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Let me spell this out very clearly for the hard of thinking

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KillTheTurkey · 13/02/2026 16:34

Men commit 99% of all rapes and sexual assaults.

Men (and young men) commit 95-98% of school shootings.

Men commit 90% of all violent crime in the UK.

These are not female crimes, and should never, ever be reported - or recorded - as such. It can safely be assumed in any of the above circumstances that a male person was the perpetrator.

OP posts:
NotAnotherScarf · 13/02/2026 17:25

KillTheTurkey · 13/02/2026 16:45

Women don’t commit violent crime, on the whole. Women are in prison for lesser crimes.

I’ve clearly failed to explain this in simple enough terms. Still.

Myra Hindley, Rose West anyone. And let me guess you feed into Radio 4s Womans Hour line that women only commit crime to please men or because they are forced to?

Sorry violent behaviour is universal, I've seen enough women fighting to know that.

igelkott2026 · 13/02/2026 17:25

BringonSpringnowplease · 13/02/2026 17:21

I don't think you should post a thread about rape that has a title that doesn't make it clear what it's going to be about

I'd have thought merely mentioning the word would be triggering so I don't know how that helps.

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 13/02/2026 17:25

TheMorgenmuffel · 13/02/2026 17:22

Ah, i see.

well, what she's saying is that when a man commits a crime, it should not be recorded or reported as committed by a woman.

She's also pointing out that the vast majority of violent or sexual crimes are committed by biological men.

She's started this thread prompted by the latest school shooter that is being reported as female when they are in reality a male.

She is saying that a crime committed by a man should not be recorded as committed by a woman.

And the other way, obviously, except its not as much of an issue since biological women hardly ever carry out mass shootings and rapes.

And OP also said
It can safely be assumed in any of the above circumstances that a male person was the perpetrator. (above circs being rape, sexual assault and all violent crimes)

It is this bit that a lot of us are objecting to. She really should have said presumed, not assumed.

igelkott2026 · 13/02/2026 17:23

ThejoyofNC · 13/02/2026 16:44

Maybe we should fill the women's prisons with men then? Seeing as they're just sat there empty.

Erm...

TheMorgenmuffel · 13/02/2026 17:22

IkeaJesusChrist · 13/02/2026 17:16

It's there in black and white.

Ah, i see.

well, what she's saying is that when a man commits a crime, it should not be recorded or reported as committed by a woman.

She's also pointing out that the vast majority of violent or sexual crimes are committed by biological men.

She's started this thread prompted by the latest school shooter that is being reported as female when they are in reality a male.

She is saying that a crime committed by a man should not be recorded as committed by a woman.

And the other way, obviously, except its not as much of an issue since biological women hardly ever carry out mass shootings and rapes.

BringonSpringnowplease · 13/02/2026 17:21

I don't think you should post a thread about rape that has a title that doesn't make it clear what it's going to be about

Dontlletmedownbruce · 13/02/2026 17:21

Em.. OK then?

I would like to think most of us knew that rape is an offence only men can commit.

What's your point?

ValidPistachio · 13/02/2026 17:21

KillTheTurkey · 13/02/2026 16:42

Yes they do, honestly please stop with the gaslighting. Men rape, men shoot, men commit violent crime.

That's not gaslighting.

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 13/02/2026 17:20

TheMorgenmuffel · 13/02/2026 17:14

Do you genuinely believe the op is saying that crimes committed by biological women should be recorded as having been committed by biological men?

The OP’s initial post was not well written.
I can see how someone could read it that way.

whereisitnow · 13/02/2026 17:18

Yes we most if us realise that. But “The hard of thinking?” You’re rude.

Manymoresometimes · 13/02/2026 17:18

Whats the point of this post?

Aluna · 13/02/2026 17:18

CharlieEffie · 13/02/2026 17:15

Its 98% rapes actually. And this is those prosecuted. So those who feel able to come forward. Statistically men who are assaulted by women are less likely to report due to feelings of shame etc.

Also if these werent "female" crimes the statistics would be 100% of these crimes committed by men. To state that women are in prison for "lesser crimes" is ridiculous and untrue

Yeah women don’t feel any shame reporting rape.

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 13/02/2026 17:17

HelenaWaiting · 13/02/2026 17:15

Crimes don't have a sex but criminals do.

Yes exactly my point.

Aluna · 13/02/2026 17:17

ThejoyofNC · 13/02/2026 16:44

Maybe we should fill the women's prisons with men then? Seeing as they're just sat there empty.

