My child is being assaulted

Or course this is an outrageous stance from the school. I think I'd be talking to local press, Ofsted and possibly police if they don't very swiftly get their act together.

This is why we have a epidemic of malr behavior against women ...it is not addressed.
Their behavior is blamed on us.
Outrageous!!!

My DD was told she had to understand these girls were unhappy. I said she didn't, teachers needed to understand but my DD was not a therapy punching bag.

It is soul destroying. You have my sympathy.

What’s it got to do with the “looney left”? How have they infiltrated the school system?

Er, no! Why should she have to change her behaviour to avoid some nasty little thug attacking her? They should be kept away from her and that is the schools responsibility, not the 7 year olds.

I'd be up there raging, that is completely unacceptable.

Hi op is the head having words with boys? It sounds like she is blaming your dd which is absolutely disgraceful definitely not acceptable. Op have you gone to the governors do they have any?
I would contact them as the head will just be brushing it under the carpet. They are bullies and there getting away with it and your dd vulnerability should be the priority here not the bullies. The head is basically saying it’s her own fault for provoking them she should be calling in the bullies parents telling them if it happens again they will be expelled there anger issues is the boys problem. Op it’s like saying to any woman./girl oh you got hit by a man oh you probably did something to annoy him. Fuck that boys turn into men that assault there partners because if they’re doing it now as children and not being punished there being taught it’s ok to hit girls/woman. Go yo the governors first, then council safe guarding team then police. Do not let it carry on. The boys should be punished now.

As PPs have said - board of governors. This is absolutely a safeguarding failure.

The school’s response is diabolical. But it’s typical of the looney left which has infiltrated the teaching profession.

There is no excuse for violence. Your daughter shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells, she needs help to learn to read signals properly, it’s a terrible situation. I know that the children with AsD who are very forward get a harder time in social interactions.
She needs to stay away. Can you speak to their parents? I’d punish DS if he used violence because he didn’t like someone.
Self defence classes will help.

Having worked in schools, it is extremely difficult to balance the needs of all children, especially when SN is involved.
Posters seem to be seeing this as a girl/misogyny issue. Take that out of the equation, as similar situations are happening more and more in schools, whatever the gender.

No it’s not acceptable, but finance/ resources, lack of actual consequences the school have at their disposal etc, means that these situations are increasing, and will continue to increase. It is a worrying time for education.

Op you need to advocate for your dd, keep a paper trail, ask for everything in writing and insist she’s kept safe- but alongside with this, regardless of all genders, you also need to work with her to keep away from these children. A two pronged approach.

School staff are though. This doesn’t reflect the experiences of others in the wider world but pupils and staff are harmed by children in schools every day.

Absolutely. A shame for any kid of yours if you disagree!

I'm absolutely incensed by this! I presume the head is a man?

No way would I be staying quiet about this, I'd be naming and shaming the head and the school all over social media and contacting as much national media, women's and girls and abuse organisations and charities as possible to spread the word. I'm deadly serious on that.

This happens where I work.

We have a very high amount of additional needs and not enough staff. Not all children with additional needs are violent (my own children included!) but they do need time and extra support to navigate social cues, impulsive actions, anxiety and other issues that arise. Staff have sometimes lost learning time in the classroom to unpick what has happened at break and lunch so we can deal with anything that arises.

Due to confidentiality we can’t share what consequences may be put in place which can make parents feel nothing has been done but that isn’t usually the case. I understand that parents may want a child permanently excluded because they want to protect their child but that is very rare. There’s only ever been 1 permanent exclusion where I have worked for 10years. Schools’ hands really are tied.

(As staff members we are regularly verbally abused and sometimes physically too, it’s not a great feeling as an adult let alone a child experiencing it.)

This is diabolical where are the consequences. Why do these boys thinking hitting girls is OK?! Report this to the governors. I'd be having a stern word with thier parents too. Your child has a right to be safe at school. How the hell can a head be teaching a girl she should be tip toeing around boys and it's her fault for provoking them! What message is that. I'd tell my child if it happens again she is to hit them back as hard as she can. Each and every time it happens you make a complaint and tell the governors. This head sounds awful.

OP, are you aware that your child is in any way antagonising them? They obviously still need to be dealt with, but I can understand why direction to your daughter forms part of the solution if she is.

Ah, another poster insinuating that the dd is a bully… and is provoking the violence 🙄

Straight to Ofsted

I’d want to understand how being in the presence of someone is provoking. I’d also point out that violence is never justified, are the boys being asked to ignore her and work on their behaviour. Surely their impulse to be violent is more problematic for the school than the impulse to bait (not saying she was/is).

It's about time bullied kids took a class action against the education authority/academies. I'm sure a good law firm would take it on.

Sick of 'safeguarding' equalling no safe guard!

I would get a councillor involved, go to the local press and keep her off school. In that time, send her for self defence classes - a martial art would be a good choice.

Sending a big hug to your DD. She doesn't deserve what has happened. The boys should be expelled imo.

Complain to the chair of governors. The school/head has not dealt with your complaint in a safe way. The whole point of safeguarding is making sure children are safe. Your daughter is not safe if she is being assaulted at school

To be fair, fighting back has been the way that victims have made bullies realise they're not a good target for decades. Schools have always been fairly useless at dealing with violent children, sadly.

I’m so sorry your daughter is
going through this. As others have said write to the head, it’s easier to get across your points in a logical fashion than face to face with someone who doesn’t want to listen. I would also copy in the chair of the governors. This is just step one, the next step is OFSTED. When was their last inspection? Good luck 🤞

I cat really see how that's a problem? Your eldest will be leaving soon. Lots of kids go to different schools to their siblings.

Escalate your concerns to ousted and consider involving the police