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Strange situation on the train with parent

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Chips098 · 17/02/2026 08:40

It's not a massive deal, just slightly odd from the (presumed) parent. I was sitting opposite a boy who looked around 12 and a middle aged man.
The boy was eating sweets with his mouth wide open, I know some children don't always eat with their mouths closed, especially toddlers, but the noise it was making was so loud and it was like he was opening his mouth for the dentist every time.
It wasn't nice manners really, I know it's not my child or my business. I probably looked at him a second longer than I should've done, I didn't have any earphones to put in and train was packed out.

The father must've seen this because he asked the kid for a sweet, then proceeded to eat it in the exact same mouth wide open manner, staring at me. I understand i shouldn't have looked at the kid but the Dad knew what he was doing, and I found it a bit intimidating. Does this sound odd or was i in the wrong?

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KateCroy · 17/02/2026 08:46

Maybe work on not letting your feelings show on your face so obviously?

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 17/02/2026 08:45

Another day, another dickhead trying to intimate a women.... who had the audacity to correctly non verbally imply his ill-mannered child show a drop of consideration for others in a public space...

BlusteryLake · 17/02/2026 08:45

Some people are just plain anti social. He absolutely knew that was why you looked in his son's direction. This is how we end up with generations of awful people.

Valentinny · 17/02/2026 08:45

Yuck. I watched an old advert for 'pop tarts' earlier. Two little boys sat at a table, holding and using cutlery properly, chewing with their mouths closed and not speaking with their mouths full. So nice.

Chips098 · 17/02/2026 08:43

I understand the father probably felt his son was being judged.

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AudiobookListener · 17/02/2026 08:43

Of course you weren't in the wrong. It seems to me that a scummy misogynist is teaching his kid to have the same attitudes. I'm sorry this happened to you.

Edenmum2 · 17/02/2026 08:42

Just be glad they were only in your life for a brief moment

Newyearsameme26 · 17/02/2026 08:42

"At least we know where he gets it from"

Easier to criticise others than look at themselves.

Chips098 · 17/02/2026 08:42

He's just a kid I know, but the man was deliberately trying to intimidate me/make a point and that disturbed me a bit.

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LividArse · 17/02/2026 08:41

Gross.

People being dragged up.