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Can't stand the 4 dogs of my husband anymore

86 replies

BeLilacDog · 17/02/2026 19:48

Well, my husband didn't used to like dogs very much, but since 2017, he's developed an obsession with them. It probably comes from his family, since they love dogs; he has four Shih Tzu dogs.He can't stand the smell of dogs, and he bathes them practically every day, even when they're clean. The problem is that he dries them and spends hours with the hairdryer on, practically Every day, sometimes I can't sleep because of the noise,I've told him to turn off the hairdryer at certain times, but he doesn't care. He also wants those dogs sleeping with us in bed. I don't know what to do,It makes me want to break up with him,The balcony area sometimes gets covered in dog feces, leaving it smelling bad.

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Talkingtomyhouseplants · 17/02/2026 20:22

LTB

Pistachiocake · 17/02/2026 20:17

Every other story like this that I've read has the husband mad at the wife for bringing too many dogs to bed.
Seriously though, get him to a dog trainer/expert to point out he's OTT, and what to do to benefit the poor dogs. Really, a couple should decide together of they want dogs/how many and how much time to spend on them, and if he's totally changed from what you agreed, is there something wrong with him? Is he stressed or ill, genuinely? Because this sounds OTT.

PralinesandCream · 17/02/2026 20:17

Those poor dogs. They definitely shouldn’t be bathed that often and hair dryers are most often way too hot for them.

ChilledProsecco · 17/02/2026 20:16

Dogs in bed - yuk!! Absolutely gross, as is dog shit on the balcony. Grounds for divorce, I reckon!

BeLilacDog · 17/02/2026 20:14

mumofoneAloneandwell · 17/02/2026 19:50

‘The problem is that he dries them and spends hours with the hairdryer on, practically Every day, sometimes I can't sleep because of the noise’ made me laugh 😂😂

girl this might be a truly unique aibu!!!

so he bathes the dogs constantly but can’t walk them, letting them poop on the balcony?

when did you marry him? Why is he like this!?

don't know😭 it started suddenly. He seemed normal, or maybe he was normal, I swear. All I know is that his family is strange with dogs like that too.

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BeLilacDog · 17/02/2026 20:09

AutumnedCrow · 17/02/2026 19:53

Goodness me. At least this isn’t another shaggy dog story.

Lmao 🤣🥹

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MargeryBargery · 17/02/2026 19:58

So, the Shahmpooed Shihtzus are shihtting on the balcony ??

Shouhnds awful.

AutumnedCrow · 17/02/2026 19:53

Goodness me. At least this isn’t another shaggy dog story.

NotThisAgain1987 · 17/02/2026 19:52

He's harming the dogs. They aren't to meant to bathe that often at all.

WimpoleHat · 17/02/2026 19:52

He also wants those dogs sleeping with us in bed. I don't know what to do

Well - I certainly wouldn’t be anywhere near that bed….

mumofoneAloneandwell · 17/02/2026 19:50

‘The problem is that he dries them and spends hours with the hairdryer on, practically Every day, sometimes I can't sleep because of the noise’ made me laugh 😂😂

girl this might be a truly unique aibu!!!

so he bathes the dogs constantly but can’t walk them, letting them poop on the balcony?

when did you marry him? Why is he like this!?