My child is being assaulted

Doesn’t matter. You can still call them about an assault.

If the school are refusing to deal with it, (and even if they were) I’d be contacting the police. If they did this anywhere else but school, that’s what you’d do, not sure why it is different for school.

So why is the school (and posters on here) saying the dd is responsible for not getting assaulted?
so the boys aren’t to blame for being violent because they’re 7 and don’t know better…but the dd who’s also 7 is to blame for being repeatedly assaulted and should know better?

For fucks sake.

Why don't the boys just walk away? Why do they resort to violence? In life as adults they'll have people irritating them all the time - door knockers, charity donation requests, someone who pushes past them on the street, people talking too loudly right next to them in a queue. Are they going to assault all of those people too?

Learning a firm 'no' or going to get a teacher is not too much to ask rather than an assault. If they can't do that they shouldn't be in the playground.

Can they?
I mean we dont charge parents if their kids are violent .

And police surely.

Surely in this case then the people in charge of them become responsible for criminal charges?

Children can't just be assaulted continuously!

The children are seven so under the age of criminal responsibility.

Absolutely disgraceful dereliction of duty by the headteacher. Your DD has been badly let down. Their attitude is unacceptable and smacks of moral cowardice and sexism. Why should DD be responsible for these boys' behaviour? assuming she has never actively provoked them. What is your next step OP as this can't be overlooked? Is it school governors, the local authority?

If the Head won't act contact the Police. As you say she is being Assaulted, which is a serious crime. She is NOT responsible for the criminals' behaviour. If the Police are reluctant to act push the matter forward with them so that they do take it seriously.

We do have special schools ,we even have different types of special schools but its very area dependent what's available and it takes a while to build up evidence that a child's needs cant be met in mainstream
Thats just a fact, but in the meantime there need ,s all children need to safe guarded at school and schools csnt just dismss concerns because a child may have SEN.

How have you decided this girl is the “instigator”?….:
are you another poster who has the view “ oh the poor boy…. So awful for him!! He’s only 7!! Of course his being violent and aggressive is not his fault!!”
but yet the 7 yo girl who is being assaulted is to blame for being assaulted?? “She’s brought it on herself/look what she made him do poor boy!!”

And we don't need to perpetuate this. Or condone it.

I personally think there need to be special schools, as there used to be.

It's impossible in a mainstream setting to fully address persistent negative behaviours in a meaningful way.

Obviously there will need to be a lot more funding for this. Honestly I'd be all for stopping foreign aid in order to plug this gap, because children are being failed. Charity (or in this case an adequate education system that meets all needs) should begin at home.

Agree with this. It's such a struggle for parents with a ND child whose behaviour is good. They - generally speaking - really lose out.

Children who are persistently violent and disruptive need to not be in mainstream schools. It doesn't benefit the other children at all and it doesn't even really benefit them if they're getting away with behaviour as children that as adults will see them in prison. It's not setting them up for a good life.

Then what? What happens to all these children?Society forgets them. Parents can’t work? Money taken from schools to provide 1:1 education at home?

I know your argument will be what about the children who comply? Who are kind? There is a reason these children have all these qualities. Good home environments. Academically able to understand a lesson.

The only answer is more staff in school. Different types of classroom set ups. A complete overhaul of the education system. Surely this is preferable to a child being left behind?

I think it is very relevant if your DD is ASD/ADHD. She needs extra safeguarding, especially if she cannot see the danger and cannot keep herself safe in the same way a neurotypical child could. Let’s assume she cannot read the early cues when these boys start looking aggressive. The school have a duty of care towards her.

From my limited personal experience of 4 DC in state eduction and their friends over the years, it is usually the well behaved/non violent ND kids who suffer the worst. Their need is high, but they get ignored due to good behaviour, and then often their trauma builds up and it all comes crashing down on them and you are left with a barely functioning child with severe mental health issues.

THIS

And then they wonder why attendance isn't higher. It's because lots of the children don't want to be beaten up!

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And then they wonder why attendance isn't higher. It's because lots of the children don't want to be beaten up!

God that's appalling. So if some violent male can only express his feelings by beating his wife black and blue that's ok is it?

Not only is it horrifically unsafe for the girls it's teaching the boy a lesson that will see him in prison once he's an adult.

How the hell do people who will accept male violence and use girls as human shields to manage male behaviour end up in positions of responsibility over children?

Absolute rubbish - if your child cannot control himself without resorting to violence he shouldn't be in a mainstream School, ND or not.

Ask to see their safeguarding policy
Highlight every part they are not meeting

Make an appt with the HT and the governor responsible for safeguarding
Ask them if they can keep your DD safe
Ask what they will do

Are they an academy?

Exactly the same thing happened to my friend when her shy and quiet daughter was being bullied by one exceptionally unpleasant ten year old - move Schools then. It only stopped when the mother approached the little beast on the way to School and said she'd run him over if he didn't stop. Highly irregular - her husband was unaware she'd done this. The bullying stopped overnight. It's not good enough and parents shouldn't have to resort to this due to Staff incompetence. I'm glad this is an anonymous site btw.

Don't know how far you've taken this with the School but the Head of Year and the Headteacher need to be made aware. Then go to the Governors, then your local Councillor and then your MP. Threaten to report the assaults to the Social Services and the Police. Do not back down and let your daughter suffer. Local and National Press and threatening to put this all over the internet might help too. Make sure you keep a detailed record - including photos, times and dates - and the names and positions of the School staff who are advising you to roll over. This is outrageous and I'd be furious if I got fobbed off like this. Do not stand for it - the Staff have a duty of care to provide a safe environment - they are failing in that respect. I've worked in several Schools, and we would have never, ever recommended the 'just stay away from them' policy.

They are...

But suspending them puts them straight back into the hands of the parent who is likely responsible for their poor behaviour in the first place, which means that the behaviour only gets worse.

They need parenting courses for those who have children who are regularly suspended.

By keeping the child in school, then at least they have routine along with an adult who can try and help them with their behaviour.

School are therefore doing the right thing telling children to stay away from those who cannot keep their temper. Children need to learn that if they want others to play with them, they need to be kind.