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To be irritated on here when suggestions are phrased as commands?

28 replies

mssneezealot · 16/02/2026 09:59

It’s so bossy. The suggestion may or may not be helpful but it’s the way it’s put.

’I’m struggling with how to keep my children entertained this half term as the weather is so bad - they are four and six, any ideas? We don’t have much money.’

’Have you got waterproofs? They might just enjoy going out anyway.’ is fine.

’Wellies and waterproofs. Get outside.’ pisses me off!

Or is it just me? There’s definitely some bossy posters here!

OP posts:
BigFishLittleFishCardboardBoxes · 16/02/2026 10:02

I think it goes both ways.

‘Suggest me some baby names’.

Um..no.

Thereinaminute · 16/02/2026 10:01

It's the internet. You don't have to do anything just because someone else tells you..if someone said the latter to me, I'd take it as what they would do; not a command.

I don't take commands from anyone whether they intend to give them or not.

So I would likely phrase suggestions as above to convey passion rather than a command to the poster, as that's just odd.

YesSirICanNameChange · 16/02/2026 10:01

YANBU. I tend to think it's people who no one listens to in real life so they act like this on Mumsnet.