To say having an amazing MIL is life changing!!

Mine is wonderful. I can talk to her about anything and she is the best at buying presents ! She does think DH is perfect- but do his 4 sisters! I think being the only boy has served him well!

I hope to be a good MIL. I really like all my sons’ partners and would hate to be thought of badly by them

I adore my mil
Shes the woman,mother and grandmother i want to be
She sadly lost her own dd to battons disease in 2000 (she nursed her to the end)
She took me in and is my mum in every sense (im nc with my family as im the scapegoat in a narcissistic family)
She never judges or takes sides (and dp is the original pfb!)
Being around her is like getting a firm but gentle hug
We both utterly adore her-i wish I could be half the woman she is

am I odd, that sounds absolutely suffocating to me! I have a very dysfunctional relationship with my mother though well my mother is very dysfunctional would be a better way to put it.

you are very lucky! Im def jealous...

I wouldn't say i'd crawl over broken glass but i'd legitimately pay £10k + to convert my existing mil to what you have.

My MIL said to me very early on, when she had clocked how serious DH and I were, “My MIL was a nightmare. She pushed opinions and got offended if I didn’t follow them. She made me feel like an outsider in my own home with constant in jokes and strongly believed I wasn’t good enough for FIL. My son adores you and I can see why. My grandson adores you and I can see why. I’ll probably offer advice at some point that you think is outdated and useful, if I do please try and remember that I’m just trying to help people I love. I’ll never be offended if you don’t take my advice and the words ‘well I told you so” will never cross my lips. I promise I’ll try and remember at all times that you love my son, and grandson, and you’re just trying your best to make them happy, can you please try and remember the same about me.”

It gave us a real openness with each other and we have an amazing relationship. DH was widowed before we met and before DS1 started school MIL looked after him 3 days a week so she was very involved. It’s been amazing with her.

im also incredibly lucky because DH’s MIL, who had DS1 the other 2 days a week before he started school, is equally amazing.

the day she said to me “my daughter would be very happy that DH is so happy with you, and that after losing his Mummy DS1 now has a Mum who loves him like you do” is one of my happiest moments because it must be so hard for her to see someone else in what should be her daughters place. She calls herself my Other-MIL

in two weeks the three of us, SIL and OMIL’s daughter are going on a spa weekend as a treat for surviving half term 😁

Aw that’s so lovely

Thank you! I had a lovely one (only the one). I hope I am the same with the partners of my 3. So lovely to hear as mn usually seems to be the place to hate mil

We go out with her as a family.

She is fantastic. I call her mother.

YANBU both my in-laws are amazing and a big part of our lives. I’m very lucky compared to some of my friends

I agree. My mum in law was fantastic and I loved her dearly. She was so warm and funny, really caring, and always in my corner.

Lucky you. I'm pleased for you.😊

Having experienced years of the most spiteful and hated filled MIL imaginable, I now only date men whose mums are no longer around. It removes all risk. 😁

I get on really well with both my mil and fil. I'm quite happy to spend time with them without my partner with us. We can talk about all sorts of things, they care about my wellbeing and I care about theirs too.

I had it the other way round sadly. First MIL was a total legend, then the second was hellish and I wasn’t expecting it.

I get on really well with my DC partners and they seem to like me very much so hopefully I am getting it mostly right!

Mine was so amazing that we continued our relationship after the ex married OW. We became good friends, instead of in-laws, right up until her death. Her other ex DIL also was in regular contact with her.

Very happy for you - things did not start well with MIL and me. She remains difficult and spiky, but she can also be very thoughtful and kind. I've learned that she is up and down with everyone, even her best friends, so I just don't take anything personally and try to find the best in her.

Mine is lovely, really really lovely. Never over steps, loves my kids to bits even though one isn’t her bio grandchild, she has never once treated her any different to my son. She’s wonderful.

Another one here who has a wonderful relationship with my MIL. I've known her for 44 years and in all that time we have never even argued.
She is my mum these days as I lost mine 10 years ago, and I call her mum on any cards I send.
I don't see her that often as they are 3.5 hours away, but we speak at least twice a week. I do quite a lot of online shopping for her as her eyesight is poor these days & always take her for her hair appointments & shopping when visiting.
We also get on well in the kitchen and know each other's strengths & weaknesses, so compliment each other in the kitchen.

I don’t do anything towards Mother’s Day for her as she would find that odd, but if she felt differently I would as my side of the family like to celebrate all mothers, so my mum gives and DIL cards

Only had one MIL. Relationship to begin with was very rocky, but luckily has evolved positively over time. Distance means we don’t see each other very often, but do communicate frequently. Life is certainly a lot easier now we have a good relationship

Yes always, I usually put to the best mum/grandma/mil, it may seem over the top but she is fabulous and great at all three things. We would likely be friends even if we weren’t family which helps but she always has my back, is there if I need her. Lost my own mum as a teenager so feel incredibly lucky to have my MIL. She treats me as one of her own and I try very hard not to take her for granted.

I think if you’re a good person, you’ll be a good MIL. Both my DILs are fab, never had any issues with them at all. Hopefully they’d say the same about me 😊

how wonderful! So many dil’s are actually amazing people kind respectful human beings, but are vilified for no good reason, i gave up trying with my mil after one to many lie was told

how wonderful! So many dil’s are actually amazing people kind respectful human beings, but are vilified for no good reason, i gave up trying with my mil after one to many lie was told

I had a good relationship with my MIL and yes it does make life a lot easier! I miss her, she was an amazing woman.

I have 5 sons so really hoping that I will have the same with their partners. My eldest son has a lovely fiancé and I get on well with her. I do enjoy buying her birthday pressies etc as I've never had a daughter to treat ☺️ her birthday has just been and I put together a big gift bag of pamper goodies, chocolates and gin!