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Oh dear, I’ve upset the neighbours. Another parking thread

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vagges · 17/02/2026 16:13

I live in a cul de sac where everyone has their own driveways. Luckily, parking isn’t a problem as everyone uses their drives, and visitors do the same if there’s space, or sometimes they park on the street outside. Occasionally, we have delivery drivers or family members picking up or dropping someone off, which can block access, but it’s usually just for a few minutes. However, my neighbours daughter has this annoying habit of stopping in the middle of the cul de sac, blocking everyone’s access. It wouldn’t be a big deal if it was just a few minutes like everyone else, but she’s been known to stay there for 10-15 minutes. Her mum (my neighbour) has an empty driveway, so I really don’t get why she doesn’t just pull in and reverse out when she’s ready instead of sitting in the turning circle and making it difficult for everyone else. I’ve had to ask her a couple of times to move forward so I could get onto my drive, considering I’ve been waiting for her to move first. I can’t tell if she just pretends not to see people? It’s really strange.

Anyway, last night I came home, absolutely desperate for the toilet (sorry TMI), and there she was again. I pulled right up to her car, waited a few seconds, and ended up beeping the horn to let her know I was there. I have no idea how she didn’t see me because it was pitch black, my lights are bright, and the car isn’t super quiet either. I would have gotten out to talk to her, but I really needed to get inside. She finally got out of her car and said, “No need to beep, you just need to ask me to pull forward.” So I replied, “I don’t have time to ask you to move every time, why can’t you just pull onto the drive and wait?” She called me rude and got back in her car. I get that the beeping might have seemed aggressive, but that wasn’t my intention. I just wanted to get her attention so I could get inside and use the bloody toilet. I saw my neighbour (her mum) this morning, said hello, and she just looked at me and carried on. I guess I’ve pissed them both off.

AIBU or would this annoy you too? Would you get out every time to ask her to move? Was I rude?

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ImGoneUndeground · 21/02/2026 02:12

WallaceinAnderland · 17/02/2026 16:40

If she's blocking it anyway, just leave your car behind hers and let her come looking for you.

Agree, block HER in, why are people so entitled / selfish these days? (Maybe, although I hate this type of stuff, be casually ready with phone / video her parking, reaction at actually being called out on this etc). Or, as suggested, be overly nice, have a Very Polite chat with her mum & explain the issue. 🌷

Keroppi · 19/02/2026 20:18

Love imagining what I would do in these situations.
My street is similar. Narrow entrance, square turning circle with a ( ) shape of kerb on either side of the space. One ( ) has a tree on, the other is a parking spot bought by a neighbour. The square 'turning circle' has detached garages either side too.
My drive is directly opposite the ( ) with a tree on - some idiots literally park bang opposite my drive, with wheels on the grass surrounding the tree. If someone is parked on the street too then I'm blocked in! But it hasn't happened to me yet. I ought to draw a diagram really.

Some people park blocking access to the detached garages, my neighbours just pull up and lay on the horn until whoever it is rushes out to move.
Once there was an Evri driver who stopped in the middle of the road to deliver parcels, door wide open, fair enough, so I waited, but then after he'd delivered the parcel he went back in the van, grabbed a Greggs bag and his vape and stood eating and smoking!!!! I was shocked. And thrilled I got to lay on my horn too Grin

FordExplorer · 19/02/2026 19:59

properidiot · 17/02/2026 16:39

I'd have flashed and tooted too as it clearly is something she does too often. She obviously knows it is inconvenient for others but is clearly a CF who is selfish too. Though I don't actually understand why she wouldn't pull in her Mum's driveway - surely that'd be easier?

I'd be killing them with kindness and cheery hellos and good mornings whenever I see them whilst at the same time continue to tell her to move and give her a toot when necessary. Hopefully she'll get the idea at some point!

How would being nice help though? They’re being dicks and being nice will make them think you’re not bothered by it and are happy to keep asking them to move!

Talkingfrog · 19/02/2026 19:42

You shouldn't have needed to ask her ro move. She should have been able to read the situation realise she needed to move without being asked.

Chinsupmeloves · 19/02/2026 17:57

Complete inconsiderate, selfish and defensive airhead! Some people really are unbelievable 😳

dentalflosser · 18/02/2026 22:51

Your neighbour’s daughter is a twat.
You did the right thing OP and I think you handled it very well.
I echo other posters in suggesting you try and have a quick chat with the girl’s mother to try and help her understand that her daughter is being selfish blocking the road for no reason.
If that doesn’t work, I think you need to help the daughter by installing a car runway system on the road with landing (driving) lights, you in a high viz vest with green lights in each hand to help direct the young lady onto her drive. You may need to repeat the sequence 15 minutes later using red lights to help guide her off the drive.

freakingscared · 18/02/2026 22:11

Beeping and high beams and if she had a shity atitude a few choice words

pouletvous · 18/02/2026 20:59

She’s a rude idiot

speak to her mother

Noshowlomo · 17/02/2026 19:42

I hate people like this. It’s entitlement. If she is pissing off a few of you then you all need to complain to her mother. Failing that, all beep like fuck when she’s blocking one of you

SunnyRedSnail · 17/02/2026 19:20

So she is actually sitting in her car rather than at her mum's house?

