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Benefit fraud, driving without a licence and living their best life’s

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ThisNewCyanBiscuit · 14/02/2026 22:00

So a girl I know (friend of a friend) and her partner, live in a council house, they claim all sorts of benefits for their children (one of the does have diabetes but that’s it) she does beauty therapy and her dodgy boyfriend has just built her a beauty room in a council house which Im pretty sure you’re not meant to do. And she definitely doesn’t pay taxes or declares her beauty income.

The worst part of this is that her boyfriend is a nasty peace of work, been in and out of prison for drug dealing but is also disqualified from driving and yet is driving to Kent each day for work without a license.

Their social media posts are them lavishing it in luxury holidays etc, their 4 children had new iPads and Xbox’s etc at Christmas. And yes I’m jealous because I work 3 jobs to give my children a nice house and am
a law abiding citizen and yet still struggle!

Is it bad I find it tempting to report them both?

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Boomer55 · 16/02/2026 16:51

ThisNewCyanBiscuit · 14/02/2026 22:00

So a girl I know (friend of a friend) and her partner, live in a council house, they claim all sorts of benefits for their children (one of the does have diabetes but that’s it) she does beauty therapy and her dodgy boyfriend has just built her a beauty room in a council house which Im pretty sure you’re not meant to do. And she definitely doesn’t pay taxes or declares her beauty income.

The worst part of this is that her boyfriend is a nasty peace of work, been in and out of prison for drug dealing but is also disqualified from driving and yet is driving to Kent each day for work without a license.

Their social media posts are them lavishing it in luxury holidays etc, their 4 children had new iPads and Xbox’s etc at Christmas. And yes I’m jealous because I work 3 jobs to give my children a nice house and am
a law abiding citizen and yet still struggle!

Is it bad I find it tempting to report them both?

You seem to know a lot about them and what they’re claiming. 🙄. Not your business.

She can do whatever she likes in her home, unless she’s breaking landlord rules.

Drink driving is wrong, so report if it’ll make you feel better, and if you’re sure he’s drinking before driving. 👍

Itsmetheflamingo · 16/02/2026 10:49

Hellohelga · 16/02/2026 09:22

Sorry MC don’t know what hard work is???

Well they’re probably not down a coal mine are they

Hellohelga · 16/02/2026 09:22

Screamingabdabz · 14/02/2026 22:11

I wouldn’t hesitate to report them. There is some sort of moralistic ‘judgey snitches get stitches’ on MN because it’s mainly the middle classes who have no idea what it feels like to work your arse off as a law abiding WC person and the dismay of seeing people ripping off the benefits system and getting away with murder. Fuck ‘em. Report report report. What’s the worst that can happen?

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Sorry MC don’t know what hard work is???

MilanoCortina2026 · 16/02/2026 09:16

ilovesooty · 14/02/2026 22:04

Council house - tick
Disability benefits - tick
Holidays - tick
Not declaring income - tick

Go on. Report them if it would make you feel better.

Why do you think what they're doing is fine?

Brefugee · 16/02/2026 09:11

my post got deleted for being "sarcastic troll hunting".
And that others had been deleted for same (they haven't)

So anyway.

How do you know all this is true, OP? how do you know that someone isn't telling you this to rile you up and so you report them and the person telling you this gets to keep their hands clean?

If you think it is true, report them.

If you are rage baiting: do it elsewhere. It is tedious to have all these benefit bashing posts, where there is zero proof of anything.

(eta: i did think of reporting all the other sarcastic "troll hunting" posts but ... meh)

gototogo · 15/02/2026 22:33

The running a business is fine as long as she has appropriate training, licences and insurance in place plus declares her income (which she may do, how would you know?) but driving without a licence is definitely a case of report, it’s not o and unsafe

mrscoreytaylor · 15/02/2026 22:30

Do they have twins as well?

surrealpotato · 15/02/2026 22:28

Isittimeformynapyet · 14/02/2026 22:08

I've reported you to the Grammar Police for "life's".

I enjoyed 'peace of work'.

Vodka1 · 15/02/2026 02:11

How do you know she doesn't pay taxes?

How do you know he has no license, how do you know so much about friends of friends?

Report them if you want, you don't need our permission.

Alwaysontherun · 15/02/2026 01:22

Report, let the relevant authorities deal with it and then don’t give them anymore of your energy

gamerchick · 14/02/2026 23:04

ilovesooty · 14/02/2026 22:04

Council house - tick
Disability benefits - tick
Holidays - tick
Not declaring income - tick

Go on. Report them if it would make you feel better.

Always a council house in there somewhere...

ilovesooty · 14/02/2026 23:02

Livelovebehappy · 14/02/2026 22:49

Yep. You did ilovesooty. I saw that after I posted. Apologies.

No worries. I should have edited my original post really.

ConcernedOfClapham · 14/02/2026 23:00

Isittimeformynapyet · 14/02/2026 22:08

I've reported you to the Grammar Police for "life's".

😆😆😆

Livelovebehappy · 14/02/2026 22:49

ilovesooty · 14/02/2026 22:47

Yes, I did address that in a subsequent post.

Yep. You did ilovesooty. I saw that after I posted. Apologies.

ilovesooty · 14/02/2026 22:47

Livelovebehappy · 14/02/2026 22:26

Driving whilst disqualified (possibly for dangerous driving/causing injury) - tick

This alone makes them deserving of being reported.

Yes, I did address that in a subsequent post.

Tempodrom · 14/02/2026 22:37

As Nan would say… “What a lot of old shit.”

Verytall · 14/02/2026 22:33

There's nothing about being in a council house that means you can't run a business from home. Technically you're meant to ask permission, but unless it's a type of business that's going to cause a problem for the neighbours it wouldn't be an issue. Depending on how much she earns from the business she may not be required to pay tax (if she's part time it may not be a lot) And as her child has a disability as a family they'll be entitled to more benefits than if not.

By all means report them if you wish but it's entirely possible that it's only the BF that's doing anything wrong. Many people who appear flashy on social media either exaggerate, or manage it because it's the only thing they prioritise, eg not having savings, buying things on credit/HP etc.

Brefugee · 14/02/2026 22:29

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Livelovebehappy · 14/02/2026 22:26

ilovesooty · 14/02/2026 22:04

Council house - tick
Disability benefits - tick
Holidays - tick
Not declaring income - tick

Go on. Report them if it would make you feel better.

Driving whilst disqualified (possibly for dangerous driving/causing injury) - tick

This alone makes them deserving of being reported.

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 14/02/2026 22:25

Just report them...

CherryBlossom321 · 14/02/2026 22:24

How on earth do you know so much about the lifestyle of a “friend of a friend”? How does one claim “all sorts of benefits” for their children?

Screamingabdabz · 14/02/2026 22:11

I wouldn’t hesitate to report them. There is some sort of moralistic ‘judgey snitches get stitches’ on MN because it’s mainly the middle classes who have no idea what it feels like to work your arse off as a law abiding WC person and the dismay of seeing people ripping off the benefits system and getting away with murder. Fuck ‘em. Report report report. What’s the worst that can happen?

Itsmetheflamingo · 14/02/2026 22:10

You really think you’re going to unleash some kind of revenge by reporting them? 🤣

the authorities are what law abiding people are scared off. He won’t give a shit. Getting into trouble is the cost of business for him.

superchick · 14/02/2026 22:09

Driving to Kent? Surely not.

Just report them and get on with your life. You then won't need to give it any thought.

PinkLemonadee · 14/02/2026 22:09

Fucking hell can we go one day without a benefits bashing post...

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