Would you consider swapping nudes and messaging someone daily for months cheating?

He knows her awfully well if he knows how to contact her father and boss to send the criminal revenge porn.

He threatened his affair partner with a criminal act if she disclosed the affair.

He's been giving her money. Check your accounts ASAP.

Your partner has shown you a nice facade until now and you see that he's capable of some nasty and vicious acts under that facade. Run.

Well, yes. Obviously.

It’s cheating, a betrayal and a complete disrespect for you and your relationship.

If he tries to roll out that ‘not cheating’ bs, ask him if he feels it was respectful. If he was treating you with respect.

What a twat

He’s a lying cunt. Yes you do sound ridiculously naive if you believe that bollocks.

He is taking you for a complete mug if that’s the best he can come up with.

Oh he is a peach isn't he. Get rid

i don't think its exactly the same as cheating but it's awful also and in a different way especially as over months. You are in your right to vall it cheating and his reaction is even more telling imo. What I always do with men is swap positions - I.e. how would he feel in the same position? But yes your feelings and the betrayal does not hinge on whether or not it sits within the definition of 'cheating' - don't let him misdirect you by focusing on semantics. But it's bad enough without needing to be called cheating imo.

That's revenge porn and it's a crime.

Just dump. He's a lying cheater and he's not going to change.

He's being blackmailed to sext her?

Girl. He's a lying cheater and that's a whopper. He thinks you're dumb or desperate because that's bonkers.

He might have been giving her money and this is his cover story.

Does it matter what he or you call it? Do you really want to stay with a man who does this?

He's sexually interacting with another woman so yes, he's cheating and it's an ongoing affair.

With physical evidence it doesn’t really matter what he says, it’s how you feel about it.

Don’t stay, it will almost certainly get worse for you.

If they are normal friendship photos he’ll be happy to send them to all of his friends.
His lying and gaslighting is unforgivable and that’s without the cheating.

Is he trying to suggest that it’s NOT cheating? That would cause me to absolutely rage. Cheating could break my heart but honestly, gaslighting me and trying to argue that this wasn’t cheating would make me so angry that it would make the decision really straightforward.

If you said to him, “ oh I didn’t know that sending nudes and messaging other people was allowed in our relationship, I’ll crack on and send some to the guy that always flirts with me at work”, I don’t suppose he’d like that.

Yes it's cheating and FYI he would absolutely consider it cheating if you were doing it! Dump immediately and be glad that you've found out so you don't waste another minute of your life with this arsehole!

Dump The Fuckin Scumbag !! What else is he doing that you've NOT YET found out about ? Because it's a dead cert he's doing more than this.

This.

Yes I would.

Tbh it’s irrelevant what label you put on his behaviour. If you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who behaves like this, it’s your prerogative to end things.

Ask yourself how he would react if you'd been swapping nude photographs with a bloke at work...

100% cheating.
I'm so sorry. Get rid of him.

I’d consider one nude and one message on one day cheating so…
He’s a prick for doing it but an absolute fucking dickhead for trying to make out like he hasn’t done anything wrong.
Throw him the whole way out the door.

I would only vote YABU as in 'YABU to stay with this lying, cheating POS'!'

Your initial reaction is the correct one
It's cheating and not okay.

He knows this himself and is just chatting shit to you.
He'd like go wild if you did the same.

100% bin him

I consider it cheating. But that doesn't matter. What matters is what YOU think. His argument is a nonsense anyway - you can break up with him for any reason you want, cheating or no cheating. You don't have to have some kind of proof his behaviour is bad enough.

Whats the need to label it
anything other than unacceptable