Page 8 | Friend leaving me whilst on holiday

roastdinner346 · 2026-02-16T01:47:16+00:00

So me and my friend went away for a weekend break (Friday to Monday), for an early celebration for my 40th birthday next week. Its the first time I've ever been anywhere with anyone else apart from my family. A few things really got to me. Firstly was she rolled her eyes and gave me looks when I said I was hungry. She's on weightloss jabs, and has no appetite at all, and can only manage a few mouthfuls, which is completely fine, but that doesn't mean I don't get hungry 🙈 The next thing was that I wanted to take a pebble off the beach for my niece, who collects them from various places. She didn't agree with this, and we were paying for something in a shop and she went on about me taking the tiny pebble, saying that it should be left there, and said it so loudly all the other people in the shop could hear. It just made me feel really small. Then last evening in the entertainment lounge, she started talking to a family next to us. Which again, isn't a problem, but I'm left on the end, left out of the conversation, and because I'm slightly deaf, I had no idea what they were saying to even join in. She asked me to get drinks, which I did, and then I turns out she had told them that I'm introverted and that I hate people. So god knows what these people must have thought about me. I will happily speak to people, if I'm included. Then today we were supposed to be going for a walk to the other side of the sea front. I needed the toilet, so she decided to go without me. I didn't realise until I texted her and she said that she's already gone. So I was left to do nothing, for hours, by myself. At that point I got really upset. She knew I wanted to go. I'd had enough and just wanted to go home. I didnt want to share a room, or pretend I was ok any more, it was exhausting, so I got a family member to kindly pick me up and take me home. For the whole weekend it felt like it was just an excuse for her to take endless selfies, not once did she ask to get one of both of us. I just wondered why I was even there. Am I overreacting for being upset about all of this?

Changingplace · 16/02/2026 08:24

Blueskies77 · 16/02/2026 08:22

“Friend” sounds hideous. It’s normal to want to eat, normal to want to use the loo before you go on a long walk and many people take pebbles from
beaches, rightly or wrongly. A friend wouldn’t lambast you like that in public or tell others you hate people. I wonder why she behaved that way? Is it normal for her to be cruel? Or could something have happened or have you unknowingly said something that has peed her off? Or eg is she jealous of your 40th bday celebration plans?

Ugh ‘jealous’ is such a cop out childish response to anyone being irritated with you.

Happyjoe · 16/02/2026 08:23

My ex years ago said you don't find out what people are like until you go travelling together!
Sorry OP, she's not a good friend, she's rude, judgemental and selfish and sounds like she gets a kick in putting you down. Sorry the whole holiday was a bit of a washout. And I hope you kept that pebble :-)

Blueskies77 · 16/02/2026 08:22

“Friend” sounds hideous. It’s normal to want to eat, normal to want to use the loo before you go on a long walk and many people take pebbles from
beaches, rightly or wrongly. A friend wouldn’t lambast you like that in public or tell others you hate people. I wonder why she behaved that way? Is it normal for her to be cruel? Or could something have happened or have you unknowingly said something that has peed her off? Or eg is she jealous of your 40th bday celebration plans?

LakieLady · 16/02/2026 08:20

PithyViewer · 16/02/2026 07:07

A few people on here have said that their former friends were really horrible to them on their holiday. Why on earth would you do that?? Why would you go on holiday with someone and then just be horrible to them? I really do not understand people.

Sometimes you don't realise how fucking irritating people are until you're with them 24/7!

I once went on holiday with a friend who was a good laugh and "liked" a drink. Because I'd never spent more than just a day or evening in their company, I didn't realise they were actually a total pisshead. Every day involved an hour or so of visiting somewhere, or a walk, followed by hours in the pub, then a "nap". The evenings were the same. They were passed out pissed by 10pm every night.

I'm more than partial to a drink myself, but not to the point of getting legless twice a day for a week.

Changingplace · 16/02/2026 08:19

PithyViewer · 16/02/2026 07:26

It doesn't sound like just different wants/expectations though. It sounds like one person being really horrible to the other.

