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To think male nursery workers should be banned for safety reasons?

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Carla786 · 13/02/2026 18:47

I KNOW most men who work in them are fine but sexual abuse in nurseries is overwhelmingly committed by men. No more men, much less abuse risk.
Yes we need more CCTV etc to watch bad women but it cuts SA risk immeasurably.

We can still have male primary teachers etc kids are old enough to speak up then.

And yes, you can ban on the basis of sex for safety reasons. In women's refuges, eg.

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BlueJuniper94 · 13/02/2026 18:58

Carla786 · 13/02/2026 18:55

Most offenders are men. No more men, much less SA.

Do we bar male care workers?

Carla786 · 13/02/2026 18:58

ScaryM0nster · 13/02/2026 18:51

And eliminate positive male role models from the lives of a large number of under 5s?

Why can the parents not use male friends or family members? We must recruit more men to primary school teaching, I agree.

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Carla786 · 13/02/2026 18:55

BlueJuniper94 · 13/02/2026 18:51

Do we know what proportion of men offend?

Most offenders are men. No more men, much less SA.

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Carla786 · 13/02/2026 18:53

StabbyCat · 13/02/2026 18:49

YANBU.

I know women very occasionally offend too but someone has to
work in these settings. It’s about minimising risk as much as possible.

Exactly! We know from investigations that paedophiles know nurseries want men & deliberately are putting themselves forward.

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BlueJuniper94 · 13/02/2026 18:51

Do we know what proportion of men offend?

faithfultoGeorgeMichael · 13/02/2026 18:51

Myself and DH agree. And he was a SAHD.

ScaryM0nster · 13/02/2026 18:51

And eliminate positive male role models from the lives of a large number of under 5s?

StabbyCat · 13/02/2026 18:49

YANBU.

I know women very occasionally offend too but someone has to
work in these settings. It’s about minimising risk as much as possible.