies, while pointing to the immigrant and telling a working class man "he stole your cookie". It's timeless, yet the electorate fall for it time and again. You're right op.

MsJinks · 18/02/2026 08:24

We were told - I particularly mentioned EU funding a lot, though very obviously without the reach of a Boris bullshit announcement. We were apparently going to have more U.K. funding due to us being able to be immensely rich and unfettered by the EU restrictions- and have access to the world for the brightest, best people and the cheapest best goods - I mean at the most basic did your parents never tell you there’s no such thing as a free lunch.
Did no one wonder why previous parties didn’t advocate for this Utopia.
There’s a Guardian article going around on here about a strong Trump supporting area of the US that is really struggling due to his policies but they still are pleased enough he’s deporting immigrants (which doesn’t affect them) - maybe someone will be along to link it. It’s a sad article but shows it’s more about feeling than actuality - same as Brexit.
Looks like plenty will fall for it again and the rich will get richer and the rest of us maintain that for them. Now we are in that soundbite, feelings, fast pretend solutions I’m not sure how we get out of it. I also think there’s something of the entitlement of this country that plays in - for some reason other countries should be gratified we deal with them and give us our free lunch - not helpful to any progression or outcomes.

WhatAboutThisUser · 18/02/2026 08:22

“Brexit has removed a key source of funding, which the area desperately needs. County Durham received £154m of EU funding between 2014 and 2020, about £22m a year.“

The £154m didn’t come for free, it came from a shared pot that we paid into, and the UK paid £6 billion more in than we got back out. BBC link below.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-48256318?app-referrer=deep-link#:~:text=Germany%2C%20with%20a%20net%20contribution,goods%20enter%20the%20customs%20union.

Four EU flags in the foreground and national flags in the background

EU budget: Who pays most in and who gets most back?

How much are the EU countries paying into and receiving from the EU?

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-48256318?app-referrer=deep-link#:~:text=Germany%2C%20with%20a%20net%20contribution,goods%20enter%20the%20customs%20union.

bignosebignose · 18/02/2026 08:22

Funny how many people used to never shut up talking about EU membership and how much it was to blame for everything, but now think six years ago is old news, and leaving the EU has nothing to do with any of our problems. Let alone claiming that leaving has improved things as it was claimed it would.

NotNowFGS · 18/02/2026 08:22

Femalemachinest · 18/02/2026 07:05

Exactly. All this brexit stiff is getting a bit old now. The whole world went into decline for version reasons but people only see what they want

The fact remains that the UK government does not match the EU funding we lost after Brexit. Yes it is hard to unpick the Brexit effect within the general bin fire that is our economy now, but that does not mean it is not real. Seriously, the impact of Brexit was and is enormous. Dismissing it as "a bit old" doesn't not change that fact. A colossal act of self harm.

Winter2020 · 18/02/2026 08:21

livingthenotebook · 18/02/2026 07:25

2 of the main reasons we left EU was to be in control of our economy and to be able to control our borders...........😂

And as you can see, that's going fantastic

I would be happy to rejoin

Yes and the politicians betrayed the people by allowing more immigration than ever, and I'm not talking about the difficult to tackle boats but the completely in our control rubber stamping visas. So now a lot of people are still looking for someone to control our borders.

Yes we haven't seen the benefits of Brexit because the politicians made sure of that by ignoring the will of the people.

NotTerfNorCis · 18/02/2026 08:18

Femalemachinest · 18/02/2026 07:05

Exactly. All this brexit stiff is getting a bit old now. The whole world went into decline for version reasons but people only see what they want

It's not old, it's an ongoing situation.

I have no doubt the UK would be better off now if brexit hadn't happened.

NotNowFGS · 18/02/2026 08:15

ThatThisThatYou · 18/02/2026 07:02

Do you not think the UK governments of the past 30 years have a part to play in the decline or is it all the fault of Brexit?

Brexit is the reason that they have lost a good chunk of funding which the poorest regions could ill afford to lose.

TheActualQueen · 18/02/2026 08:15

Femalemachinest · 18/02/2026 07:05

Exactly. All this brexit stiff is getting a bit old now. The whole world went into decline for version reasons but people only see what they want

It’s not getting old - it totally fucked us!
We are still allowed to be annoyed with the idiots who voted for it.

It’s blatantly obvious to anyone with a brain that Reform are full of shit too.

So yeah it’s relevant. Learn from your previous mistakes. Stop voting because you don’t like people you perceive as being different from you and think about who is really benefiting!

Teasandcoffees · 18/02/2026 08:12

Theolittle · 18/02/2026 07:13

Very sad but I’m sure it’ll be amazing to see what reform do with the area. Go Nigel!

Are you being facetious? It's hard to tell.

