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90 year old male watching naked women on tv

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BetteDavisChin · 17/02/2026 12:46

My cousin told me that her 90yo dad watches 'Babestation' (ugh, makes me feel queasy just typing that word).
He asked her to fix his phone at the weekend and she saw he had 572 you tube videos on it, some thumbnail stills showing close ups of young women's crotches (clothed).
She was upset and said she couldn't believe that a man of his age was looking at stuff like that. She also told me (which I didn't know before) that in the 60s/70s he used to go to the pub on work lunch times and Sunday afternoons to watch strippers.
I said I agree that it's gross, but try not to judge him, but she wasn't happy with me about that and she left. She hasn't returned my text messages since then.
I am going to give her a few days to process what's happened, then try to contact her again.
But AIBU to also be grossed out by the thought of my aged uncle perving over young women?

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likelysuspect · 17/02/2026 19:17

Im also loving the naivety on this thread, much like others of this subject, that arent things so much different since the 'bad old days' of page 3, topless women on your KP nuts etc etc

Yes with Naked Attraction, various reality shows where people are getting off with each other all the time and barely dressed, highly pornified sexualised young pop stars with sexualised dance routines the like of which you never saw when I was growing up unless it was at one of these sex clubs or stripper shows. Its now day to day, mundane pop stardom to wear tight leather and grind your way around the stage with your 9 year old female fans screaming

So much better.

CurlewKate · 17/02/2026 19:12

MissAustenMadeAQuilt · 17/02/2026 19:00

Ah right!

But they must have been thinking about women's bodies though, probably real women -women that they knew!

Is that better or worse-masturbating to a celluloid image or tossing one off picturing your child's teacher, the vicar's wife or the next door neighbour.

One thing is for sure-men have been masturbating since Adam was a lad and I can't see it stopping any time soon whether they look at a channel, a magazine or dreams of fancying Kate from the chip shop and what she could do.

Of course fantasy is better than images of potentially exploited women. And nobody is trying to stop anyone masturbating-don’t be silly.

MissAustenMadeAQuilt · 17/02/2026 19:00

CurlewKate · 17/02/2026 16:22

It’s called masturbation. Men have been able to masturbate for very very many years before being able to access photographic images of real women’s bodies. Around 300,000 less a couple of hundred, in fact.

Edited

Ah right!

But they must have been thinking about women's bodies though, probably real women -women that they knew!

Is that better or worse-masturbating to a celluloid image or tossing one off picturing your child's teacher, the vicar's wife or the next door neighbour.

One thing is for sure-men have been masturbating since Adam was a lad and I can't see it stopping any time soon whether they look at a channel, a magazine or dreams of fancying Kate from the chip shop and what she could do.

dadtoateen · 17/02/2026 18:51

CurlewKate · 17/02/2026 18:49

As far as I am aware, sex toys are not sentient and likely to be exploited. Neither are fantasies.

So you have never used said toys and thought of someone else or watched ‘things’ ??

your saying it’s ok if he used a flashlight and a pic of his wife?

CurlewKate · 17/02/2026 18:51

likelysuspect · 17/02/2026 18:09

Yes by thinking about/imagining women, ones they know, ones on the telly, ones on the street.

They wont be thinking about the shopping list

It really makes no odds if its from something they are watching there and then or something they have seen or from thinking about Lorraine Kelly (first person off the top of my head).

What a very odd mindset!

CurlewKate · 17/02/2026 18:49

dadtoateen · 17/02/2026 18:42

But they are not his granddaughters…. So hopefully he wouldn’t be aroused by them!
people, yes that’s men and WOMEN watch porn and have a wank…
wonder how many women on here horrified have a drawer full of sex toys?
bet you only ever think about your partner when your doing it?

As far as I am aware, sex toys are not sentient and likely to be exploited. Neither are fantasies.

Tollington · 17/02/2026 18:48

Misleading title OP

The women aren’t naked

Allseeingallknowing · 17/02/2026 18:48

likelysuspect · 17/02/2026 18:45

What about people on this thread quoting the attractiveness of men older enough to be their fathers or grandfathers. Is that ok?

Geoff, Brucie and George? I mean we're all about the grandad pin up now arent we?

Not the same. Old men lusting after the crotches of young girls- just seedy, vulgar and mucky! Can’t explain it- it just is!

likelysuspect · 17/02/2026 18:45

Allseeingallknowing · 17/02/2026 18:39

It’s just horrible to think of an old man leering at girls the same age as his granddaughters!

What about people on this thread quoting the attractiveness of men older enough to be their fathers or grandfathers. Is that ok?

Geoff, Brucie and George? I mean we're all about the grandad pin up now arent we?

dadtoateen · 17/02/2026 18:42

Allseeingallknowing · 17/02/2026 18:39

It’s just horrible to think of an old man leering at girls the same age as his granddaughters!

