To think male nursery workers should be banned for safety reasons?

Not equating anything, just exploring the concept of collective punishment.

Many won't agree on here, as it's probably classed in the 'being precious' or 'overprotective' category 🙄 and it surprises me in RL how many people aren't bothered by it, but I absolutely agree with you!
I would never send my child to a nursery with a male working there, or to a male childminder.I know they are not ALL paedophiles of course, but it's just not worth the risk.I would also never knowingly put any of my kids in a situation where they could be left 1-1 with a male (such as 1-1 music lessons, sports sessions etc)
Teachers at school i see as less risk as they are usually teaching abit older kids so not doing personal care, and are mostly with a larger group of children together. Male TA in reception would bother me though.
I don't agree that kids being older means they would necessarily speak up however....yes they have they technically have the ability to, but sadly many parents still don't chat to their kids about sexual abuse and body autonomy and sadly kids can easily be threatened, coerced or scared into silence by adults.

Unfortunately, women are more likely to be stressed from carrying the mental load at home, busy gossiping, or in a peri/meni fog. I would say your children are at far greater risk of neglect at the hands of a distracted woman in a nursery, than SA by a male. I do understand the statistics with regard to pedophiles seeking employment in childcare, but a blanket ban is not the answer. Children escaping settings or being left on trips when in the care of female nursery staff happens ALL THE TIME, and at this point they are fair game for all the evil men, not just the ones with enhanced disclosures!

Parents are able to request that intimate care is only provided by female staff, and have this formally included in your child's care plan, there is no need to set back gender roles 50 years!

They’ll just transition, identify as female and work in nurseries that way

It's not victim blaming. You should be able to trust people with your children. I just didn't.

School? Didn't do that either. I wasn't subjecting my kids to the harm female teachers inflicted on me. It's had a much more lasting impact than any SA I might have experienced. I didn't have to isolate them to keep them safe either. They've all grown up successful, social and speak highly of their childhoods.

I think the problem with this ‘if you don’t want your child to be sexually abused at nursery then stay home to look after them’ line of posting is that it’s really just another form of victim blaming. Don’t walk alone at night, don’t wear revealing clothing, don’t put your child in a nursery.

Also - side point, but you do need to take some risks with your children to be semi-decent parent. Sending them to school is a risk.

Absolutely. It's very important for our male children to see men in caring roles so they don't think it's just "women's work"

None of us are suggesting banning male doctors because of Harold Shipman because it was a rarity, same as Lucy Letby. Male sex abuser nursery workers much less rare, especially as they are 3% of nursery workers

There might not be a pattern but any risk is too big when it comes to my children. Hospitals - I stayed with them 24/7. Childcare - I did it myself.

That's not a specifically female crime and Beverly Allitt and Lucy Letby were 2 cases 25 years apart in the UK in a profession dominated by women. So it doesn't show a pattern.
There have been three cases of male paedophile nursery workers in the news in the UK since November 2025.

No, I'm not. You must have missed where I said I won't have my son in nursery because I don't want any risk of harm to come to him.

This thread is about sexual abuse by men in nurseries. It's factual that many men who want to abuse children will seek out employment settings in which they can do so. They're called professional predators.

Also,

Did you mean to equate stealing goods from shops with the rape and sexual abuse of human children?!

Should there be only make paediatric nurses because all the reports about paediatric nurses killing their patients have been women - Lucy letby , Beverly Allit

Most shoplifting is committed by women, should we ban women from shops?

Same principle, no?

Reflecting on this, and I’ve realised that if you think of positions of trust in our society you’ll also be able to think of at least one example of a man who’s abused that trust to sexually abuse, rape, and/or murder women or children.

Police officer. Teacher. Other school staff, such as school caretaker. Priest. Doctor. Surgeon. Paramedic. Nursery worker/childminder. Sports coach. Children’s entertainer. Celebrity. Aid worker. Taxi driver. Foster carer. Care worker. The list could go on and on.

I do agree with what the OP has said about the particular risks posed to pre-verbal children and providing them with intimate care. But when you zoom out and think about the scale of male abuse of trust in society it becomes quite overwhelming.

If you really wanted to mitigate all risk to your children, you wouldn't want them around random people (men and women). Even if most are fine, you only need one bad egg. The safest option for your children, assuming your home is a safe place of course, is at home with a parent in the preschool years. That's what I chose, and chose to make work, because I didn't want random people of either sex taking care of my vulnerable young children.

If you’re downplaying the risk from women then I don’t think you are aware. Your so focused on one form of abuse that your ignoring others.

We are the ones aware of the risk, hence why we don't want random men around our children.

Anyone who thinks “ban men”’is the answer is downplaying the actual risk of abuse.