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To think the test must be wrong

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chillidoritto · 16/02/2026 16:37

I am in a state of hysteria here. I am in the peri and on HRT. We haven’t been particularly careful because I didn’t think I needed to be.

Have been feeling tired, off colour and have had ridiculously sore boobs. Have just had a positive test.

Can the HRT hormones somehow affect the outcome of the test?! This is the hope I am clinging on to.

Anyone?

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Alpacajigsaw · 17/02/2026 20:15

Glad it’s early enough to have a medical termination. Ignore the judgemental types. These things happen.

bloomingbonkerz · 17/02/2026 20:15

Wow I’m 48 and couldn’t think of anything worse then a baby on top of all the menopause and young twins 🩷🩷
hope you have friends and family you can talk to be kind To yourself in the next few months

Iceyday · 17/02/2026 20:04

A terrible shock but when I was your age I was genuinely stunned at the number of accidents I heard of.
The lovely nurse at my GP's surgery was indiscreet about it, without naming names at all of course.
We were both 50 and she mentioned she had told her husband of a spate of menopausal pregnancies, and she said he was absolutely horrified by them, as was I.
One woman was 56, with 3 adult children living away from home. It was pure luck that it was picked up early when she went for her annual bloods checkup.

You are undoubtedly making the right decision for your family.
Floridix with Iron is a great pick up tonic that might be worth considering to help you through this.

USaYwHatNow · 17/02/2026 19:41

Hey OP, just wanted to send you support. My mum was a 'menopause baby', conceived when my Nan was 49, born when my Nan turned 50. It was obviously a huge shock. I don't think my Nan would have changed a thing, however it did mean that she was a lot older as my mum was growing up and I never met her. DM is now 60 and all my aunts and uncles are either RIP or in their mid 80s. It doesn't matter what other people think, you're doing what's right for you and your family and that's all that matters.

SockFluffInTheBath · 17/02/2026 19:03

Oh good grief, what a shock OP. Take care of yourself 💐

summernights24 · 17/02/2026 19:03

Moen · 16/02/2026 16:51

And that’s OK. It’s your body and your choice. I had to make the same choice last year.

Speak to your GP and go from there. BPAS are really helpful too x

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Sgreenpy · 17/02/2026 18:53

BlimeyOReillyO · 17/02/2026 18:51

You need to read the OPs posts!

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I was replying to Figgygal - not the OP, about taking risks!
I understand what has transpired with the OP.

BlimeyOReillyO · 17/02/2026 18:51

Sgreenpy · 17/02/2026 18:50

A friend of mine got pregnant age 45, my cousin at 43. Their children are 7 and 15 respectively.
Don't take risks - or encourage your OH to have the snip.

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You need to read the OPs posts!

Sgreenpy · 17/02/2026 18:50

Figgygal · 17/02/2026 15:23

I am absolutely heeding your warning op
Been a bit more casual recently at 45 around contraception and needed a shake up
It's right thing for you and your family take comfort in that

A friend of mine got pregnant age 45, my cousin at 43. Their children are 7 and 15 respectively.
Don't take risks - or encourage your OH to have the snip.

BarryManilowsWardrobe · 17/02/2026 18:49

@Elleoeez good job it’s got absolutely fuck all to do with you what other women do with their bodies then. Don’t like abortion, don’t have one. How dare you judge women for accessing legal healthcare.

GhettoSnoopystar · 17/02/2026 18:38

Just here to say I’m sorry you’re going through this, OP.

Pennyplant19 · 17/02/2026 18:23

Bless your heart. Thinking of you whatever you choose. Ignore the preachy comments and do what’s right for you and your family. Sending hugs x

Sophue · 17/02/2026 18:22

Just want to say what a lovely supportive thread this has been and to wish you well.

metalbottle · 17/02/2026 17:59

Good luck with it all and well done for making the sensible decision @chillidoritto

WHYohwhy12 · 17/02/2026 17:58

HarshbutTrue2 · 17/02/2026 17:34

Best wishes. Hope all goes well.
A little bit of grim consolation, a friend of mine became pregnant aged about 48. She had a grown up family but was prepared to keep the baby. She miscarried soon after. There's a high chance that you would have lost the baby anyway.

I had a shock pregnancy at 45 ( peri and periods already all over the place) turned out to be a complete molar ( so egg had no maternal material in it but sperm tried to fertilise it anyway) Had to have a d&c to prevent risk of cancer. I think there's an increased risk of molar pregnancies with age ( I had never heard of them before). Had no sign it was a molar till early scan. So yes agree there's a high chance that it wouldn't lead to full term anyway. Sending you hugs x

HarshbutTrue2 · 17/02/2026 17:34

Best wishes. Hope all goes well.
A little bit of grim consolation, a friend of mine became pregnant aged about 48. She had a grown up family but was prepared to keep the baby. She miscarried soon after. There's a high chance that you would have lost the baby anyway.

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 17/02/2026 17:30

chillidoritto · 16/02/2026 21:27

To those people attacking me, I hope you never make a mistake. I have never heard of anyone my age having a baby / getting pregnant and my peri symptoms had been sufficient enough to make me think I was safe. My youngest boys are in reception, I was starting to get my life back.

My mum is 17 years younger than her sibling, her mum having had her at 49. It’s more common than you would think.

Marieb19 · 17/02/2026 17:28

Good luck.

Geobaby · 17/02/2026 17:24

PortSalutPlease · 16/02/2026 18:36

It’s extremely common, but many pregnancies at this age end in early miscarriage and as periods tend to be so irregular at this point of menopause, many women don’t realise.

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I'm 50 tomorrow and my periods are still as regular as clockwork!

BotterMon · 17/02/2026 17:22

Hope all goes well OP and salutary lesson for so many. Who'd have thunk it?

Cardomomle · 17/02/2026 16:54

Ladygardenerinderby · 17/02/2026 16:52

Oh gosh I bet you’re in a state of shock I would be . Get another test to confirm but you have options don’t forget that . Take care

Read her updates.

Ladygardenerinderby · 17/02/2026 16:52

Oh gosh I bet you’re in a state of shock I would be . Get another test to confirm but you have options don’t forget that . Take care

Jackiepumpkinhead · 17/02/2026 16:51

There seems to be a lack of understanding amongst women in their 40’s and 50’s around perimenopause and fertility. Not judging, have had a friend in the same situation.

blueberrylady · 17/02/2026 16:50

youve been very brave in sharing this to make other women aware 💐 i hope your recovery is quick and everything goes as smoothly as possible for you and you’re back to feeling better soon🩷 sending love and strength

MachineBee · 17/02/2026 16:40

Sending @chillidoritto much love and best wishes. I’m so pleased you’ve had supportive medics see you so quickly and positively.

just came on to echo other PPs who say sperm can linger for a while in tubes after a vasectomy. And if you need any other means of persuading your DH to do his bit, remind him you’ve already carried 5 DCs! Your body has done its bit for the family. Time for him to step up!