Strange situation on the train with parent

It sounds like the boy was fooling around for dad's attention. Dad joined in for fun, noticed OP haughtiness in staring and stared back.
FGS. 🙄

Crap parenting.

Not strictly true. Men are actually able to control the behaviour of other men quite often. Unless this specimen was very confident he could handle himself I very much doubt he'd have gone out of his way to antagonise a disapproving man.

Chips098
Absolutely 'orrible
Be thankful the pig didn't actually squeak at you
Also
Wonder what the mum/partners like of said Sty family

Oh Op. How disgusting of the pair of them. I’d have got up and moved, even if I had to stand the rest of the way.

I can remember a journey I did a few years ago. I was sitting on my own, no one opposite and no one across from me. At the next station a man got on and sat opposite me. He then proceeded to sniff non stop. Not only did it annoy me but it made me feel uncomfortable. Just before the next stop he produced a bottle of Jonnie Walker from his pocket and started swigging large gulps. As the train pulled in, I grabbed my stuff, got off the train and ran down the platform looking for a carriage with a lot more people in. Found one and sat opposite a couple and their dog for the rest of the way. It’s the first time I’ve ever felt unsafe on public transport.

Why bring politics into this discussion?? You have absolutely no idea of his voting past or intentions. Weird.

Why bring politics into this discussion?? You have absolutely no idea of his voting past or intentions. Weird.

What a freak! I sit with a guy at work on breaks & omg the noise he makes, I just can't get my head round why his parents didn't tell him as a kid. It's just basic manners

Well, then don’t come on the internet to whine about the child’s parent mocking you after they register your ill-concealed disgust?

I don’t think many posters are actually judging the child, more the parent for not only failing to correct him but joining in.

I am not a perfect parent, nobody is, but I wouldn’t see my child eating with their mouth open and not correct her.

Why? If people behave in a disgusting manner, disgust will register on the faces of others.

I probably looked at him a second longer than I should've done...

Off with your head!! You didn't even SAY anything. You are kind of naturally facing the person sitting across from you in a four-seater in a crowded carriage, so yes, looks will happen even if everyone's behaviour is exemplary. I'd possibly give the son some benefit of the doubt, but unless wankerism has been made a protected characteristic the dad's on a shoogly peg. But I think all you could have realistically done is not given him any of the attention he was looking for.

No I’ve been a real arsehole at times. And I have been judged and held accountable too - shamed and told off and taught what is and what is not OK through those reactions.

Thats how people learn to be less arsehole-y as they grow!

Now, remember back to a time when you yourself have not behaved impeccably, oh come on, dont give me all that nonsense that you have always, in every situation, regardless of stress, illness and so on behaved perfectly? Never done a little sneeze without a tissue? Never drank too much and made an arse of yourself?

What about your kid or dog?

Well you must be an amazing person to know.

definitely gross. I’d of told my son to not eat like that. How horrible and unmannered. Also people eating like that irritate the life out of me!

Well yes, his son should be judged. 12 is old enough to have learned nobody wants to see your tonsils or hear you chew.

You should have smiled and said "he looks just like you"

I’d be weirded out by a stranger staring at my child for longer than necessary in order to try to modify my child’s behaviour. It’s completely inappropriate and downright dangerous to start goading someone via their child in a public space.
you have no idea who or what you are dealing with and all the potential repercussions, for you, the child or for other passengers .
the kid could have sen and the dad might have come to the end of his tether with judgy strangers.
its not your job to discipline children you don’t know, it’s inappropriate and creepy to stare at someone else’s child.
youre lucky that’s all the dad did, that could have escalated horribly .

If a protective mum reacted the same way as the dad, would people say it’s misogyny ?

Exactly this. And he overrated. But we don't know their story. The kid could have a disability of some kind, and maybe gets judged everywhere he goes and his dad is sick to death of it.

Or he could be completely fine and just ill mannered and his dad is the reason for it.

We will never know, but it really is just best not to judge. If his dad noticed you looking, it was probably for longer than you are saying.

Just one step away from it being OP's fault that the father acted as he did. Women are not responsible for men's behaviour - why do some women have such a problem with that?🙄

I draw your attention to those of us on this thread trying to help you and other judgemental posters understand how draining it is to have to repeatedly deal with other people's rudeness day after day after day.

Foul

Aggressive twat

Putting the onus on the woman to ‘be nice’ again …

He was being judged for having no manners .

Why not? In case it offends a male bully?
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