Friend leaving me whilst on holiday

Why would you go on holiday with someone and then just be horrible to them? I really do not understand people.

I doubt anyone goes on holiday with the intention of being deliberately horrible, but different expectations and minor irritations can become a big deal when two people are stuck together 24/7 with no other company around to dilute things.

It would be interesting to hear the friends side of this story.

These were my thoughts too.

Why on earth did you not go for a walk on your own? Have a bit of independence fgs instead of being a martyr

The rest of it YANBU

She's no friend.

A few people on here have said that their former friends were really horrible to them on their holiday. Why on earth would you do that?? Why would you go on holiday with someone and then just be horrible to them? I really do not understand people.

😮 You put Mr. Happy back in his rightful place, you daughter of a coastline-eroding criminal! How do you sleep at night, knowing that disappearing beaches are down to you and your ilk? I highly suggest you turn yourself in at the first opportunity! As for Mr. Happy, living the high life in the warmth, being petted and fawned over, instead of getting himself back to the office to do his job, there are no words.

🤣🤣🤣

I think this is a bit on both sides and you’d clearly rubbed each other up the wrong way, it happens when you’re away sometimes.

Pebble - technically she’s right.

Socialising, couldn’t you have asked to swap seats or similar if you know you struggle to hear from a certain side/position? What she said was off but nobody else knows if you can’t hear unless you make it known.

Being hungry, if you’re wanting to eat at standard meal times she’s being annoying, if you’re wanting to sit for hours in a restaurant when she doesn’t want a big meal you are, I’m guessing it’s probably a bit of both.

Leaving you for the walk is odd - how long was she waiting for you? It suggests she was waiting some time after you’d agreed to leave that she up and left?

Why couldn’t you have done something else anyway? You didn’t have to just sit and wait?

Going away with people can be tricky, I’ve got friends I won’t travel with again, doesn’t mean we’re not friends but our holiday styles don’t match!

It sounds like she had had enough of you within a very short space of time.

These things happen.
However she should have been more adult about it and bitten her tongue, it was only a weekend after all.

I have some lovely friends but because of my low tolerance levels, I wouldn't subject any of them to a weekend away with me.

Perplexed as to why you had nothing to do for hours when your friend went walking. Couldnt you have gone walking too?

I would find it pretty difficult not to point out that she didn’t end up on weight loss jabs through a lack of eating.

This is one I’d like to hear the friends version of to be honest.

Food thing - I’m on the jabs but I still enjoy eating out. But then I have been on hol with friends who all they want to do is eat and drink and spend hours finding the next bar/restaurant which is tedious.

Pebble - she was right. I can see from this thread though it isn’t well known.

Entertainment. Depends on the context. Were you sat there with a face like thunder? Did she just tell them that you are introverted or did they ask if you were ok, hence why it came out? Are you introverted?

walk thing - was it literally 2 mins or had she left because you faffed about before going out anywhere that she just had enough and left? Why on earth didn’t you go out on your own? You went left to do nothing for hours, you do have agency here. You could have taken yourself off, found a nice place to eat etc.

selfie thing sounds annoying.

When she went off for the walk by herself, I'm surprised you weren't relieved! You could have done something that you enjoyed without her spoiling it. She sounds awful.

Next time, have separate rooms. It makes all the difference to be able to get away from each other.

Agreed, OP didn’t need to sit and do nothing for hours at this point, the walk was still there?

I wonder just how long OP was gone that she decided to leave alone? Nobody would do that if it was a normal couple of minute nip to the toilet situation, surely?

It means every single shell, pebble, jar of sand.

There aren’t the resources to enforce fines one every fly tipper or drink driver, but that doesn’t mean that those aren’t harmful things to do.

https://www.countryfile.com/news/collecting-seashell-fine

I didn't know about not taking pebbles from the beach either! We always let our kids go shell collecting when they were little to find the most unusual peddle/shell!

Holidaying with someone new can be hard and can make or break a friendship, as you have found out Sorry you had such a rubbish time for your birthday weekend

She does sound a bit mean and well done for leaving, how did she react to that?

But a couple of thIngs did jump out:

I needed the toilet, so she decided to go without me. I didn't realise until I texted her and she said that she's already gone.
So I was left to do nothing, for hours, by myself.

Why did you do nothing for hours? Why didn’t you do the planned walk yourself? Staying at the hotel sounds like you wanted to punish her but ended up punishing yourself.

At that point I got really upset. She knew I wanted to go. I'd had enough and just wanted to go home. I didnt want to share a room, or pretend I was ok any more, it was exhausting, so I got a family member to kindly pick me up and take me home.

I would have just got public transport home. Maybe it wasn’t possible to get PT but it does sound like you rely on others and maybe the weekend away made you both realise that you’re not good travel companions because you have different personalities.

At least you didn’t go abroad for a week!

Does it really mean a single shell or pebble? Or is it more enforced when someone takes the piss (like taking a ton for garden work/driveway or something)
Both. Yes they mean it for a single pebble but are highly unlikely to enforce a fine for anyone taking very small amounts. It remains a possibility though and it's still not allowed.

Bloody hell!

My most prized possession is a pebble with a line that looks like a smile, my late father drew two eyes on it and gave it to me on holiday when I was little. He told me to rub him when I was sad and I would feel better. The pebble is called 'Mr.Happy' and lives on my desk, and I still rub him occasionally.

Dd also has a box covered in shells that she collected herself and we glued on when she was small.

Does it really mean a single shell or pebble? Or is it more enforced when someone takes the piss (like taking a ton for garden work/driveway or something)

OP, you’re not over reacting. It sounds horrible.

it also sounds like the friendships is over unfortunately, she’s clearly not been able to make an effort and there is no coming back when you’re in that place.

re the pebbles it’s not widely known, no. It’s not because your pebble is going to cause a problem, but that decades of misplaced pebbles and shells will cause erosion of the coast line. There are more powerful factors of course, but it’s something you personally can do to protect the coastline.

If everyone took a pebble, then flooding would get worse, look at all the erotion now to the coastline!
it’s illegal for a reason!
I live on the coastline and can see a decline from years ago.

Sorry but it sounds like she doesn’t really like you. Did you pay for the trip and she just went along for the freebie?

Your friend doesn't act like a friend.
She's impatient and rude.
If I were you, I'd have gone for the walk alone. You might have caught up with her but, even better, you might not have seen her and you would have enjoyed a lovely walk.

Seems like your friend is a doer and she's a poser too.
Never go on holidays with her again. And do not marry her. She and you are not suited.

Actually am rethinking and are you needing a lot of help from her on the holiday with either physical or emotional support op?

You couldn’t have just caught up with her after the loo? She couldn’t have been THAT far away!
She does sound like a cow but an irritated one. You’re not compatible as friends.

I am a great believer in the 'you really know someone until 'you have worked with them, lived with them or gone on holiday with them'.

She sounds very grumpy - almost like she didn't want to be there. Have you spoken to her since?