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Letting 16 year old DS have girlfriend sleep over?

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VoteForPedro · 17/02/2026 20:14

My DS has a girlfriend, they are both 16 and turning 17 in the next few months. Been seeing each other for a good few months. His gf has only been over a few times to hang out in the evening. He said she doesn’t have a lift home after a party they are going to soon. I’m wondering whether to offer her to stay?

AIBU to say she can stay over? Not sure whether to allow them to sleep in the same (single) bed 😬 or for her to have his bed and he sleeps in with his brother in another room. Or just say no to it and she has to find somewhere else to stay or find a lift home.

It all seems a bit grown up but I’m aware what age they are too 🙈. This is all new territory for me as she’s DS’s first gf, WWYD?

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Stepdown · 17/02/2026 20:37

Just to add, all because she needs a safe lift home.

Stepdown · 17/02/2026 20:34

Neurodiversitydoctor · 17/02/2026 20:21

Way too young ? They are yr12, just make sure contraception is sorted....

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It’s a lot of pressure for a young girl to enter into a full on sexual relationship at age 16. I wouldn’t encourage it and I’d be pissed off if the parent of a 16 year old boy encouraged it.

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VoteForPedro · 17/02/2026 20:31

I don’t know her parents at all and she stays quite far away (about 40 mins drive although they are at the same school). I wouldn’t offer without asking to her to speak to her parents about it I think.

They do seem very young for that but I’m also aware they are nearly 17. My DS said they’ve not had sex (I had a chat about the absolute importance of protection etc just in case) but you never really know. I know others their age at their school have had sex (apparently anyway)

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titchy · 17/02/2026 20:23

Has he asked? Are they having sex? You’re assuming they are… Do you know her mum? Could you see how she feels about her staying over - assuming they ask of course.

Wingingit73 · 17/02/2026 20:23

Organise a taxi

Neurodiversitydoctor · 17/02/2026 20:21

Stepdown · 17/02/2026 20:19

I’d give her a lift home. Way too young.

Way too young ? They are yr12, just make sure contraception is sorted....

Stepdown · 17/02/2026 20:19

I’d give her a lift home. Way too young.

Tiptopflipflop · 17/02/2026 20:16

If they want to be having sex they will be, so I'd let her stay over. I'd rather they were doing it at home than in a park or whatever.