I have name changed for very obvious reasons. I am really struggling, throwing away an almost four decade marriage because I cannot summon up the desire to please my husband.It is not a decision to take lightly but I cannot/do not, expect him to stay.
We have a lovely contented life or so I thought.
My husband of almost 40 years has decided that, after almost 25 years of no sexual intimacy, mutually agreed, that it's no longer acceptable, for him.
I have zero desire but obviously have capitulated to avert his feelings of rejection.
I'm thinking that we should actually divorce, as I really cannot continue to force myself to be sexually intimate when I really don't want to be.
So often, on MN, I see people saying that sex is such a significant and vital part of a relationship and without it, for some, the relationship would be untenable but I've never felt that way.
So YANBU = to think that divorce is the only way forward so that you are both "happy"
YABU = there is another way, but what, on earth, would that look like?