Friend leaving me whilst on holiday

Yeah, people shouldn't be taking trailers full.

As for you, DISGRACEFUL behaviour! 🤣

Um, she isn't your friend.

But don't take pebbles off beaches though.

You alone are responsible for coastal erosion 🤣🤣🤣

She’s not a friend. She’s just someone you happen to know, and a nasty someone, at that,

Painting them for reselling. There's a guy round my area that paints animals on them, they are all large flat pebbles. Or to fill gabions.

To my shame I have taken a few off the beach and painted them as bees and ladybirds for the rockery. Ill go hand myself in to the police today.

I still remember a week spent 40 years ago with a very dear, close friend of mine where we both irritated the hell out of each other. It is entirely normal to fall out over tiny things when you go away with friends. Only you know whether this is the end of the friendship or not but it wasn't for me. Friends can get over this if they want to.

My tuppenceworth: yes, she does sound irritating but I am aware we are only hearing your side of the story. If you left the weekend without telling her, that would be worse behaviour imo.

Mostly YANBU, she sounds like a right bitch. Guess you aren’t going to be friends any longer. The one part where I do think you are being unreasonable is about being left to do nothing because she went off without you - you could have gone somewhere by yourself.

❤️ Stick to your lovely family ❤️
Sometimes we tick boxes when we have a
‘zero- ending’ birthday to fulfil others expectations .
Going away with a friend should mean giggles, escapism and shared interests.. not controlling behaviour to belittle you .
I’m not introverted either.. but with some people, even friends, that drain me, I lose myself, go mute and can’t wait to get home 🏡 where I can be myself again 😊
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Good Lord, I've heard it all now!

Quite!!!!

Why do people take trailer loads of pebbles?? What on earth are they doing with them?

Yes!!

The "friend" was just hating OP and wanted to criticise her any way, any how, instead of being a grown-up, using her words, and communicating to OP about what was bothering her. If anything was bothering her, that is, and she wasn't just being a bitch.

She left for the walk but you couldn’t catch up or decide to do something alone for an hour or two?

I love our pebble beaches! So much nicer getting dry from the sea without having to contend with sand getting everywhere.

We have one sandy beach here. I only ever go to that one to walk the dog, never if I actually want to use it myself. Pebbles all the way 😂

C’mon. One pebble is not a problem. It’s the people who drive up and load a trailer who are the ones being fined. I live on the coast and take photos of them if I see them doing it.

Your friend sounds very self centred. I had a similarly shit holiday with a friend some years ago that led to the end of our friendship. I realised that despite trying my best to be kind and supportive, she was horribly jealous of me and that would never change.

Also- her friend is a massive hypocrite - GLP-1 injections create high levels of pollution and toxic solvents in their manufacture. Interesting how she doesn't give a shit about that because its benefiting her though 🤣

She’s not a friend.
She deserved you leaving.

You sound to be somehow dependant on her. I would just have walked on my own if she had left. Doesn't change the fact that she's a cow and you're better off without her though.

I went away twice with my so called best friend at the time & I found her to be incredibly selfish & attention seeking. I go away with a different friend now but we have separate rooms & do things separately then meet up for walks, coffee, dinner etc. She also goes to bed before me so I stay up on my own watching the entertainment etc. Works really well. The only person I'd ever share a room with us my OH as we're usually on the same page as to what we like to do on holiday

I wish 100 billion people would come and take a pebble each from my beaches so that we could enjoy the sand underneath! The beaches are horrible and it's because of those dratted pebbles.

Down with pebbles! 🤣

There may be some truth in this post, or perhaps not. But you know...people do have different approaches to things like this.

That going away without family is new and/or worrying for you is not her responsibility.
On the day of the walk, you weren't forced to spend hours doing nothing, you chose to.
People get chatting to strangers when they're away all the time, join in or don't but it's not up to your friend to facilitate it for you.

I could be way off the mark but you are coming over as a wee bit helpless. Sorry.

I think the pebble thing has caught traction because it was such an unbelievably nit-picky and highly critical thing to say to her friend. Said friend must really dislike OP to glom on to something like that about her.

With friends like that, who needs enemies?

I agree. I live right near the beach. The beach is so overflowing with bloody pebbles that you see them scattered on the pavements as theyve drifted up from the beach or people have accidently kicked them whilst they are walking. In some places you sink knee deep into pebbles. The idea that taking one is an issue is laughable and even IF it is important not to, why the fuck would her friend scold her loudly in public - talk about bloody awful behaviour.

How did yous get there originally and what did she say when she realised you'd gone home?

Folk going on about pebbles, FML one pebble out of billions is not going to ruin the eco system.....go start another thread if you care so much about it and stop derailing the Ops thread.

I think it's highly condescending to pebble-shame your friend even privately. I'd rather be happy than right. And the pebble was for a child, anyway.