Needlenardlenoo · 18/02/2026 08:10

The other thing is, leaving the EU out of it for a moment, is areas like Stoke-on-Trent are hugely subsidised by Westminster anyway. Now there are reasons for that, and regional policy should be better, to spread the wealth, and the U in United Kingdom is there for a reason but good luck discussing that with anyone from the area. I know from personal experience many think "London" is ripping them off, while in fact "London" is actually paying the bills of most of the country.

Maybe some of this comes down to not understanding "net". Net migration, net gain, net trade etc.

Ninerainbows · 18/02/2026 08:09

Farage is nearly as dangerous as Trump in his own way.

itsgettingweird · 18/02/2026 08:06

Actually they were told.

But they were told it’s “project fear”

but but but £350m for NHS.

Reform will not improve things and decimate the NHS further.

But they get people to listen by repeating “immigration “ which is what people voted for.

Until people realise immigration isn’t the reason for the mess we are in the have a platform. Therein lies the danger.

FreeWheezin · 18/02/2026 08:05

People were urged to vote emotionally on Brexit. They were asked to consider how important concepts and ideals like 'sovereignty' were to them. Many Brexit voters I spoke to said they were willing to have a bad economic period in exchange for sovereignty. Michael Gove said people had had enough of experts. People were discouraged from looking at the facts and told to focus on their feelings (ironically many of the same crowd who now declare that facts don't care about your feelings)

ThiagoJones · 18/02/2026 08:04

HeBeaverandSheBeaver · 18/02/2026 07:30

In many way we were deceived. Instead of facts we had fighting and conspiracy and propaganda. That clouded any facts about any benefits.

for example the small
boats. How many knew about the Dublin agreement. I certainly didn’t.

it might have gone an different way.

the eu were choking us with rules but like you say

we need to sort these issues out now and nige isn’t the answer imo. But who is ? Honestly? the whole of the west is in decline

China and India are the new superpowers.

all we can do is try
mitigate the consequences

add ai and we are all screwed tbh Brexit will be the
least of it.

The facts were there if anyone chose to look for them. I wasn’t deceived, it didn’t take much research to see that everything Farage said was a lie.

BlackCoffeeAndSugar · 18/02/2026 08:01

What next "everyone told us the measles vaccine was about 5g and control. Nobody told us about how dangerous measles is"

frozendaisy · 18/02/2026 07:59

tara66 · 18/02/2026 07:54

Boris's bus said '' We send £350,000,000 to Europe every week'' .

So where is that money now - where is it going?

We even have higher taxes now.

Admin

more civil servants that everyone hates because they get pensions - to replace the seamless trade we had and replace all the administrative offices we need to have independently because we didn’t want to share, like pharmaceutical quality and control, like you know the really important stuff

Topseyt123 · 18/02/2026 07:59

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 18/02/2026 07:25

It is obviously not true to say that people weren't warned about what they would stand to lose through Brexit. Those warnings were commonly dismissed as Project Fear at the time. Turns out that they'd have been right to be fearful. No surprises there.

What is surprising is that they're willing to put their faith in Farage again, even after he sold them a bucket full of lies during the referendum campaign.

I had huge sympathy for these communities previously, but my sympathy starts to wane when they don't learn from their mistakes. People might be forgiven for being taken in by Farage once, but twice? I'm starting to feel like those who vote him in will deserve their fate.

I agree that those who vote for Farage and his cronies will deserve their fate.

The rest of us don't deserve it though, but will get it.

Bjorkdidit · 18/02/2026 07:59

It's infuriating. Allowing such an important decision to be made by thick racists.

They should have torn up the vote of anyone unable to explain what a third country is and what we'd lose by becoming one.

One of my outstanding memories leading up to the vote was a BBC Breakfast clip of a load of British 'expats' who lived in Benidorm talking about how they were planning to vote leave 'because there's too much immigration these days'. You couldn't make it up and it's the same people now complaining that they can't continue to live in Spain full time, or they have to jump through a load of hoops to do so.

I am however amused that, because it's a lot harder for Polish, Portuguese and other European healthcare and hospitality workers to come to the UK, they've now been commonly replaced by people from places like Ghana. I bet the leave voters didn't see that coming.

Applesonthelawn · 18/02/2026 07:58

It's just an instance where you can't really trust the great British public to make the best decision. I happen to think it was the right decision (and still, despite everything, would vote Brexit again), but not for reasons of immigration. It was such a complex decision that even the best researched journalists couldn't lay out the full argument in writing, and certainly politicians' five minute speeches or even shorter soundbites couldn't begin to do it justice. A mumsnet forum certainly couldn't scrape the surface. It just became a horribly toxic debate, certainly online.
I worked closely with the EU Commission for a decade and still have a less close professional relationship with my counterparts in various EU member states. I know I was not in a position to weigh all the relevant pieces, but I was certainly better placed than many, well informed enough to know it was a huge risk to put to the people.

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