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Reform wants women barefoot and pregnant

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Sweetiedarling7 · 14/02/2026 07:57

Reform candidate Matt Goodwin wants women to have children early in life and introduce extra taxes as punishment for anyone who chooses not to have children.

Misogyny in plain sight.

How long till they ban abortion too?

Women voting Reform may want to consider if they are turkeys voting for christmas.

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Allisnotlost1 · 15/02/2026 21:48

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 15:20

It was an example of politicians not future proofing society. Do you want a population collapse to happen before they deal with it & then like they have with net zero put in damaging policies in place that see us getting poorer and poorer. I wasn’t saying we don’t need to move to renewables but I’m 45 and the climate was a big talking point yet we have solutions that are not going to work & to hit our own target we now import our gas by more expensive and more dirtier means than drilling our own. My energy comment was making an example about not future proofing against problems they know that are coming.

i didn’t say any ones physical life was of less value, i was on about the value you are providing society. The minute you’re claiming more than you’re contributing. As a person you should be looked after in old age, but the people who’s made that a possibility are the ones having children now. So not only are most contributing as well as raising children now they’ve secured the future providers. I think that’s worthy of subsidy to their income. Trust me they’re still massively out of pocket raising a child.

Life expectancy is currently declining, realistically ‘population collapse’ is a distant nightmare.

And much as there is a logic to your ‘creating future value’, that value isn’t as huge as you think at an individual level. Children born today benefit from all adults financial and social contributions, and in future those children (in theory!) will contribute more financially than the older people. But it’s still a collective effort. People who have children benefit from a society that welcomes them, just as we all collectively may benefit from those children in future. It’s not possible to quantify each person’s ‘value’ and is, imo, dangerous to even try.

Otherwise a child who grows up to earn minimum wage their whole life, then be signed off sick is of less value than a childless person who pays huge sums of tax. A child who survives leukaemia will likely never repay the ‘value’ they have received. And very likely not have children of their own. Are they less valuable now than other children, ergo their parents should be less applauded? How shall we pick all that apart?

How many children do you have, and how much are they worth to us all?

StandFirm · 15/02/2026 20:55

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 17:39

Ffs where has that been insuniated.

Unfortunately the horrors of eugenics, euthanasia and forced sterilisation all derive directly from a purely utilitarian viewpoint, such as 'more kids= more value'. Not to say that you support those horrors, but sadly that's where history has taught us such reasoning tends to land (way down the line maybe, but that's the end point of the logic).
Edited to expand on the point so that it makes more sense. The problem with 'more kids= more value' is (as PP pointed out) not just about the mother v childfree woman, not just about the volume (someone with 3 kids being superior to someone with one) but down the line, thinking about different people having different worth for society always ends up with 'which kids/human beings are valuable and which aren't'. And that's where you end up with disabled people in death camps.

pointythings · 15/02/2026 19:33

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 17:47

My comment though I didn’t think needed explaining obviously does. In the context of economy, a person having children are providing potential future tax payers. Birth rates are dropping & that’s a problem you will have to face & live with. So in old age those coming for me please don’t complain if you can neither retire or get the care you need (which is dire now). Saying that incentives are a good idea to encourage people to have children isn’t saying we should adopt a handmaid tale existence for those who wish to not have children. Nor do I think their value is irrelevant. I acknowledge people who have children are part of the solution. I’m sorry if you’re childless due to circumstances out of your control doesn’t mean my point becomes mute.

It's 'moot'.

But aside from that.

Consider a woman who is diagnosed with cancer. Because of her chemo/radiation/surgery, she ends up never being able to have children.

Now she is punished for that for the rest of her life by having to pay more tax. Her every P60 is a reminder of what she has lost.

Moral? Ethical? Acceptable? Fuck no.

Carla786 · 15/02/2026 19:33

Imdunfer · 15/02/2026 12:21

Have you read the title?

I am against encouraging British women to have more children with the aim of preventing immigration for several key reasons. The first is that the world eventually has to learn to share its wealth equally among its nations and properly controlled immigration so as not to disadvantage each nation's own people is a very good way of doing that. (Stealing poor nations' doctors is not. Taking someone as a lower skilled care worker and upskilling them into a nurse or therapist is.)

