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Can't stand the 4 dogs of my husband anymore

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BeLilacDog · 17/02/2026 19:48

Well, my husband didn't used to like dogs very much, but since 2017, he's developed an obsession with them. It probably comes from his family, since they love dogs; he has four Shih Tzu dogs.He can't stand the smell of dogs, and he bathes them practically every day, even when they're clean. The problem is that he dries them and spends hours with the hairdryer on, practically Every day, sometimes I can't sleep because of the noise,I've told him to turn off the hairdryer at certain times, but he doesn't care. He also wants those dogs sleeping with us in bed. I don't know what to do,It makes me want to break up with him,The balcony area sometimes gets covered in dog feces, leaving it smelling bad.

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Cherrysoup · 19/02/2026 22:01

Ours get hosed if filthy (one just attracts mud, he’s disgusting after walks if it rains) but I just shove them in towelling bags and leave them for an hour. They have 3 walks a day and don’t shit in the garden, therefore.

WhereYouLeftIt · 19/02/2026 21:21

I would report his abuse of these dogs to the RSPCA. Because it is abuse. Toileting on the balcony - do they get walked? An the constant washing? It's abuse. Your husband should not be allowed to have dogs.

somewhereintheworld · 19/02/2026 19:18

I absolutely love the smell of my dog and she sleeps with us now and again as a treat. She has a bath about once a year. There's no need for constant bathing. Those poor dogs. He can't be a dog lover to treat them like this. Definitely sounds like a case of OCD.

BeLilacDog · 19/02/2026 18:37

Tryagain26 · 19/02/2026 13:43

This all sounds made up.i find it very hard to believe that a man who hates the smell of dogs would have 4 , let them use the balcony as a toilet and insist they sleep in bed with him. As for spending hours washing and drying them every day that is just crazy!

It',s real,i don',t know what he have

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Frequency · 19/02/2026 13:53

Does he not work?

We have four chihuahuas who are bathed monthly, just before they are flea'd and wormed, unless they roll in something disgusting. Without the blow-drying, it takes 2 of us an hour to wash all of them. If we blow-dry the long-haired demon, that adds another 20-30 minutes.

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We use this sometimes if they get mildly muddy between baths. Very muddy requires a rinse under the shower. Fox shit requires quarantining Grin

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Tryagain26 · 19/02/2026 13:43

This all sounds made up.i find it very hard to believe that a man who hates the smell of dogs would have 4 , let them use the balcony as a toilet and insist they sleep in bed with him. As for spending hours washing and drying them every day that is just crazy!

Glitchymn1 · 19/02/2026 13:37

MargeryBargery · 17/02/2026 19:58

So, the Shahmpooed Shihtzus are shihtting on the balcony ??

Shouhnds awful.

😆 seriously though he’s bathing them too often. He needs to hose the balcony not the dogs!

FrozenFebruary · 19/02/2026 13:36

Catpuss66 · 18/02/2026 20:57

Like to think glass half full rather than empty.

You can think of the glass being completely full, if you want, but it doesn't change how useless the RSPCA actually are.

BeLilacDog · 18/02/2026 22:42

Mumofyellows · 18/02/2026 21:30

Nah, this is a made up story.

It's serious girl😭

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Mumofyellows · 18/02/2026 21:30

Nah, this is a made up story.

Abd80 · 18/02/2026 21:09

Does he have OCD ? Daily washing and blow-drying of dogs is excessive and cruel.
will he seek help for his OCD ?

Catpuss66 · 18/02/2026 20:57

FrozenFebruary · 18/02/2026 18:09

If the 66 is the year you were born, then yes you are.

but you're still very 'summer child' if you think the RSPCA would do anything in this situation

Like to think glass half full rather than empty.

FrozenFebruary · 18/02/2026 18:09

Catpuss66 · 18/02/2026 00:22

Probably older than you😂

If the 66 is the year you were born, then yes you are.

but you're still very 'summer child' if you think the RSPCA would do anything in this situation

MO0N · 18/02/2026 01:57

Deffo grounds for divorce, I wouldnt fancy having to put up with a flock of dogs, never mind his weird obsessive grooming of them.

Queenoftartts · 18/02/2026 01:47

That’s excessive poor dogs. I would be booting the husband out and keeping the dogs.

CrackInTheGlass · 18/02/2026 01:41

Alright OP. Would you care to expand further? A lot of us (myself included) have multiple pets. You’re narked at the excessive washing (fair enough), the shitting on the balcony (fair enough), I think you’re gonna have to expand on why he won’t take your perspective into account and if the dogs are even walked? Sounds like a shit show (pun intended).

XenoBitch · 18/02/2026 01:33

OonaStubbs · 18/02/2026 01:28

There needs to be a crackdown on all dog ownership.

Bring back the dog license and limit dog ownership to one dog per household and a limited number of dogs per postcode area.

Your hatred of dogs is clear to see, but you have not actually added anything to this thread apart from your generic post about how much you really hate dogs.... which you always do on all dog threads.
I recall you saying that "Keir Starmer needs to do something about dogs".
Get some help.

OonaStubbs · 18/02/2026 01:28

There needs to be a crackdown on all dog ownership.

Bring back the dog license and limit dog ownership to one dog per household and a limited number of dogs per postcode area.

XenoBitch · 18/02/2026 01:06

OonaStubbs · 18/02/2026 01:03

Dogs are getting out of control. What reason is there for someone living in a small flat to have FOUR dogs? Why, just why?

This is nothing to do with "dogs getting out of control", and is all to do with an arsehole who can't look after his dogs properly.

OonaStubbs · 18/02/2026 01:03

Dogs are getting out of control. What reason is there for someone living in a small flat to have FOUR dogs? Why, just why?

champagnetrial · 18/02/2026 00:33

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Catpuss66 · 18/02/2026 00:22

FrozenFebruary · 17/02/2026 23:27

Dearest Summer Child. They would not.

Probably older than you😂

ThisBrickPombear · 18/02/2026 00:12

Ahh, just remembered- it’s half term.

99bottlesofkombucha · 18/02/2026 00:08

I wouldn’t be sleeping in that bed so if there’s not a spare room I’d have moved out. If there’s a spare room I’d tell him the next time a hairdryer is in between 10pm and 7am I will cut the cord off, that I won’t be stepping foot in the main bedroom and if a dog comes into my room then we are divorcing, which is looking highly likely anyway as I can’t live like that.

bridgetreilly · 17/02/2026 23:30

Those poor dogs. Your husband is not behaving normally towards them or reasonably towards you. And he absolutely shouldn’t be letting them poo on the balcony. If he won’t see reason, I actually think you should leave him.