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Not necessarily, I’d be interested to hear the friend’s version of events here, nobody goes on holiday with the intention of having a bad time and falling out with the person they’re away with.

user2848502016 · 16/02/2026 08:11

YANBU - apart from the pebble, you really shouldn’t be taking them from anywhere

DreamTheMoors · 16/02/2026 08:11

Ocelotfeet27 · 16/02/2026 08:01

To those saying one pebble makes no difference as there are millions - the whole point is that if every person that visited took one you'd end up with none left. I wouldn't have fussed about it if I was your friend but technically she is right. Otherwise she was horrible. I have experienced similar situations with excellent friends who were terrible travel buddies so I wouldn't necessarily write her off, I'd maybe distance myself a bit until I calmed down. What did you say about why you'd left early? I'd just message her and say sometjing like - I felt a bit sad that you left me after a couple of other minor incidents so thought maybe best to get out of each other's hair. Hope you had a lovely walk. Safe journey home, will be in touch soon.

They keep saying that about the pinecones in the California mountains too - how it’s bad to take even one because if everybody took just one…
And yet, there’s pinecones everywhere, wherever you go in the mountains.
My grandpa used to use them for kindling.

mummybearSW19 · 16/02/2026 08:11

DreamTheMoors · 16/02/2026 08:02

This should be accompanied by trumpets.

Listen to Ruby, OP! ❤️

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Yes. Listen to Ruby OP

dump the friend. What a nasty piece of work.

you did the right thing OP. Well done.
Now move on.

Itsmetheflamingo · 16/02/2026 08:08

Jewelanemone · 16/02/2026 08:05

Then why are people still going on about it?

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Aren’t people allowed to talk about it after the fourth person has linked an article saying there is a £1k fine? is that some kind of conversation Killer we don’t know about?

littlehyena · 16/02/2026 08:07

@roastdinner346are you married? Have children?

Morepositivemum · 16/02/2026 08:06

I have great friends that I don’t gel with on holidays, you’ve both got different expectations and wants for the holiday and I think everyone gets a bit selfish because they have what they want in their head. I wouldn’t go so far as to say it’s the end of a friendship, that sounds a bit dramatic, but I would say to talk about it and don’t go away with her again

Jewelanemone · 16/02/2026 08:05

Itsmetheflamingo · 16/02/2026 08:02

There is already 4 pages of people saying this

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Then why are people still going on about it?

Itsmetheflamingo · 16/02/2026 08:02

Jewelanemone · 16/02/2026 07:32

For everyone twittering on about pebbles:

Up to £1000 fine for taking pebbles from beaches as council tries to protect the environment | ITV News Border https://share.google/89jxeN6QQ2CxuUBbV

There is already 4 pages of people saying this

DreamTheMoors · 16/02/2026 08:02

MyRubyFox · 16/02/2026 07:50

Ditch her. She's no friend.

This should be accompanied by trumpets.

Listen to Ruby, OP! ❤️

Tintarella · 16/02/2026 08:01

Why did you not just head off after you’d gone to the loo to catch her up and go on the walk you wanted to go on? I don’t get that bit. Could it be she finds you a bit of a wet lettuce? Would you have been happy doing that on your own?

the rest YaNBu in my opinion - she sounds a bit mean

Ocelotfeet27 · 16/02/2026 08:01

To those saying one pebble makes no difference as there are millions - the whole point is that if every person that visited took one you'd end up with none left. I wouldn't have fussed about it if I was your friend but technically she is right. Otherwise she was horrible. I have experienced similar situations with excellent friends who were terrible travel buddies so I wouldn't necessarily write her off, I'd maybe distance myself a bit until I calmed down. What did you say about why you'd left early? I'd just message her and say sometjing like - I felt a bit sad that you left me after a couple of other minor incidents so thought maybe best to get out of each other's hair. Hope you had a lovely walk. Safe journey home, will be in touch soon.

