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Inappropriate deep tissue massage

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Purpl · 14/02/2026 22:09

Yesterday had a deep tissue massage by qualified osteopath. Attached to a sports club. Looks after the team given the sport anticpate is mainly male. Anyway he was a youngish male & im not young. I had trousers on as working on neck shoulders back. All very professional and work was good clearly qualified as ive had issues for years. They can be a bit uncomfortable/tender so concentrating on relaxing. I was face down and hands by side palm. I felt something brush against me his bits thought wtf that embarrassing. Few mins later i was very conscious that it was most definitely his bits firmly in my hand for what seemed a long time but was probably no more than 2 mins. I froze as suddenly second guessing what im feeling. He continued to work on back and waa talking generally i threw in references to husband but basically just ignored. No other issues throughout. This is weird been thinking this morning this couldnt have been an accident twice? Surely? A google online broight this up ill try and upload but it’s exactly what happened. Has anyone else had this? Are there any physios on here? Is this innocent? Im atcually fine but has made me think how vunerable i could have been. I had a male physio for 7 years and this never happened before.

Inappropriate deep tissue massage
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Purpl · 14/02/2026 23:39

LeaningtotheJackofHearts · 14/02/2026 23:37

I'm sure there's more than one but this wasn't by any chance in Surrey was it? I had a (slightly) unnerving rather than properly abusive, but not appropriate experience as the guest of a friend in a swanky spa. I found out the next time I went (a year or so later) he wasn't working there any more. I had thought it was a bit odd to give a woman a male masseur without making me aware first.

Not surrey no

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Purpl · 14/02/2026 23:38

It definitely was a stone plus he woukd have said im putting this in your hand surely? It felt like the shiny tracksuit bottoms. I didnt look as head down im 99% sure. Like i say second guessing myself and hesitant to report.
ill think i try and call club he affliated to and the osteopath body but would rather be annoymous. I guessing if there more than 1 complaint he be looked into. Ive also messaged someone i know vaguely female who posted a good review to see what her experience was.

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LeaningtotheJackofHearts · 14/02/2026 23:37

Lovemycat2023 · 14/02/2026 22:51

We had a massage therapist at a local spa I go to who was prosecuted for assault (I haven’t had a massage there). Report to the venue (if he was employed) and if self employed or you’re not happy with the response report to the police. This guy had done it a lot of times and I’m glad he was caught, but I bet some women had struggled to report him.

I'm sure there's more than one but this wasn't by any chance in Surrey was it? I had a (slightly) unnerving rather than properly abusive, but not appropriate experience as the guest of a friend in a swanky spa. I found out the next time I went (a year or so later) he wasn't working there any more. I had thought it was a bit odd to give a woman a male masseur without making me aware first.

arethereanyleftatall · 14/02/2026 23:28

When I have a hot stone massage, and I’m in the same position, she often places a hot stone in the palm of my hands when she’s doing a particular area (I can’t remember which - shoulder maybe?) then when she’s finished, she takes the stone out and my whole arm feels lighter. Are you 💯 sure it was his cock?

CalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 14/02/2026 23:26

I’d view this as sexual assault, not an accident, and I’d complain. I really would. I have deep tissue massages every month. There is NO NEED for his dick to be in your hand or touching your hand for anything more than one split second by accident if you suddenly moved. Look at these news reports from the past two months alone. He’s a fucking pervert.

https://www.edp24.co.uk/news/25829044.west-norfolk-masseur-sentenced-sexually-assaulting-man/?ref=yahoo

https://www.standard.co.uk/news/crime/london-masseur-sexual-assault-urban-massage-b1266295.html

https://www.watfordobserver.co.uk/news/25765301.sex-pest-masseur-targeted-women-herts-hotel-jailed/

Man sentenced after sexually assaulting client he was massaging

A masseur from a village near King's Lynn who sexually assaulted one of his clients mid-treatment has been sentenced.

https://www.edp24.co.uk/news/25829044.west-norfolk-masseur-sentenced-sexually-assaulting-man/?ref=yahoo

DavidPeckham · 14/02/2026 23:24

So, I have extensive experience in this space, and have never heard of a manoeuvre where you would intentionally rest your bits in a clients hand. I can’t find the page that you are referencing but it is most certainly not something taught on massage or professional (physio) therapies courses. There are two possibilities:

  1. It was accidental
  2. It was for his sexual gratification

I’m not going to rule either out completely, however I’d suggest that it is far more likely to be the former. Unfortunately when you are administering a massage you can very much lose track of where everything is. You might be the sixth client that day and he’s thinking about what is for dinner later, or who is going to win the football tomorrow. You become so completely blasé to the human body that you’re on auto pilot, but for your client of course it might be the first time they’ve had a massage or they might think why is this guys groin rubbing against my arm. I’m not going to say there aren’t bad eggs out there. There are and maybe he is one of them. I would say however that with both sexes body parts do get in the way at times however much you try not to let them.

anonnecessary · 14/02/2026 23:22

catera · 14/02/2026 22:43

Please report. A guy local to me was doing the same, it escalated and he’s been arrested

This has also happened in my town. But OP, I will warn you of the following - the trial didn't happen for FIVE years after the original offence was reported. The defence went for the victims like an attack dog. No conviction was secured. Very sad and bad. It was the same sort of stuff - his penis being put on her hand.

