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My child is being assaulted

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ImplodingLoading · 13/02/2026 22:26

DD 7has been assaulted multiple times by 2 boys in her year. She has been punched, slapped, kicked and pushed over.

Schools advice is for her to "keep away from the boys she knows are known to be volatile" so when they are playing whole year games, for example, the school have suggested she "uses clear language to ensure they are ready for theor turn, so as not to provoke their anger" and "when explained to the girls that their are some boys who are prone to angry outbursts, and the girls should avoid being around them"

AIBU, or is this absolutely ridiculous?!

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5foot5 · 13/02/2026 22:33

newornotnew · 13/02/2026 22:32

Have you made a formal complaint in writing?
Document everything and follow the formal complaints procedure. Report to the local council safeguarding lead too.

This.

Completely outrageous that the school are teaching girls as young as this that it is their responsibility to not provoke male anger.

ImplodingLoading · 13/02/2026 22:33

BrentfordForever · 13/02/2026 22:30

“not to provoke their anger”

WTF?

did you actually speak to the Head?

Spoke to the head who said "I have explained to x name (my child), that she should stay away from boys she knows can be prone to angry outbursts, and if she approaches them, we will see that as her provoking them"
So, in other words you're teaching my daughter to walk on eggshells around males, in case she provokes them to attack her?" Surely I'm not being ridiculous here to be absolutely livid?!

OP posts:
newornotnew · 13/02/2026 22:32

Have you made a formal complaint in writing?
Document everything and follow the formal complaints procedure. Report to the local council safeguarding lead too.

CakeMindsThinkAlike · 13/02/2026 22:31

Why are children supposed accept being assaulted at school? Would any adult accept being assaulted at work? No, of course not.

ShetlandishMum · 13/02/2026 22:30

My child wouldn't go in before school sort her safety. I would be in the office on Monday to tell HT.

BrentfordForever · 13/02/2026 22:30

“not to provoke their anger”

WTF?

did you actually speak to the Head?

TruJay · 13/02/2026 22:30

Diabolical but not surprised as have experienced horrible bullying with ds for years, bullies never get dealt with, always excused in some bullshit way.

TheignT · 13/02/2026 22:28

Sounds ridiculous to me although my DD was being attacked by girls but the point is they should be safe.

HipHipWhoRay · 13/02/2026 22:27

Absolutely outrageous. Completely unacceptable

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