90 year old male watching naked women on tv

Why are you asking me that question?? I'm not the 90 year old tugging one out over babestation :) :)

Self-pleasure that doesn’t involve objectification is perfectly possible. Do you have no imagination?

It is what it is, people don't lose their libido as soon as they hit 70 or 80
Especially if he lives alone or is widowed
I don't even want to mention the stuff we found when clearing elderly family member flat !! You just compartmentalise it
Everyone has a sexual or private side and I suppose it was more normalised to older men to go to sex shops and order magazines etc if they're not paying for sex

At least he's not sending loads of money to ladies overseas or being love scammed... things to look out for

At age 90, he might as well spend his remaining time left on earth enjoying himself. If that's looking at legal porn, then that's up to him. As long as he's not actively perving IRL then it's his own business. I can see it's a problem when she's come across it, but best to say - dad I'm not helping you fix your phone when it's full of porn videos and let someone else do it, probably a bloke who won't give a monkeys.

Yes, at the time it was very common for pubs to have strippers and/or topless barmaids. I’m not saying that’s a good thing, but it wouldn’t have been at all unusual at the time for a married man to watch strip acts.

Not sure if if there is a babeOAPstation to be honest....

Pretty sure most of the population and many on here indulge in a bit of self pleasure? Even the elderly should be allowed and not judged...

Believe it or not, many of our parents are probably still doing the deed..!

Bit of a leap, given that a) the OP hasn’t mentioned him having carers and b) the material was on his personal phone.

There’s no need to invent scenarios in your head.

Your talking about the days of The Sun having topless models on page 3 and every workshop and office having a calendar of semi naked woman. It was just the way things were then. Lots of places had strippers or exotic dancers or whatever the euphemism was, half the time no one was watching they were all drinking at the bar.

I'd be more grossed out by a younger man doing it. I know age isn't an excuse for ignorance, but discussions about the negative impact on women from objectifying them is pretty recent and mainly takes place on social media.

I think if he’s always done this then like pp says he’s creepy young man who got old.

If this is new behaviour I’d be concerned that this was a sign of dementia. My poor friend’s dad (who was previously a lovely guy) used to dry hump the sofa cushions when his disease progressed. It was devastating for his family to see him turn into a sex pest and so difficult to take him anywhere.

“Man likes looking at attractive women” is hardly a shocker, is it?

I wonder if this is one of these situations where in the moment, having just found out something that had presented some quite deep feelings for your friend, that maybe she just needed you to listen to how she was feeling about it. But instead maybe by saying ‘try not to judge him’, you’ve offered your judgement (that it’s not a big deal, sort of dismissing it) and fix (try not to judge him) to try and ease her discomfort. It’s really easily done and you shouldn’t feel bad. I’m imagining she’s probably has some quite conflicting feelings which it might be hard to understand if you weren’t in the situation. I don’t think anybody particularly likes thinking of their parents as sexual beings, let alone your dad being into younger women or situations where women are objectified such as in strip clubs, particularly as a daughter / women yourself. You never know it might be making her reevaluate some experiences she had within their family too and whether her dad is who she thought he was - much deeper than simply being grossed out. I would give it a few days to let her process a bit and then send her a message to say you’re really sorry you think you might have misjudged the situation and are here to listen if she wants to talk x

I think it’s a bit more gross if he has young(er) women in as carers giving personal care.
I hope they aren’t having to see any of the porn, that would be sexual harassment in the workplace.

If you think men don't /shouldn't look at naked women no matter what age they are then OK. But honestly if it's the age that bothers you, then at what age would you not go eugh? Because no 2 women will agree on that.

He probably couldn’t find the babestation channel with the 90 year old women on it

At what age is it OK for a man to perve over young women?

You think they'd know better but they never do

I also think this is about ageism,

The 'age gap'

Lol, this gets used more and more on here

Is he only allowed to watch porn involving 80 year olds then?

Humans get visually turned on by other humans, men use this method more than women (I would wager), for any mums of sons on this thread, your sons use it too.

It’s agism.. you mentioned his age, so it’s agism. And it dislike of the use of porn generally.. but if he was 28 you probably wouldn't have mentioned it.

our society is terrified of age. It’s quite bizarre really.

@cinnamontroll "creepy young men just grow into creepy old men I think."

But they aren't creeps or perverts. They're just men. All hetero men like looking at tits and bums and generally when they're attached to younger women. They have done since time began. Women don't half kid themselves about this.

I personally think that though it’s a shock finding this he should be able to do what he likes. It’s not like he’s going out picking up women or prostitutes.

But why would he stop beinf dear old dad, he’s single, likely no age appropriate porn available and still has a sex drive. As long as it’s in the privacy of his own home and he’s just watching not out there harassing women I don’t get the issue.

Me too. It’s a bit of a shock finding out that dear old Dad is anything but!

Poor old sod. Give him some better recommendations than Babestation.