Neighbour asked me to take in her parcel whilst she went out

Ah would ya stop. It's only a parcel and it's not much to ask. You wouldn't get this here in Ireland where we're all friendly 😂

My friend has a parcel Box , right next to the front door , you can't miss it. Has a note on the door. Note on all orders... they still leave parcels on the door step in the belting sun or pissing rain

deliveries really specify a day and time and on the rare occasion they do they never turn up on that day or time.

I'm a big fan of killing people with kindness, but there's a hard limit, especially if they don't take the hint.

You might feel like the 'better person', but what's actually happening (and what everyone else is seeing) is that the cheeky, rude neighbor is taking the piss out of you, and you're smiling and letting it happen.

Personally I've got more respect for myself than to run around doing errands for a neighbor I don't know, who doesn't thank me and won't acknowledge me unless she's asking for something. My life would have to be absolutely empty before I'd do that with a smile.

(In fairness, I've had some incredibly unreasonable neighbors 😅)

There is a reason the other neighbours won’t do it don’t you think? Just don’t respond, she will soon get the hint.

Or send it to a locker. You’re neighbours don’t love being kind and taking in your tat

Unless I’m going to lose my job for taking in a lot of neighbours parcels and then have them knocking to collect them when I’m taking calls in India and US and they actually have delivery instructions to deliver to boardwalk

Because small acts of kindness make you a better person. You can sneer at that idea, or you can smile. Which are you going to choose?

You’re making it a bigger deal than it needs to be. Either you do it, or you say no. Either way is fine but doesn’t have to be a big drama 🙄🤷‍♀️

You ok hun?

you seem very wound up and very concerned that your work shouldn’t get in the way of you ordering many parcels and inconveniencing your neighbours lives. It’s not just taking the parcels it’s when the neighbour then rocks up knocking at your door for said parcel

@ready4sunshine said they knocked on at 10pm that is not fair

maybe you should order less parcels and save up to get named delivery day when you are more likely to be at home for them

When your neighbour takes your parcels in do you say thank you? Do you say hello and are generally friendly to them? OPs neighbour doesn’t and isn’t.

Do you slag off your neighbour’s dead pet and gossip about it to all and sundry? OPs neighbour does.

And you think the OP is the miserable sod?! 🙄🤣🤭

Wow you sound a delight, what the hell Is wrong with taking a neighbours parcel in? You miserable sod. My neighbour often takes my parcels in due to work, they have no issue. Why do you?

4 to 5 parcels a week not a day!

I refuse neighbours parcels and even my own because I WFH. I’m on calls to people in the US and India at the same time who don’t take kindly to me disturbing calls going to the door

i pay extra for named day deliveries and if not possible put a note on my door asking to put in safe place as I’m on a call

next door fell out with me after I told him to take his note down on his door saying ‘if not in deliver to boardwalk’ wouldn’t mind but it was at least 4 or 5 parcels a day

That does sound a little bit of a ridiculous thing to get annoyed about, maybe she doesn' t much like cats, And I dont think your cat will be that bothered about what the neighbours think.

Wow, I personally take in everyone’s parcels in the street as I work from home, I haven’t spoke to some of them but I honestly don’t mind. I can’t see how this is an issue. Also I order parcels and I don’t know if I’ll be in, none of us do really as the post can be choppy as best for timings. I feel like this is a none issue personally and just awkwardness.

I mean I don’t mean to be out when I order parcels but usually you’re given a window of ‘3-5 days’ for delivery not an exact time slot.

Hmm if she messages you to take her parcels in but can’t be bothered to even give you the time of day when she sees you at other times, I’d just say you’re not in or ignore her requests.

I mean she doesn’t speak so it’s no loss to you.

I've never really understood the mumsnet reluctance to take neighbours parcels in.

We have very nice neighbours on both sides (so I guess that colours our judgement) and happily take our neighbours parcels.

In fact, we've been sent texts to say a parcel has been put in a very visible place (we all have ring door bells) and would we mind getting it until they get home from work? Why should we mind?

I'm nearly always home but it takes me five minutes to get to the door because of my disability. Neighbours know this and infrequently take my parcels in and text me to tell me so. And are happy to wait until my able bodied child or their partner comes in.

I guess I can understand why someone with a baby who doesn't sleep well might get irritated. Otherwise I really don't understand.

@ready4sunshine it doesn't matter she knows your home on a Friday. You could ge busy
Just tell her no

Anyhow how did she get your phone number.

Such a small thing to do to make the world a better place...

Why would you do anything, tiny or not, for a neighbor who was rude to you and who only speaks to you when they need a favour?

And every day is ridiculous, unless your neighbors are extremely close friends. If someone needs mail taken in that regularly, they need to invest in a parcel box.

Oh, just saw this. Nah, she can sod off, love cats me, she needs to leave them alone!

I never know when deliveries will arrive. Royal Mail I have to wait in until it arrives, from 7am to 8pm. Evri will give a time slot but never stick to it, often an hour or two earlier. The only one I have any luck with is DPD. But even with all that, when order things, I never know what day they will despatch it so not always in, hospital apt etc.

My neighbour on one side and I take each others parcels, but then we do actually like each other! My other side are hell on earth, I'd not take a parcel for them and I hope they never take one for me.

Personally I’d be happy to help, but at the end of the day, if you’re not happy doing it, that’s your choice to say no. I feel we’ve become a nation where we feel reluctant to help others out, or put ourselves out a little for others, it’s a bit sad. I don’t mean when you get people who obviously take the p*ss, but taking someone’s parcel in when it’s tipping down with rain is a small ask imo.

Just say sorry I cant. And if she keeps asking just repeat sorry not today or that you're busy. No further explanation needed. Don't feel obliged. No one minds a one off but when it's regular, and the person is rude, it would be a no from me. She could get a secure store for her parcel or reschedule but she's choosing to make it someone else's problem.