All 12 of them. Compared to 100 male prisons.

IkeaJesusChrist · 13/02/2026 17:16

TheMorgenmuffel · 13/02/2026 17:14

Do you genuinely believe the op is saying that crimes committed by biological women should be recorded as having been committed by biological men?

It's there in black and white.

HelenaWaiting · 13/02/2026 17:15

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 13/02/2026 16:41

You mean presumed, not assumed.
Also, crimes don’t have a sex.

Crimes don't have a sex but criminals do.

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 13/02/2026 17:15

yetanotherusernameAgain · 13/02/2026 17:11

It can safely be assumed in any of the above circumstances that a male person was the perpetrator.

No it can't. There's a strong likelihood that the perpetrator was male but it's not a forgone conclusion.

There was a case a couple(?) of years ago of a particularly brutal murder (I think the body was dismembered) and there was a thread of people waiting for the announcement that the perpetrator was a transwoman. Which never came, because the killer was in fact a woman.

See OP?
If you had just said we can safely presume instead of assume, you’d not be getting these very correct critiques regarding the dangers of assuming.

Changedname9999 · 13/02/2026 17:15

SecretSquid · 13/02/2026 17:14

First report I heard describing the attacker was of a female with long brown hair wearing a dress.
When we got the full description, my exact words were "I fucking knew it."

I was same soon as i heard ‘female in a dress’.

CharlieEffie · 13/02/2026 17:15

KillTheTurkey · 13/02/2026 16:34

Men commit 99% of all rapes and sexual assaults.

Men (and young men) commit 95-98% of school shootings.

Men commit 90% of all violent crime in the UK.

These are not female crimes, and should never, ever be reported - or recorded - as such. It can safely be assumed in any of the above circumstances that a male person was the perpetrator.

Its 98% rapes actually. And this is those prosecuted. So those who feel able to come forward. Statistically men who are assaulted by women are less likely to report due to feelings of shame etc.

Also if these werent "female" crimes the statistics would be 100% of these crimes committed by men. To state that women are in prison for "lesser crimes" is ridiculous and untrue

SecretSquid · 13/02/2026 17:14

Changedname9999 · 13/02/2026 17:10

immediately in the aftermath people were warned to lock their doors against ‘a woman in a dress’. That person was still being described that way by news organisations a day later.

First report I heard describing the attacker was of a female with long brown hair wearing a dress.
When we got the full description, my exact words were "I fucking knew it."

TheMorgenmuffel · 13/02/2026 17:14

IkeaJesusChrist · 13/02/2026 16:56

So if a female shoots up a school, which they have done in the past, it shouldn't be reported as a female perpetrator?

Women don't sexually assault? Tell that to my brother in law who's ex wife sexually assaulted him and is in prison for it.

I get what you are saying but to say that they should never be recorded as females committing those crimes, even if they do commit them is a bit of a reach don't you think?

Not sure my BIL would appreciate it if his wife was recorded as a male perpetrator.

Do you genuinely believe the op is saying that crimes committed by biological women should be recorded as having been committed by biological men?

Changedname9999 · 13/02/2026 17:13

Changedname9999 · 13/02/2026 17:10

immediately in the aftermath people were warned to lock their doors against ‘a woman in a dress’. That person was still being described that way by news organisations a day later.

Apologies it was a ‘female in a dress’. If that makes any difference.

IkeaJesusChrist · 13/02/2026 17:13

RichardOnslowRoper · 13/02/2026 17:05

OP didn't say any of that.

They are basically saying that all violent crimes should be assumed to have been committed by males and should be recorded as such even if a female committed them.

yetanotherusernameAgain · 13/02/2026 17:11

It can safely be assumed in any of the above circumstances that a male person was the perpetrator.

No it can't. There's a strong likelihood that the perpetrator was male but it's not a forgone conclusion.

There was a case a couple(?) of years ago of a particularly brutal murder (I think the body was dismembered) and there was a thread of people waiting for the announcement that the perpetrator was a transwoman. Which never came, because the killer was in fact a woman.

Changedname9999 · 13/02/2026 17:10

Onelifeonly · 13/02/2026 17:09

But we all know this? It's not a revelation.

The report I heard on the shooting described the perpetrator as wearing a woman's dress. That's not the same as saying they were a woman. I was very surprised that they might be.

immediately in the aftermath people were warned to lock their doors against ‘a woman in a dress’. That person was still being described that way by news organisations a day later.

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