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To say having an amazing MIL is life changing!!

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Shamalama56 · 14/02/2026 08:50

Ive gone from having the MIL from hell to an amazing MIL who is such a wonderful person and so kind and respectful, I try my hardest to make sure she feels cared for and respected back too.
Its such a revelation. It changes everything. It makes me feel so happy. Just wanted to share!

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Shamalama56 · 14/02/2026 09:31

Do you guys give a nod to your MIL on mothers day or is that kind of overstepping?

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user1471548941 · 14/02/2026 09:17

I also have a fab MIL! I’m autistic and very introverted and she’s always respected my boundaries and space with DH’s guidance. I.e. she buys me the exact same thing for Xmas every year, which I think is baffling to her, but I LOVE that! We live 4 hours apart but she’s a peaceful and respectful house guest, lovely company, offers to help us with things (but doesn’t get offended if we decline!) and is supportive of us without trying to live in our pockets. We have common interests and share a sense of adventure that I can really related too. As a result we are really intentional about wanting to spend time with her- this year she’s coming with us on a 3 week bucket holiday and I can’t wait to see her reaction to some of the places we’re going!

stickydough · 14/02/2026 09:09

She sounds lovely. I had a lovely MIL in my last long term relationship before my DH, I really enjoyed just hanging out with her. Current MIL isn’t the worst but I don’t find her easy to be with. I sometimes think about the big difference this makes. Sounds like you are making sure to cherish her, as she deserves!

UnhappyHobbit · 14/02/2026 09:07

Im also blessed with an amazing mother in law! She never interferes and has treated me like a daughter. We go on days out together etc. I do think the support of my good in-laws has helped our marriage through the years. Which can’t be said about my own family sadly.

humptydumptyfelloff · 14/02/2026 09:05

I have an amazing relationship with my dil
we went out yesterday and I treated her to lunch and some new things.
I often pick up bits for her and she does me.
we chat about all
sorts
she knows there’s never any judgement here

she’s been in our lives for ten years and is a massive part of our family
my parents also treat her like their own grandchild.

she is a beautiful human being

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Shamalama56 · 14/02/2026 08:58

She thinks of things we both might like to do and then invites me to them.
She invites me over for dinner without him there.
She gifts me really thoughtful presents for my birthday and christmas.
Ifshe sees something i might like she picks it up for me - nothing OTT or expensive, just small things.
I do the same for her.

Basically she makes me feel like her own daughter and I treat her the same way I treat my own mother.
I think shes wonderful.

She doesnt blindly support her son "because hes my son". Shes objective.

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Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 14/02/2026 08:57

B0D · 14/02/2026 08:56

Following for MIL- ing tips

Same!

B0D · 14/02/2026 08:56

Following for MIL- ing tips

JustAnotherWhinger · 14/02/2026 08:53

It is wonderful :)

ForFunGoose · 14/02/2026 08:53

Second marriage OP?

Thesofathatwas · 14/02/2026 08:52

Can you tell us what sort of things she does to make her so fabulous? 😃