Secondly, it's cheaper to take in an adult than it is to raise a child, so it's potentially to the benefit of over-populated poor countries without work for people to do and the wealthier country for that exchange to take place.

Thirdly, the more room we have available to give help to those escaping war and tyranny, the better.

There's no doubt Reform's policy will be intended to reduce the further dilution of British culture. But as long as women actually want more children, and many on this forum and elsewhere say that they do but cant afford them, I don't think that policy would be as evil as many people on this thread are suggesting.

As a woman who is childless by choice I'm conflicted, in an over populated world, about paying higher taxes to enable British and NI women to have more children while there are adults desperate to live in this country who are refused.

I agree re war & tyranny but unfortunately mny men from eg. Afghanistan seem to have poor attitudes to VAWG.

Carla786 · 15/02/2026 19:30

Imdunfer · 15/02/2026 15:32

I'm afraid this doesn't make sense economically.

We can at the moment import as many adults as we need to pay tax to cover pensions, we don't need to breed and bring up children for 18 or more years to do that.

There are already too many people on the planet who can't be fed.

The only arguments for a wealthy western country breeding their own are that parents want to have them and, the Reform one, to prevent dilution of the majority culture.

Edited

It's not really fair to take all skilled workers away from poorer countries though. Brain drain will stop them improving.

Carla786 · 15/02/2026 19:27

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 14/02/2026 08:03

I dont even know where to start with this...

Does it only apply to women?
What about fertility issues?
What if you are gay?
Do you just go in benefits to avoid tax if you cant / dont want to breed?
Do childless men get taxed too???

Edited

I agree but tbf lesbians are pretty likely to want kids too.

OutsideLookingOut · 15/02/2026 18:46

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 16:43

its not what I’ve said. I just said you’re providing future value long after you yourself will not be providing. I’m being quite clear that I’m on about the length of contribution. I even said no one’s physical life is more important than anyone else’s.

I'm using your own reasoning. It is logical that if you think a person provides more value by creating a future tax payer then those that have children who do not become tax payers are not creating more value, in fact you could say by your own reasoning they are producing a net negative. Perhaps then they should pay even more tax? Of course, most compassionate people would agree that would be unfair. The thing is you do not know if your children will be a positive force in the world, if they will be future rapists, murderers or teachers and doctors.

charliehungerford · 15/02/2026 18:28

jasflowers · 15/02/2026 16:52

Nazi Germany had such ideas - "Dilution of the majority culture?" hell, that really is something out of 1930s Germany!

I'm well aware these are NOT Reform official policies but i do find it extremely worrying that the Reform candidate, in such a high profile By Election, is or has put out these ideas.

To me, they make him unsuitable to be an MP but if he still wishes to be one, then its only fair his (far right) views are heavily scrutinised.

The choice for a woman or man to have children should not be subject to Government policies, especially as over the course of 18 or so years, these can change dramatically.

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Dilution of the majority culture is not just the concern of right wing parties such as Reform in the uk, other European countries, particularly Sweden and Denmark, have similar concerns. Welcome people who come here to contribute, economically and culturally, but integration is the key, and this is something Matt Goodwin mentions frequently. Multi cultural is one thing, but some areas of British towns and cities are becoming mono-cultural where people do not integrate or mix. That’s not good for society, doesn’t matter if it’s Albanians or somalis in London, or British retirees in Spain, towns lose their identity which is unsettling for the indigenous population of these places.

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 17:47

My comment though I didn’t think needed explaining obviously does. In the context of economy, a person having children are providing potential future tax payers. Birth rates are dropping & that’s a problem you will have to face & live with. So in old age those coming for me please don’t complain if you can neither retire or get the care you need (which is dire now). Saying that incentives are a good idea to encourage people to have children isn’t saying we should adopt a handmaid tale existence for those who wish to not have children. Nor do I think their value is irrelevant. I acknowledge people who have children are part of the solution. I’m sorry if you’re childless due to circumstances out of your control doesn’t mean my point becomes mute.

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 17:39

jasflowers · 15/02/2026 17:20

Even if these disgusting ideas are valid, no one knows whether their child will be a benefit to society or not, take this idea a little further, child becomes disabled, due to accident or health issues... what then? get rid of it?

