Public tantrum - comments

He did thank you :) unfortunately we've had a few similar incidents with grabby kids! He's a sensitive little soul but I do my best to speak up for him.

Don't worry at all about the tantrum, that was caused by someone else's kid and their parents so not your fault at all. Don't feel you need to duck out to keep everyone else happy! :)

I think at some points, especially when we're feeling a bit raw with our kid's behaviour, we can absorb criticism a bit more easily.

A few days ago my son unusually said he was tired and didn't want to go to an activity. Since it wasn't prepaid, I went along with his wish to stay home. I mentioned this in passing to my friends, and they said that they didn't let their kids decide, what they say goes etc. Later, he said he felt sick, so I skipped his second activity and lo and behold, he was later sick.

So my parenting instincts were exactly right - but I still felt a bit raw about the comments! I still do, even though it was proven to be the right call!

Because it's not nice to have the most important thing you do (parenting) looked at from the outside and judged as wanting.

You did nothing wrong by the sounds of it! You could have spoken up a bit if another little one upset your child though and the parent did nothing. If that had happened to my little boy I'd have taken the blocks back and offered to share some of them with the other child. My son was very passive about that kind of thing but if something upset him I spoke up for him.

As an example, we went into a play session once and as we arrived a toddler we didn't know just grabbed my son by his top and wouldn't let go, I had to physically prize his hands off my son and he was so upset afterwards that he wouldn't even play. I made a point of locating the kids mother, she wasn't even on the same level as her child so hadn't seen. I told her what had happened and told her to supervise her child! Why should I let my child think it's fine to let other kids treat him badly and not do anything about it?!

Did she say it in a judgey way, as in ‘I heard your child from outside, why didn’t you keep them quiet’ or ‘gosh, someone’s loud today’ in a jokey way?

Maybe she was running a different session elsewhere and he could be heard in there?
Don’t know what she expected you to do about it, though.

Nothing, you handled it just fine. That person who made the comment clearly doesn't have kids and if they do have some one day then they'll realise how unhelpful and dumb they were

Even more reason to be paying closer attention to what he was doing. Session i went to, a group of mums would sit around in a circle. Some had backs to children, but I don't think the others were watching instead.
Always rhe same ones that would help to clear up at the end, and those that wouldn't.

Just ignore. Once one of mine threw a tantrum in the supermarket and lay on the floor and screamed. I chose to carry on down the aisle and ignore it but could feel lots of judgy eyes watching me. One lovely woman came over to me and said you are doing a great job. I was so grateful for that bit of support. So don’t worry op, you are doing a great job.

You should have congratulated on her working hearing.

Cheeky cow. Children cry, it’s what they do. It was a toddler play session fgs, she’s lucky it only went on for 3 or 4 minutes. Pay no attention to her.

Until their child doesn't want to share, and has something taken from them by another toddler.

There is times when they should share and play with something together.

There are other times when sharing means waiting for someone to finish their go before having yours. Hard for little ones to understand, but it is the place of the parent to build that understanding.

People can conveniently forget that sharing works both ways. To expect others to share with you, you also need to share with them.

What do they expect at a toddler session. It isn't going to be silent- there will be noise. Todlers sometines screm or shout when excited, cry when upset, and have tantrums. More children, more likelihood of noise, even without the above .

I would struggle not to tell them they need to learn some manners. He's two. What's their excuse?

Not sure if yanbu means you should have done things differently or not.

Sounds as if you dud exactly what you should have done. The incident happened, your little one was understandably upset, so ypu took him out of the situation to calm him.

Other parent should have been watching, but little ones can move quickly so I can understand that it happens. Some children like building, orhers like knocking down. When he started crying, if I was the other parent and had seen my child and the remains of the tower, I would have asked what had happened and at least apologised to you. What I did with my child may have varied Depending on age and exact circumstances. There needs to be a point at which children start being told, in an age appropriate way that they have done something wrong. If not they won't understand and learn from past events.