To think the test must be wrong

Gosh OP what a shock. If I were in your shoes I think I would have to put myself first, go through the process and draw a line under it. Sounds harsh but it sounds like you know its not the right future for you now. I am 40 with 3 kids 8 and under and absolutely couldn't do it again, i am exhausted in every manner. This is eye opening that I need to stay vigilant until the very very end. Wishing you the very best op, and dont beat yourself up.

Do you think your sterilisation failed@Muffsies? think you can still have ectopics but obviously if you're in yr late 40s, far more early pregnancies fail as it's hardly the ideal age and there are far more issues with the viability of embryos. I think a lot of 'late periods' in women of any age are probably extremely early miscarriages.

I am a similar age to you, and my body is in SUCH a mess. Peri, then fibroids started suddenly growing even larger (30+ years of them now) then no periods for 1.5 years, then last year they returned with an absolute bang. You name it.

I know so many women have the same / similar / their own version of my above nonsense. NO WONDER you sound so confused, you poor love. We are told "oooh past 40 you can forget getting pregnant!" until the cows come home. Then, this (possibly) happens to you.

You don't need anyone's permission to do what's right for you, and whatever you do, I hope you're OK. Wishing you all the best x

I assumed he meant they keep conceiving til they no longer can

of course there are cultural differences and expectations

Women in Eastern Europe are not biologically different than women here. Whoever told you that is wrong.

A GP absolutely can’t tell from a physical exam 🫣

Op this is absolutely a time when you put yourself first, unusual for mums I know! You know exactly what a baby would entail and you alone know if you could cope. I’m not hugely pro abortion but I absolutely would if I were you now. And yes, ignore the judgement, it seems to be sport for some posters. Take care.

Please ignore them op, these things happen
Make the decision that is right for you, and do not let others pull you down

My mom was 49 and a half when she had me, my eldest sibling is 31 years older than me, I have nephews and nieces older than me.
Growing up almost everyone thought my mom and dad were my grandparents.
My parents were great but they were both tired by the time they had me and that meant we didn't do that much when I was a child.
The worst part is that I was only a teenager when I lost my dad, and 30 when I lost my mom. I miss them a lot, especially my mom.
Just thought I would let you know what it was like being the child of older parents.
It's entirely up to you what you choose to do, it's your body, your choice.

False ovulation hormones yes but not HCG.

You make the decisions that suit you and your life and sod the ignorant idiots who try to preach to you!

I was surprised to find that having HRT has been the first time I've had anything approaching a regular cycle! Very light bleeding, but definitely an almost monthly cycle, so assumed I could also get pregnant if I were having unprotected sex with a male, although being lesbian meant this wasn't likely thankfully, at 53 and disabled that would certainly not be a good situation to find myself in! Hugs to you OP, you can get your life back and don't feel in the least bit guilty for any decisions you make to allow you to do so.

Not helpful. Its the ops body so her choice. You have no right to judge her or anyone.

Christ there’s some judgemental shites on here tonight.

I'm 48, on HRT, with irregular periods. 2 weeks ago i had really sore breasts, just like in early pregnancy, i even had feelings of nausea exactly like morning sickness. If it hadn't have been for the fact that i've had a sterilisation (well, two actually, but that's another story) i wouldv'e been CONVINCED i was pregnant.. I wasn't (tfft), but i had the mother of all periods afterwards. I'm now really curious if i would've got a positive test, it was just like early pregnancy.

Hopefully, this is a hormonal blip caused by peri. Got everything crossed for you that it all works out 🤞🤞🤞

OP don't listen to people on here who aren't living your life.
You need to make a decision that is right for you. X

OP, try not to panic. You have options, and at your age, there is a high chance that you don’t need to decide to abort because early miscarriages are the most common outcome.

Ah OP, I’m sorry you’re in a situation you don’t want to be in 💛 especially involving a pregnancy. I hope you have confirmation it is a false positive.
If it is a positive, do what is best for you!
You have 5 children, you’re 49, it is absolutely okay for you to choose not to continue the pregnancy. x

Please ignore the idiots, OP. Something like 40-45% of women in this country will terminate a pregnancy for very good reasons during their lifetime. Lots of us on here have needed these services.

At 50 years of age, the clinic is going to be very supportive of you, and sympathetic to your circumstances around timing, so please do seek assistance as soon as possible. Best wishes

Try not to worry. You have plenty time to make a decision if you are pregnant. Consider how another baby will impact your whole family. You've been a bit careless and (possibly) very unlucky. I think most of us have made mistakes at some time.

Oh! Thanks for the info.

@PortSalutPlease · Today 18:33

I’m so sorry but your hormones can have a “last hurrah” right at the end, making you extremely fertile for a brief window.

That's not true.

At around 40-41 years old, some women get a strong feeling of broodiness as they know their fertile days are numbered, but it's not true that women suddenly get a brief window of time (in their late 40s) when they are 'extremely fertile' as your post implies!

.

Sorry I doubt it is wrong. Luckily you do have options. Ignore all the pro lifers who slime their way onto this thread.

I'm sorry OP. You sound so stressed. I hope you can get everything sorted quickly with your GP. Good luck.

Sending love OP. 💐

I'm sure I read something the other day that you are more prone to false positives during perimenopause, but I can't remember any details as I didn't give it much notice. A GP should be able to tell from a physical exam if you are pregnant or not.

'Change of life babies' used to be a thing, when the woman thought she was safe and she wasn't yet. My grandmother had a baby at your age.

All the best with it OP. I hope you get the result you want here.