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How are Grammar schools so much better than comprehensives if they get the same funding?

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Karma1387 · 16/02/2026 15:33

Me and my partner are in a situation where we are looking to relocate in order to move to a Grammar school area. This is going to involve us both having to find new jobs and coordinate a house move at the same time.

Some of my family disagree with our decision to move for the sake of grammar school and don't see how they can be better than a normal comprehensive school.

I am hoping some people on here will have some knowledge on how grammar schools achieve so much better than comprehensives?

Also anyone with experience with grammar schools they could share? From what I have read the class sizes aren't much different to comprehensives and they get the same funding. Is it literally just a case of because they do the 11+ they tend to only take on the more academically inclined kids. Does this translate to less bad behaviour etc compared to comprehensive schools?

The move is going to be stressful with us both trying to find new jobs plus moving further away from both our families I want it to be worth it! Our local comprehensive is awful for results and we want to give the kids the best opportunities.

Personally I would rather homeschool and fully keep them out of the school system but my partner is very against this and is determined we need to move to a grammar school area so any advise to aid our discussion would be amazing!

Are we being unreasonable to relocate for the possibility of grammar school?

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Meadowfinch · 16/02/2026 15:47

Ileithyia · 16/02/2026 15:42

This is why they have better exam stats. Your child has to pass the 11+ to get in, so you’re proposing a huge upheaval which may not even be worth it. A bright child will excel at a state school.

A bright pupil will excel in a good state school.

LeedsLoiner · 16/02/2026 15:46

Just bear in mind that if your DC start to struggle the school will want nothing to do with them as they might bring the "everyone gets 9 A GCSE's, As at A Level and goes to a Russell Group University" quota down.

My local grammar would not let children enter exams if they were not predicted to get a high pass - the parents had to pay for the child to take the exam privately and if they good a good enough grade the school refunded the cost.

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 16/02/2026 15:46

What happens if your child doesn’t pass the 11+? In a place like Lincolnshire (or Kent), Secondary Moderns are generally not great options. A really good comprehensive would be worth moving for. It’s absolutely not worth moving to a grammar county.

And, FWIW, the brightest child I taught did not pass the 11+ - and I teach in East Kent, where over a quarter of children go to grammar schools.

Rockstick · 16/02/2026 15:46

Karma1387 · 16/02/2026 15:45

The comps in the area aren't great which is my concern! Not necessarily awful but not good either.

Well they wouldn’t be becusse all the "good" families have been skimmed off.

MimiGC · 16/02/2026 15:46

How old are your children now? Do you have any inkling of their academic abilities?

Mahabaratah · 16/02/2026 15:46

Best thing about a grammar school is that your child is with like minded intelligent children. They don't need to be held back by having lessons catered to weaker students.

Another thing is that grammar schools ensure teachers have subjects directly related to the field they teach. No pe teachers teaching geography.

Karma1387 · 16/02/2026 15:45

DamsonGoldfinch · 16/02/2026 15:39

Kids are more academically capable and typically come from supportive families with engaged parents and often from more affluent families.

Obviously your kids have to pass the 11+ to get in so I suppose it depends on how confident you are your kids are able to do that. I’d make sure the comps in the area are also strong.

The comps in the area aren't great which is my concern! Not necessarily awful but not good either.

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Rockstick · 16/02/2026 15:45

Really OP?

Because they keep the tiff raff out. Because only families with the means and inclination to hot house DC get in. Because they generally have very low FSM children.

whiteroseredrose · 16/02/2026 15:44

The parents are also more likely to care, which translates to better respect for teachers and higher ambitions.

This.

Simonjt · 16/02/2026 15:44

I experienced both as a child, comp for half of year seven, grammar from easter of year seven until the end of year nine, then back to a comp for GCSE. Personally the quality of teaching I had at my grammar was very poor, it wasn’t engaging, if you needed any form of suppory it was tough. Where as at my comps teachers made an effort, they also cared.

A school being good isn’t about money, its about involvement, so a teacher who doesn’t have to battle behaviour is much happier on £35k than one who does have to battle behaviour is going to be happier and less pissed off about their wage being low.

Ladyinamask · 16/02/2026 15:43

Selective so obviously academically able children = better results.

Does your local compressive not stream? Those local to us all set by ability so the top sets moving at a faster pace. The lower sets tend to be smaller so any disruption is delt with. We are a non grammar area which always gets very good results.

Just make damn sure you have academic children before you move to a grammar area because the secondary modern in grammar areas ( are they called comprehensive in a grammar area still?) will not be an anywhere near as good as non grammar areas and will have more disruption. That will be where your child go's if they fail the 11 +. So be a little careful.