If I was desperate for a week I would have just blocked her in and run inside!!

mummytrex · 17/02/2026 19:20

some people are stupid and entitled.

At my parents house there is an access road/alley for cars to get to the back of our houses.

Woman living in house on opposite side of the road regularly just blocks the entrance as though the road isn’t even there.

i had to pick parents up from airport once early morning and lo and behold I couldn’t get out as she was there. Got out of car, knocked on door to ask her to move.

i was very polite to her but she was FURIOUS at my audacity for waking her up 😂. Yes it was 5am but she is so thick that she couldn’t understand that her ignorant behaviour (people are always asking her to move, she has even had tickets) is why I was knocking in the first place 🙄.

Laiste · 17/02/2026 19:19

In fact i'd actually go and have a calm word with the neighbour. I'd approach it as a ''im really confused as to why your daughter sticks her car in the middle of the (fucking) road instead of pulling into the drive'' question.

Laiste · 17/02/2026 19:17

Oh silly cow what's wrong with her?!

Id be giving her a piece of my mind never mind a beep!

DotAndCarryOne2 · 17/02/2026 19:17

NotThatSerious · 17/02/2026 19:08

What a ridiculous idea

Why is it ridiculous. If the girl is blocking other residents’ driveways that’s an offence - blocking access to a public highway. Fixed penalty notice of up to £200. OP can report the repeated incidents to 101 non emergency police number.

Jorge14 · 17/02/2026 19:16

She’s really rude. I wouldn’t care one bit if she ignored me for the rest of my days. Don’t spare another thought about it.

NotThatSerious · 17/02/2026 19:08

Tutorpuzzle · 17/02/2026 16:28

Next time she does it, call the police. She’s blocking a public road. If emergency access is needed by ambulance/fire brigade they certainly won’t be asking politely!

What a ridiculous idea

TamzinGrey · 17/02/2026 19:06

Sorry OP but you've apparently completed a cardinal sin by tooting your horn if my previous neighbours are anything to go by. Her father used to visit every few days and would completely block the access into my driveway.
Every single time it happened I would have to stop in the road, get out of my car, ring on her doorbell, and ask him to move his car so that I could enter my property.
One evening after a particularly shitty day at work I stayed in the car and tooted the horn until he came out.
The neighbours never spoke to me again which was quite a relief to be honest. Thankfully they moved a few months later.

Pineappleice43 · 17/02/2026 19:02

I would have beeped too, to grab their attention so they move. Nothing wrong with it.

They sound very entitled.

SilverPink · 17/02/2026 18:57

rwalker · 17/02/2026 16:51

Next time block her in then ignore the door for at least 10 minutes

I used to do this when neighbours inconsiderate visitors constantly blocked my drive. It worked.

HelplessSoul · 17/02/2026 18:42

You should have pissed on her car.

Or her mums driveway.

Or both.

Shes a cunt and she knows she is. You did nothing wrong OP.

NomTook · 17/02/2026 18:41

Sounds like someone who can otherwise be found standing slackjawed right where you need to get to in a supermarket.

WiddlinDiddlin · 17/02/2026 18:02

We have a similar set up, narrow entrance to a wide turning 'circle/parking area' (its square really)..

Person at the 'neck' of the entry has a habit of pulling up, a mile from the fucking kerb so no one can get round then waiting for fuck only knows what. Godot. I assume.

On a couple of occasions my sister has parked up behind her, blocking her from leaving, and come here or gone to do a delivery (she delivers food) - results in a lot of evil glares and swearing but she still doesn't seem to have learned. Next time she is blocking our van I'll tell DP to come in for one of his leisurely shits, they can take a good half hour!

Surely anyone qualified to drive a car can grasp if you're blocking a route, and someone shows up or tries to leave, you move. There should be no need to ask, it is pretty fucking obvious!

Imlyingandthatsthetruth · 17/02/2026 18:01

I think tooting on the horn was totally wrong.

You should lean on the horn, select full beam and inch forward onto her bumper!

fyllnadspenna · 17/02/2026 18:00

Blocking access is rude and dangerous. She should know better, and of course you shouldn't be put in the position of needing to ask her to move. She shouldn't be there in the first place!

I suppose you could go over and discuss it with your neighbour, but I'd probably just ignore her. She and her daughter are probably not very reasonable people, based on their behaviour thus far.

UltraAlox5 · 17/02/2026 17:49

When someone blocks our road (sounds similar to how yours is) the car blocked in or out will literally hold the horn down until they move. I don’t think YABU.