But they are not his granddaughters…. So hopefully he wouldn’t be aroused by them!
people, yes that’s men and WOMEN watch porn and have a wank…
wonder how many women on here horrified have a drawer full of sex toys?
bet you only ever think about your partner when your doing it?

Allseeingallknowing · 17/02/2026 18:39

It’s just horrible to think of an old man leering at girls the same age as his granddaughters!

dadtoateen · 17/02/2026 18:34

Naunet · 17/02/2026 17:04

Why did you tell her not to judge him? Why aren't women allowed to judge pervy men regardless of their age?

Why is he a pervy man if he wants to have a nice time looking at pictures of pretty women?
it’s as though women never have a wank…

dadtoateen · 17/02/2026 18:32

CurlewKate · 17/02/2026 16:53

But he uses women as wank fodder.

Bet she would be more concerned if he wanked over men 🤷‍♂️

Allseeingallknowing · 17/02/2026 18:30

Dollymylove · 17/02/2026 16:33

Depends how rich they are 😅
Rupert Murdoch seems to attract some very good looking younger women 🤣

His wallet is very handsome!

likelysuspect · 17/02/2026 18:12

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 17/02/2026 16:37

George Clooney’s pretty hot, he’s 64.

So’s Springsteen. He’s in his 70’s

Wouldnt say no to Jeff Goldblum either. He’s 74

Yes, (not to George Clooney personally, he's always looked like an old grandad to me), but as I said, few and fair between, who else you got?

The very idea that the older person (and thats me) are much more attractive and sexually desirable than people in their 20-40s is a real reach that you would probably only be arguing on this website.

likelysuspect · 17/02/2026 18:09

CurlewKate · 17/02/2026 16:26

Nothing wrong with using their imaginations!

Yes by thinking about/imagining women, ones they know, ones on the telly, ones on the street.

They wont be thinking about the shopping list

It really makes no odds if its from something they are watching there and then or something they have seen or from thinking about Lorraine Kelly (first person off the top of my head).

Growlybear83 · 17/02/2026 17:40

Tacohill · 17/02/2026 17:25

There were also topless page 3 models on the sun.

The younger generations would be shocked at it but this was normal for the older generations.

Exactly. no-one thought there was anything wrong with the page 3 models at the time, and many people still wouldn’t see anything wrong with it. They were laid well and several of the newspaper models went on to have very lucrative careers.

CurlewKate · 17/02/2026 17:40

Tacohill · 17/02/2026 17:25

There were also topless page 3 models on the sun.

The younger generations would be shocked at it but this was normal for the older generations.

Good that, to some extent, times have changed.

FoxtrotOscarFoxtrotOscar · 17/02/2026 17:31

My friend's father had carers at home when he was in his early 80s with Alzheimer's. They would turn up to find him knocking back the wine whilst watching Naked Attraction on his big screen tv.

FreeWheezin · 17/02/2026 17:28

My mum was a geriatric nurse. There was an old lady in the hospital that liked to go outside on a sunny day. For a few weeks she was very particular about where she wanted to go outside. My mum soon realised she was ogling the builders with their shirts off across the road. My mum joked with her about it and she said "they wouldn't look at me twice these days, but it doesn't stop me day dreaming".

Tacohill · 17/02/2026 17:25

Growlybear83 · 17/02/2026 17:17

In the 60s, 70s, and 80s strippers in pubs were commonplace, especially at lunchtime on Sundays. There was usually a stripper at the pub we went to most Sundays, and people were so used to it that they mostly didn’t bat an eyelid.

There were also topless page 3 models on the sun.

The younger generations would be shocked at it but this was normal for the older generations.

Tacohill · 17/02/2026 17:24

Its not his age, it’s that he’s her dad.

I’m sure my much younger dad or mum watches similar but I really don’t want to think about it.

I’m not sure why you’d be grossed out about his age though.

toomuchfaff · 17/02/2026 17:22

YANBU to be disgusted - you cant help what disgusts you.

He is not unreasonable to watch porn. He didnt ask your permission, he didnt need it, he probably wouldn't have chosen to have the legal contents of his phoned shared with his niece.

Your cousin is being unreasonable to have shared the contents of his phone with you, and then to be annoyed at you for being disgusted; they themselves are the reason you have the knowledge of his activities; if they hadn't told you, you wouldnt be disgusted.

Accountability for that sits with them.

mondaytosunday · 17/02/2026 17:20

Why not? I mean I feel the same about that as if he was 30, I really don’t see the difference ! In fact more forgivable at his age as he’s probably not getting much real life action!!

Naunet · 17/02/2026 17:18

Strngerthings · 17/02/2026 17:14

when a guy observes a women its wrong
so why then its it not wrong when its a women observing a male ?

Observing women or 572 open tabs showing womens crotches? Why the need to minimise that?

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