Karma1387 · 16/02/2026 15:43

justasmallbiz · 16/02/2026 15:38

The parents are also more likely to care, which translates to better respect for teachers and higher ambitions. The difference between a grammar vs comprehensive classroom is astounding on behaviour alone.

It is worth the move, provided your child gets a place.

I do think this is my slight worry. We move for the school with no guarantee all or any kids will get in!

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Holymolyrigmorole · 16/02/2026 15:43

I live in a state Grammar area and the local comprehensives are so abysmal that we would have gone private had our kids not passed the 11+

Snorlaxo · 16/02/2026 15:43

Karma1387 · 16/02/2026 15:37

So its worth relocating to give the kids a chance at a better environment?

Are your kids top of your class right now?

Are you willing to spend a couple of years or so tutoring for the exam depending on if the grammar is selective or super selective?

Are you willing to push your kids to study when they’d rather do something else like play?

If your child currently goes to a state school then you need to teach ahead of the curriculum and you need to practice the test format for your area because state schools don’t teach that kind of exam during school hours.

Some kids are academic, will happily study and are able to cope with the competitive aspect.

As long as the plan B school is good, it’s worth a shot imo but don’t focus on the grammar aspect and forget that there’s a chance that your child won’t get a slot.

LightningMode · 16/02/2026 15:43

Karma1387 · 16/02/2026 15:37

So its worth relocating to give the kids a chance at a better environment?

Only if your kids are clever enough to get into the grammar school.

SilenceInside · 16/02/2026 15:42

It is possible to find areas where all the local state schools are comprehensive but also good/outstanding with good behaviour. So there doesn’t have to be a simple choice between your current area with poor state schools and moving to a competitive selective grammar school system.

Ileithyia · 16/02/2026 15:42

User253853 · 16/02/2026 15:34

The kids are more academically capable and are more likely to apply themselves in the classroom.

This is why they have better exam stats. Your child has to pass the 11+ to get in, so you’re proposing a huge upheaval which may not even be worth it. A bright child will excel at a state school.

Swiftie1878 · 16/02/2026 15:41

It’s not that complicated! Grammars are selective.

Gizlotsmum · 16/02/2026 15:41

My son is at a grammar, most kids are there to learn. Some are disruptive but it is a smaller percentage. The intake is the top 25% roughly of the year. Parents often donate more to the school. Teachers have left and come back so it must be doing something right

Also a smaller whole year intake so class sizes similar but fewer classes

Karma1387 · 16/02/2026 15:41

treeowl · 16/02/2026 15:36

Are we being unreasonable to relocate for the possibility of grammar school?

Is the school very selective? I wouldn’t move away from family & give up jobs for a school. There are some very good comps as well.

Edited

We were originally going to move to Chelmsford to be closer to my partners family and give the kids a shot at the grammar school there but it is very selective.

We are now exploring lincolnshire as there are more grammar schools so they aren't quite as selective but of course you never know if your kids will be academically inclined!

We are in a situation where our local comps are very very bad. But for us to move even 25 mins up the road to some slightly betetr ones causes house prices 150-200k so DP doesn't want to pay for a more expensive house for an average school which could decline by the time our kids go.

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Meadowfinch · 16/02/2026 15:41

Simple. They are academically selective, so they choose the best applicants.
They generally don't end up with disruptive or less able children who slow down the pace of learning.

I went to a fiercely competitive grammar in the 70s. Each year we took the top 60 of about 8,000 applicants. We had to sit an exam and have an interview. Only 10% of children went on to university then, yet every one in my year took a degree.
I was a fsm child, but a lot of my class mates were upper middle class with supportive and involved parents who did everything they could to support their child's learning. Pupils wanted to learn. Expectations were high, no-one was bullied for being a swot, we did latin, debating and public speaking. The school had chess and bridge societies and we supported each others' learning. Everyone took 4 a'levels. No money was spent on remedial learning.

SweetChilliGirl · 16/02/2026 15:40

Also, schools have to fund the first £6000 of costs for any child who has additional needs, even if they have an EHCP. Few children with SEN = lower bill for SEN costs.

FrodisCapering · 16/02/2026 15:40

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BillieWiper · 16/02/2026 15:39

Because they only let in kids who are above a certain educational ability. They are academically selective.

Comps have no control over how able or academic the students may or may not be.

So there will be very low achievers making the school look worse overall, despite there also being plenty of average and or smart ones.

WindyAnna · 16/02/2026 15:39

If you select who attend the school based on academic ability then the results will be higher. In our area children start being coached and tutored for the 11+ from an early age.