Strange situation on the train with parent

Dragged up.

They sound like neanderthals. At the end of the day don't let it bother you. You probably won't see them again.

Why? She was right to show her disgust. Poor boy, no idea how to behave.

Surely you have more important things in life to concern yourself with. Honestly FFS!

my DH is a noisy eater and it drives me round the bend.

I dont tihnk he knows he is anti social n this regard and I dont tihnk he knows he is doin it. I try to tell him.

The chav apple doesn't fall far from the chav tree.

Uuuuurgh that made me want to run just reading it.

I'd have yeeted them both out the nearest window.

Exaggerated chewing, definitely.

You wouldn't have known DS had a problem. He didn't struggle to manipulate his jaws. He just couldn't close them.

From how I read the OP, I don't think they could distinguish either, although I may be wrong in reading that from the post.

You can usually tell the difference when someone is chewing obnoxiously and when someone can't help it though. It's normally quite obvious isn't it? You can tell by watching someone if their struggling to eat or struggle with their mouth/jaw and you can tell when someone's doing it on purpose too

I think you're confusing me with other posters in regard DSs jaw misalignment, but there we are, we can't expect everyone who uses a public forum to read properly.

Would you have liked my son, and other children/adults with additional needs/medical conditions to always wear a sign round their neck informing you of their disabilities? Would that be better for you so you know who to judge and who not to judge?

You seem to place such a high importance on strangers sharing their personal information with each other to placate perceived rudeness, so maybe that's the solution that you'd prefer in order to avoid confrontation.

Alternatively, it's none of your business why my DS couldn't chew with a closed mouth and the prolonged judgemental stare would have provoked me to address it in some way. As it's draining to have to deal with judgemental pearl clutchers every flipping day.

Wow, I have various neurodiversity and sen, and so do my kids, and I also work with disabled people and have worked in a SEN school, and If you were giving my kid sweets on a train and ignoring that they were eating with an open mouth, and then also did the gross open mouth chewing to the other passengers...
I'd be so shocked. That's inappropriate and unprofessional if that was your student, and really rude and poor role model if that was your child you were his dad.

It's really repulsive to have to witness other people's gross eating habits.
If it was someone who had clear learning or physical disabilities then I would not expect the same manners, but i would still not want to watch them eating.

Not necessarily.

No, simply acknowledging that either is a possibility.

If she had said "You enjoying that sweet young man?" no doubt the father would have thought she was being sarcastic and taking the p*ss

Yes, life is better when you are bice but he certainly wasn't being nice

Did I claim to know all about disabilities? Or are you looking for a row? It's my opinion that the child and parent was being rude and it's your opinion that you they are SEN and couldn't help it 🤷‍♀️

I agree. It’s astoundingly ignorant to think that everyone else’s experience of a condition is the same as your own and your children’s. That poster has mentioned that one of her children has dyspraxia, a condition that affects everyone differently, just like ASD. Both my children are autistic (one diagnosed, one not in a position to be assessed at the moment) and they are wildly different. My 13yo eats with his mouth open, not wide enough to see the food, but wide enough to be a bit noisy. It’s not a physical problem, but a trait of his OCD. I can’t pretend to understand it, except in the sense that it’s something he can’t control like the rest of his OCD. He is virtually agoraphobic, so any rare time he wants to chomp food a bit noisily in public, I’m bloody well going to let him. The noise drives me bananas, but I suppress my extreme discomfort (misophonia) and we usually have a lovely time.

If it was just a result of a parent who didn't care that his child had terrible eating habits, how would the man have known that was what OP was staring at in order to have such a response?

He’s just a dick. Maybe there is hope for his son, but I wouldn’t hold my breath 😁

No one's says all children with SEN can't eat properly but that doesn't mean this child was just been rude. PP gave an example earlier of a physical disability that means her relative can't eat with his mouth closed, but you have an autistic child so know everything about all disabilities?

This is not quite the same thing but also maybe the same thing..

DC is in a NICU open plan type ward and I, a woman, was very rude yesterday to someone (a visitor for another baby) who stared at my DC whilst having a stoma bag change. We've been there 43 days now... I was, and still am, overwhelmed, tired, emotional and that lady was what broke the camel's back. It was wrong of me and I should have dealt with my own emotions better. I know DH has also recently been snappy with someone.

Could it be that this man's child had a problem (maybe SEN) and he just didn't respond politely or in the right way just because he too was fed up of people looking at his son a second longer than they should be. Maybe he was just having a bad day.

I think I too would have once said how inexcusable his behaviour was.. but now I have experienced a little bit what an emotional existence it is to have a child with additional needs, I can completely see how someone might snap.

Quite, she would have no idea if the boy had learning difficulties. I have an autistic grandson that eats like this. I would not be happy with the staring.

Riiiiight...🙄

Oh give over. I'm autistic and my kids are too,even my dyspraxic SPD autistic child knows to eat with his mouth closed

What happened on the train was not SEN. It was rude people being rude