This stuff is commonplace unfortunately. I would never ever go to a male massage therapist because of the commonness of this type of incident. These bastards know that victims often freeze. It probably thrills them.

catera · 14/02/2026 23:19

Purpl · 14/02/2026 23:10

Sorry to be thick but who should i report to? Osetopath society? Police or the sports team manager he’s affiliated to?

Police. It’s sexual assault

fashionqueen0123 · 14/02/2026 23:17

A guy at a spa near me was arrested and charged for this. God knows how many women he actually assaulted. Sadly got a crap sentence

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 14/02/2026 23:17

OP report it to them.

I’m so sorry this happened to you. 💐

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 14/02/2026 23:16

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 14/02/2026 22:42

I years ago had massage from a gay man and I felt he may have been getting turned on by this. Was the main reason I didn’t return. I could’ve been hyper sensitive but I don’t think I was.

What made you think he was getting turned on?

EmeraldShamrock000 · 14/02/2026 23:12

Please say something to someone, he is a creep who has probably done this many times. It takes one person to blow the cover.
I hope you’re okay.

Purpl · 14/02/2026 23:10

catera · 14/02/2026 22:43

Please report. A guy local to me was doing the same, it escalated and he’s been arrested

Sorry to be thick but who should i report to? Osetopath society? Police or the sports team manager he’s affiliated to?

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Purpl · 14/02/2026 23:08

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 14/02/2026 22:42

I years ago had massage from a gay man and I felt he may have been getting turned on by this. Was the main reason I didn’t return. I could’ve been hyper sensitive but I don’t think I was.

Im sorry to hear that

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Purpl · 14/02/2026 23:07

ResusciAnnie · 14/02/2026 22:55

What the fuck is that screenshot?? Do you have a link to that site? Utterly bizarre. All my deep tissue massages are in the position but all my massage therapists have been women. Wow that is so gross.

I dont anymore it was a legal site witness expert think amercian. I just googled is this normal and what happened

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Noshadelamp · 14/02/2026 23:05

Just because there are no neg reviews doesn't mean it hasn't happened before. It's so subtle that a lot of women will be like you, wondering and then dismissing it because everything else seemed so normal and professional.
I would definitely report him and leave a public neg review.

alexdgr8 · 14/02/2026 23:02

FourSevenTwo · 14/02/2026 22:49

Report to who?

His governing body

FlippyKiYayFlippyFlipper · 14/02/2026 23:00

FourSevenTwo · 14/02/2026 22:49

Report to who?

The police. It’s sexual assault.

OP please do report it if you feel able. Even through crimestoppers if need be so his name is logged on police databases.

It won’t be his first time assaulting a female and won’t be his last.

I’m so sorry this happened to you.

Canyoutellme123 · 14/02/2026 22:59

I'm a physio but you really don't need a physio opinion to tell you this isn't right. All the male physios in my team and ones I train are very aware of making sure they do nothing that could be misconstrued, being really clear on consent and explaining what they are going to do. I assume they are regulated like physios are. https://www.osteopathy.org.uk/about-us/ you should be able to find his details on here to check he is registered and can complain to them if you wanted to. And the police

About us - General Osteopathic Council

https://www.osteopathy.org.uk/about-us/

LondonBlueTopaz · 14/02/2026 22:58

Im sorry @Purpl what a shitty thing to do.
Qualified Osteopath ..
Report to the General Osteopathic Council...and to the venue.

Purpl · 14/02/2026 22:56

GarlicBound · 14/02/2026 22:46

I wonder if it's supposed to be a hint? I used to go a male masseur whom other women told me gave them 'extras' - shades of Sex and the City! Nothing odd ever happened with me, and I did ask my friends how they managed to get around to it. Nobody ever gave me a straight answer 😳

So. No idea, OP. But obviously he did know what he was doing, and I'm sorry your massage was spoiled by this dick (literally!)

Omg 😦 maybe that was what he doing?

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ResusciAnnie · 14/02/2026 22:55

What the fuck is that screenshot?? Do you have a link to that site? Utterly bizarre. All my deep tissue massages are in the position but all my massage therapists have been women. Wow that is so gross.

gtamum · 14/02/2026 22:54

FourSevenTwo · 14/02/2026 22:49

Report to who?

Well the sports club for a start. But I’d also consider the police

plumclafoutis · 14/02/2026 22:53

I would absolutely report this. I had an acupuncturist/osteopath many years ago who started to do things that made me feel uncomfortable, what felt like a slightly misplaced hand but nothing that seemed intentional . The final straw was when he ran a feather down my naked back when I was face down on the massage bed. I didn’t protest but I never went back.

Lovemycat2023 · 14/02/2026 22:51

We had a massage therapist at a local spa I go to who was prosecuted for assault (I haven’t had a massage there). Report to the venue (if he was employed) and if self employed or you’re not happy with the response report to the police. This guy had done it a lot of times and I’m glad he was caught, but I bet some women had struggled to report him.