Discovered DP has knickers. Should I be worried?

Completely agree. This will be the tip of the iceberg. Women’s knickers aren’t more comfortable for a man as there is no room for his genitalia

Check the loft/shed/gym bag for wigs and outfits.

Google AGP. Autogynaphylia.

Been there, done that, got the Tshirt.

I had immediate ick when found out the “secret stash” (and yes, mostly plain women’s underwear, it doesn’t have to be frilly to be kinky).

but I was young (and I didn’t know anything about AGP then) so I tried to get through it.

in my case it never escalated to transitioning or cross dressing in public (10 year relationship, no kids) but it made for a miserable sex life as what really turned him on was sissy sex and I just wasn’t. He tried to contain it mostly, but did blame me for being “narrow-minded” so I’d try to participate (unsuccessfully) at times.

OP, from my experience I don’t accept that he has never thought about making love in them, or it’s not sexual for him. Both responses he gave you in regard to that are just testing the waters.

but you might still be ok with “sissy sex”/AGP stuff - apparently my exs previous partners were… but just know that if you have an ick, it’s imo not possible to get over.

we had sex therapy, read books about kinks etc and while I could understand where his kink came from (childhood issues, often the case) and didnt shame him for it - it just didn’t work for me and that should have been the end of it!! But I didn’t know at the time. Wish someone had told me.

all the best whatever you decide.

No but plenty of us would think he was a weird skinny creep .

But you can get make versions of all these. Hr man in question has stated it’s because they make him feel sexy, not that they are more comfortable

I remember Mick Jagger back in the seventies saying he wore women’s knickers. I don’t think anyone would suggest he was trans.

‘The vast majority of lesbians are transitioning’?!?!

What an absolute load nonsense, wrong on so many levels!

This thread is ridiculous, of course you don't break up a 6 year otherwise healthy relationship because your partner has a kink he's ashamed of!

And in terms of the slippery slope argument that he'll definitely be coming out as trans soon that's ridiculous too. My husband has put on a few pounds but I'm not going to break up with him because he may one day become a bed bound fatty!

If it turns you off, explain that and let him know you don't want to see it. If he can't live with keeping it secret anymore then maybe that's when you have an issue. If you are ok with it as you seem to be then job done, enjoy your life knowing you know your partner even better now.

“I think the problem is you women…”
🙄🙄
I have a myriad of pants, and like you, none of them would be comfortable if I had a cock and balls.

But how did he find out that women’s knickers are comfortable?
Try all different men’s underwear and then think ‘ I know I’ll try the women’s ones?’ It’s bullshit.

I wear M&S full briefs. They keep your kidneys warm but I couldn’t fit a cock and balls in them.

😂

I'm not sure that the argument about a better fit of pant plays out really. Neither does the comfy fabric argument. Surely it's a kink which is fine if you're fine about it OP.

Yes. Because of the fact he is likely to be AGP and all the risk that that brings in regard to heightened sexual aggression.

That’s true but the issues is he has what iare regarded as feminine underwear and that is criticised .

Women wear men’s boxers. I can see there’s more comfort in women’s knickers, they are usually softer, have a snug fit. I would suggest a trip to a larger shop that stock a variety of men’s underwear other than the usual boxers or trunks. I wouldn’t want my DH wearing pants/knickers with a bow on though.

Your making excuses for it, he has a fetish and it will get worse. Please have a proper think about this..... don't be blinded by your love for him.

He also wears your underwear and wanks into them. Guaranteed.

If you have a daughter, keep an eye on her laundry too.

Maybe it is more comfortable for him?

That's not what people are saying. He can wear what he likes BUT she also has the right to say that's a turn off for me.

Why should women be the only ones to enjoy these items of clothes? It can't be good for men's mental health to be excluded from the fun stuff and told they only like "meat and potatoes".

What people say
& what people do, are two completely different things! take a look @ royal family😂😂😂

What if he wore tighter/form-fitting boxers made from lace, silk or satiny material?

Is it the material and/or the colour or is it that they are women's underwear?

I knew a guy who wore lacy women's underwear. It was the fact that it was women's wear, that he might be found out at work and that he felt humiliated by wearing them that he liked. It was absolutely a fetish.

But a man who likes a secure pair of underpants and wants a smooth feel rather than cotton, that feels different to me.

He doesn't know if he wants to have sex when wearing knickers" - I asked him directly and his reply was he didn't know. It simply hasn't crossed his mind until I asked about it.

Really?

"He feels sexy without it necessarily being sexual" - I often go out to parties and events wearing a sexy dress. It makes me feel sexy. It does not mean that I want to have sex - i.e. sexy and sexual are two different things

They’re different words with different interpretations, yes. By sexy, you mean attractive, but how can it not have sexual connotations? It doesn’t mean in a friendly, platonic way. And going to a party isn’t the same as being in a sexual relationship with a partner.

He’s gaslighting you.

I mean it depends on if you’re ok with him cross dressing for kicks. I would be turned off by it and creeped out by the secret.