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Excluded from bday party - aibu to text the parent?

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RealReginaPhalange · 13/02/2026 16:48

Reception. Its Feb so kids know each other well enough. Bday party tomorrow, idk how many not invited and how many invited but my son has been excluded. They do play together at school but i dont know the mum. They had chats today about party tmrw, my DS feels he is invited and he is fully aware of the party. Apparently invitations went out by whatsapp directly. I am on whatsapp group so it is not an error. Fine not to invite everyone but in reception? They dont have own little circles of friends yet. Invite everyone or no one at that age. And then talks at school and some kids end up upset. I am so so angry now and will need to have a chat with ds. should i text the mom it is hurtful or should i leave it?

just to add. I dont really know parents there and not sure if she is well known, i am worried i will be a gossip no 1 afterward and it would lead to my ds being excluded more.

aibu - dont text
not aibu - text

OP posts:
NerrSnerr · 13/02/2026 16:51

Although it’s upsetting not to be invited to every party you can’t expect it. You have no idea how many are invited. My children didn’t invite everyone in reception, they would have both found it too overwhelming. Whole class parties are also expensive.