What would this benefit be? tax paid? work done? one could argue a carer is providing more "benefit" than an Accountant?

Neither can function without the other.

Ffs where has that been insuniated.

jasflowers · 15/02/2026 17:20

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 16:55

I said that people who have children are providing a benefit. I’m not measuring there actual worth

Even if these disgusting ideas are valid, no one knows whether their child will be a benefit to society or not, take this idea a little further, child becomes disabled, due to accident or health issues... what then? get rid of it?

What would this benefit be? tax paid? work done? one could argue a carer is providing more "benefit" than an Accountant?

Neither can function without the other.

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 17:06

KimberleyClark · 15/02/2026 16:54

Awful to think I’m of less value because an accident of biology made it impossible for me to have children.

I didn’t mean it that way. I meant the subsidies are fair

ThingsAreNotWhatTheyWere · 15/02/2026 16:58

KimberleyClark · 15/02/2026 16:57

You said their value is more. Your actual words.

Yep...

ThingsAreNotWhatTheyWere · 15/02/2026 16:58

KimberleyClark · 15/02/2026 16:54

Awful to think I’m of less value because an accident of biology made it impossible for me to have children.

From someone in the same position, I hear you!

KimberleyClark · 15/02/2026 16:57

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 16:55

I said that people who have children are providing a benefit. I’m not measuring there actual worth

You said their value is more. Your actual words.

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 16:55

ThingsAreNotWhatTheyWere · 15/02/2026 16:35

Measuring someone's worth by their ability or desire to have children is frankly dystopian and insulting. I don't disagree that there are demographic issues that need addressing, but assigning some sort of moral value and superiority to having children is not the way to do that.

I said that people who have children are providing a benefit. I’m not measuring there actual worth

KimberleyClark · 15/02/2026 16:54

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 14:37

Because your value is more. I’m sorry but it is. You’re providing the future workforce who will be paying your state pension, potentially your additional care. Paying for the NHS. Whilst sacrificing the freedoms you lose being a parent. By having children your are by default contributing to the future. It’s refreshing to see politicians looking past the end of their noses. Had other governments did that maybe we wouldn’t be paying ridiculous energy prices now. To cut net zero they’ve not considered long term energy supplies. Knowing that successive governments will likely take the credit for any initiatives that uou had started.

Awful to think I’m of less value because an accident of biology made it impossible for me to have children.

jasflowers · 15/02/2026 16:52

Imdunfer · 15/02/2026 07:54

He's made it perfectly clear that he was batting around ideas he read put forward by someone else who's name I can't remember and that was one of many ideas that had been single out for comment and that none of those ideas are Reform policies, but if you only read the frothing on this thread you won't know that.

Nazi Germany had such ideas - "Dilution of the majority culture?" hell, that really is something out of 1930s Germany!

I'm well aware these are NOT Reform official policies but i do find it extremely worrying that the Reform candidate, in such a high profile By Election, is or has put out these ideas.

To me, they make him unsuitable to be an MP but if he still wishes to be one, then its only fair his (far right) views are heavily scrutinised.

The choice for a woman or man to have children should not be subject to Government policies, especially as over the course of 18 or so years, these can change dramatically.

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 16:43

OutsideLookingOut · 15/02/2026 16:26

But if you have a child/children who will never be able to work then by your own statements you are providing less value to society. I think that is dangerous. Also it suggests the only way to contribute to society is by having children which is not true. With AI I don't think there will be a need for so many workers anyway. Right now we rely on a ponzi system for pensions but all ponzi systems will collapse in a finite system. The cynical side of me suspects this great push for to increase the birth rate is the elites who want a class to exploit.

its not what I’ve said. I just said you’re providing future value long after you yourself will not be providing. I’m being quite clear that I’m on about the length of contribution. I even said no one’s physical life is more important than anyone else’s.

ThingsAreNotWhatTheyWere · 15/02/2026 16:35

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 14:37

Because your value is more. I’m sorry but it is. You’re providing the future workforce who will be paying your state pension, potentially your additional care. Paying for the NHS. Whilst sacrificing the freedoms you lose being a parent. By having children your are by default contributing to the future. It’s refreshing to see politicians looking past the end of their noses. Had other governments did that maybe we wouldn’t be paying ridiculous energy prices now. To cut net zero they’ve not considered long term energy supplies. Knowing that successive governments will likely take the credit for any initiatives that uou had started.

