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DH running with dd(8) at 5am

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foreveror · 15/02/2026 15:36

Dh has always got up everyday at 5am to go for a run. No problem, it briefly wakes me up but he doesn’t turn the light on or make noise so I fall straight back to sleep.

Last couple of weeks he’s started taking 8 year old dd with him and it’s annoying me so much.

He tries to keep her quiet and get her down the stairs and out the door without waking anyone but it’s just so much louder having an 8 year old up and awake. Younger dc are sometimes waking up and coming into me.

I also feel I can’t fall back to sleep knowing she’s out there in the dark which I know is very silly, I don’t worry about her when she’s out with him in the day but it just feels different knowing she’s not in bed.

She’s very slim and does dance, gymnastics, football and skating every week so definitely doesn’t need the exercise. It’s just seems so unnecessary.

She tripped the other morning and came back in his arms in tears screaming she’d broke her ankle. She was fine, she’s just really dramatic but it made us all late for school. I know it wasn’t his fault but I couldn’t help feeling like it was as it wouldn’t have happened if he had just left her in bed.

I’m being completely unreasonable aren’t I? Would anyone else be annoyed by this?

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foreveror · 15/02/2026 15:56

Starlight7080 · 15/02/2026 15:51

What time does she go to bed ? 5 am on a school day seems mad. Sleeps very important for so many reasons. Especially concentrating in school.

7.30-8

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arethereanyleftatall · 15/02/2026 15:55

If she wants to, then that’s end of it for me. Fab thing for her to do.

Thingsthatgo · 15/02/2026 15:54

I think at 8 she is old enough to get out of the house quietly. I would encourage her to have everything ready to slip on so she doesn’t have to open drawers etc.
Once they are into a routine it will be fast and quiet.

BudgetBuster · 15/02/2026 15:52

5am? What time is she in bed?
Personally I think 5am is an insane time to have a child so young out running. Why can't they go in the evening?

Starlight7080 · 15/02/2026 15:51

What time does she go to bed ? 5 am on a school day seems mad. Sleeps very important for so many reasons. Especially concentrating in school.

foreveror · 15/02/2026 15:47

FasterMichelin · 15/02/2026 15:41

Does she want to run with him?

Yes, it was her idea.

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Sajacas · 15/02/2026 15:44

Hang on: does she want to go, has she asked to go? Even if so, 5am is to early on school days unless you have shifted her bedtime.

foreveror · 15/02/2026 15:42

shellyleppard · 15/02/2026 15:38

It does seem too much for your daughter.... She must be exhausted!!! I'm up early but that's ridiculous

See that would be my best argument but she doesn’t ever seem exhausted

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JacquelineShit · 15/02/2026 15:42

She's 8 and old enough to know what be quiet and don't wake the others means.

Just keep reinforcing it every day and she should have it right soon enough.

FasterMichelin · 15/02/2026 15:41

Does she want to run with him?

IsSheorIsntShe · 15/02/2026 15:39

I was a far from fit child at that age but I loved going out for a run with my dad. It was something special between us for a bit.

Didn't last, but I remember it fondly.

shellyleppard · 15/02/2026 15:38

It does seem too much for your daughter.... She must be exhausted!!! I'm up early but that's ridiculous