my husband has severe anxiety and mental health.
so we are living seperate at the moment. I live with my two kids at my parents. And he is at his mums house.
so he says due to his mental health he doesn’t want to visit my parents ( comes a 1-2 x a week). He just says hello to them, and goes into the room and doesn’t speak after. he also has health anxiety and is scared to go out alone at times.
anyway, I always have to meet him at his mums or around his mums. Which is like 30-40 minutes journey each way.
yesterday we had a celebration at my in-laws so I was there.
today we made a plan to take the kids out somewhere. But he keeps telling me to first go into his mums house and stay a bit.
he knows how I feel this past 1-2 weeks. My mil treated me very badly, post partum both times. And one of her sons also had a baby, but she leaves them to it.
so I am very resentful towards her at the minute as it brought back horrid memories. And she never acknowledged how she made us feel.
and HE, doesn’t even spend one minute with my family- saying he feels uncomfortable. So for me, why should I go around today?
My son stayed over last night at theirs due to the holiday. And now he is not answering me.
I am guessing it’s to please his mum, so that his mum doesn’t get negative/upset IM GUESSING.
am I being unreasonable for not wanting to go inside today?
they also live in a flat so climbing the stairs is really long, and I’ve also got a bad cold.
is he trying to manipulate me?
I know he does have mental health issues- anxiety/depression
and this is the reason why my mil got away with treating me bad. Because he was too scared or his mum.