Measuring someone's worth by their ability or desire to have children is frankly dystopian and insulting. I don't disagree that there are demographic issues that need addressing, but assigning some sort of moral value and superiority to having children is not the way to do that.

OutsideLookingOut · 15/02/2026 16:26

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 15:20

It was an example of politicians not future proofing society. Do you want a population collapse to happen before they deal with it & then like they have with net zero put in damaging policies in place that see us getting poorer and poorer. I wasn’t saying we don’t need to move to renewables but I’m 45 and the climate was a big talking point yet we have solutions that are not going to work & to hit our own target we now import our gas by more expensive and more dirtier means than drilling our own. My energy comment was making an example about not future proofing against problems they know that are coming.

i didn’t say any ones physical life was of less value, i was on about the value you are providing society. The minute you’re claiming more than you’re contributing. As a person you should be looked after in old age, but the people who’s made that a possibility are the ones having children now. So not only are most contributing as well as raising children now they’ve secured the future providers. I think that’s worthy of subsidy to their income. Trust me they’re still massively out of pocket raising a child.

But if you have a child/children who will never be able to work then by your own statements you are providing less value to society. I think that is dangerous. Also it suggests the only way to contribute to society is by having children which is not true. With AI I don't think there will be a need for so many workers anyway. Right now we rely on a ponzi system for pensions but all ponzi systems will collapse in a finite system. The cynical side of me suspects this great push for to increase the birth rate is the elites who want a class to exploit.

charliehungerford · 15/02/2026 16:18

Imdunfer · 15/02/2026 15:32

I'm afraid this doesn't make sense economically.

We can at the moment import as many adults as we need to pay tax to cover pensions, we don't need to breed and bring up children for 18 or more years to do that.

There are already too many people on the planet who can't be fed.

The only arguments for a wealthy western country breeding their own are that parents want to have them and, the Reform one, to prevent dilution of the majority culture.

Edited

You may not have an issue with our culture being diluted, but many do. There is also the issue of what benefits immigrants bring, there is a massive difference between bringing a highly skilled and well educated doctor, nurse or engineer from overseas, who will be a benefit to the country, both in their skill base and their earning power and therefore their tax contributions, against an unskilled person with poor education who is unlikely to ever earn enough to be a net contributor to our economy, and may need state support in the form of housing or universal credit even though they may be working. There is also the issue of taking skilled people from poorer countries and depleting them of the skill set they need and have trained. I recently read some research which showed that the people who are leaving the uk to move overseas are more skilled and wealthy than those who are arriving. That’s not good economic sense either.

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charliehungerford · 15/02/2026 16:06

Velentia · 15/02/2026 12:25

Dropping weight carrying requirement for fire fighters to enable the recruitment of more women.
The Army trialled a fitness test for specific jobs. Some artillery shells for instance are very heavy and must be handled manually at times. If you are not strong enough you don't do that particular job.
I think it was adopted.

But that’s very different than being a fire fighter in an emergency situation, if you need to get someone out of a burning building immediately you can’t just hang around and wait for a man to turn up to carry the casualty, you have to get them out now, it’s life or death in those circumstances.

pointythings · 15/02/2026 16:01

NoisyViewer · 15/02/2026 15:20

It was an example of politicians not future proofing society. Do you want a population collapse to happen before they deal with it & then like they have with net zero put in damaging policies in place that see us getting poorer and poorer. I wasn’t saying we don’t need to move to renewables but I’m 45 and the climate was a big talking point yet we have solutions that are not going to work & to hit our own target we now import our gas by more expensive and more dirtier means than drilling our own. My energy comment was making an example about not future proofing against problems they know that are coming.

i didn’t say any ones physical life was of less value, i was on about the value you are providing society. The minute you’re claiming more than you’re contributing. As a person you should be looked after in old age, but the people who’s made that a possibility are the ones having children now. So not only are most contributing as well as raising children now they’ve secured the future providers. I think that’s worthy of subsidy to their income. Trust me they’re still massively out of pocket raising a child.

I've had two children, so no need to patronise me about the cost of raising them.