Ocelotfeet27 · 16/02/2026 08:01

To those saying one pebble makes no difference as there are millions - the whole point is that if every person that visited took one you'd end up with none left. I wouldn't have fussed about it if I was your friend but technically she is right. Otherwise she was horrible. I have experienced similar situations with excellent friends who were terrible travel buddies so I wouldn't necessarily write her off, I'd maybe distance myself a bit until I calmed down. What did you say about why you'd left early? I'd just message her and say sometjing like - I felt a bit sad that you left me after a couple of other minor incidents so thought maybe best to get out of each other's hair. Hope you had a lovely walk. Safe journey home, will be in touch soon.

DreamTheMoors · 16/02/2026 07:57

Above and beyond any question ever posted on this forum, I think I’m supremely qualified to answer:

My lifelong friend (& cousin) left me in Mexico and I had to hitchhike 80+ miles back to San Diego with complete & total strangers.
Well, actually, she ditched me.
Although I wasn’t in that car, in that parking lot, I can just hear the words she used: “just go.” Just go because Dream isn’t important enough to wait 120 seconds for.
And so they did, stranding me all alone in Mexico. I think we were 25, 26.

I left San Diego the following morning and didn’t speak to her for months - and for the rest of her life she never apologised.

She died at 50 from cancer with only her mother and me by her bedside - the only people left in her life that she hadn’t managed to chase off by her irresponsible and cruel behaviour.

@roastdinner346 I didn’t deserve that appalling treatment and neither do you. You’re your own best friend - act accordingly. ❤️

MyDeftDuck · 16/02/2026 07:56

Based on the assumption that you shared a room I’d hazard a guess that she took you along so she didn’t have to pay a single supplement. She obviously wanted to visit the place and you were her ‘crutch’ to sharing expenses, having someone to fall back on, someone to boss around, someone to talk to when no one else was available, someone to bully and control! That is no way to treat a friend.

She is no friend OP! Dump the bitch! You are worth so much more than to be treated like a doormat!

Brindy · 16/02/2026 07:55

The irony of those on wlis saying they get irritated by friends who want to eat and drink on holiday….

Bamboozledbylife · 16/02/2026 07:54

JemimaTiggywinkles · 16/02/2026 02:20

This sounds like different expectations tbh.

I’m not on weight loss jabs but don’t want my holidays to revolve around food. I’ve a couple of friends who get hungry every 5 minutes and it is annoying when I’m someone who only eats at meal times.

Taking pebbles off beaches is wrong. I thought everyone knew this? She shouldn’t have said anything in front of other people tho.

I don’t like chatting to strangers and do sometimes feel like I’m being left out if the other person is sociable with randoms. But I think that’s my issue tbh. How do you know she said you’re introverted / hate people? I can’t imagine how that would come up, but I’d be incredibly hurt if a friend said that about me.

The toilet thing entirely depends. If this was the first time you faff when you’re supposed to be doing something then she’s completely unreasonable. But if you’re a faffer and she’d just got fed up of waiting around for you then it’s fair enough for her to go alone.

Did you say anything to her before getting picked up? Cos if not I think you’ve just ended the friendship. Which is a bit sad if you were close enough to go away together.

You sounds like a barrel of laughs. Perhaps op can hook you up with her dickhead mate. Unless you are the person...

Iwasneverafan · 16/02/2026 07:53

I absolutely knew this post would be derailed by a load of sanctimonious twats banging on about the fucking pebble- Jesus Christ this site is infuriating sometimes 🙄😵‍💫

OP- YANBU , your friend isn’t a friend at all. You’ve done nothing wrong. Try to move on from this.
Happy Birthday x

MyRubyFox · 16/02/2026 07:50

Ditch her. She's no friend.

Andepeda · 16/02/2026 07:46

Lovely Lyme Regis......how do all those shops selling fossils and shells get away with it? Who would find a fossil on the beach and not keep it?

My mind is boggling.

123123again · 16/02/2026 07:43

Happy 40th for this week!

YANBU she doesn’t like you much does she.
I agree that she’s a different personality type to you as well. It’s hard to contain true feelings when you are forced together. It’s not really anyone’s fault - I can’t holiday with my mum even though I love her dearly.
I think you could still be mates but just agree to limit it to coffee and book club or whatever.