Dd’s friends mum always saying she doesn’t like what Dd makes

Adults need to realise how hurtful their remarks are.
Even if you hate something. If a child has given something they have made to my child, even if it is badly made or just clutter you smile and say how thoughtful. You display it until the next thing comes in then you put it away in the box of keepsakes in your “storage locker”

If you must say something you comment by asking why not make things for their own family members , grannies, granddads, auntie Shiela etc

You never say you hate something their friend has made. It’s going to drive a wedge between the friendship and if you value having a child with friends that do reciprocal play dates you can kiss goodbye to those.

I was friend In this scenario.

Maybe she's deeply religious and is afraid your dd is lesbian?
Maybe it's the glitter?
Maybe the friend makes it up?
Maybe the friend misunderstood- like the mum said she doesn't want it displayed in the living room or something.

So many possibilities so don't worry about it. Just tell dd to do things without glitter- because I hate having glitter all over the house. And encourage her to make things for other people as well; you, family, an old neighbour etc. Maybe the mum thinks it's a bit too much of another child's crafts coming into her home.

Art work goes on fridge door or wall in kitchen then gets regularly recycled or put in box if particularly good. Cards go on windowsill in the living room or child’s bedroom

It’s not hard. As more comes in. The same amount goes out.
small boxes are used for hair bands / grips or other little things

Heart shaped box dd decorated in primary school is still being used as a handy box to store extra cat toys and cat nip.
This box is nearly 20 years old.

She is actually saying she doesn't like the items or is she saying she doesn't like your DD always giving things to her DD?
Sometimes messages can become distorted and I think it would be very odd is an adult said she didn't like something a child made. Buy I can imagine a mother saying something like I wish X would stop making things for you

DD's BFF gives her little bits of writing and things she's made, and honestly it's a a pain, as it's just more stuff we need to find room for and DD generates plenty of her own "little bits of stuff"! I would never dream of letting DD or her friend, who is lovely, know my true feelings about it though.

It's possible that the mum feels similarly (especially about the glitter, which goes everywhere) and as a PP says above, it just trying to say that they can't keep it all.

This sounds really weird. So every time your DD makes something for the other girl, she takes it home then the next day says "I love it but my mum hates it?"

That doesn't really seem likely. But there are a host of possibilities here. Maybe the little one is saying "look at Jane's picture, she's so much better than me" and the mum is reassuring her. Maybe the friend doesn't want them and is trying to put your dd off giving them. Or maybe she's just being a bit mean as some kids are without rhyme or reason!

What ever household needs - more piles of glitter-shedding kids craft and artwork!

How big is the house? How many kids?

There is some tact missing - but could your dd be diverted into making something else...bead bracelets or something?

She probably has enough craft projects of her own DD never mind your DD adding to them. And as they are a gift probably feels she has to keep/display them longer

It seems a bit odd for an adult to turn to a chidk and say "I don't like that" about a handmade gift.

I immediately picture this as a constant flow of party bags' tat coming into the house... Or the dozens of painted egg trays from nursery... Except that your child is old enough to understand when you're discreetly getting rid of it all in the recycling bin 😱

More seriously, it does come across as mean, but I imagine that from the other mum's perspective she has to explain to her daughter somehow why they can't keep all that stuff in their house. Particularly glittery things that will make a mess.
I'm struggling enough with my 4 yo, it must difficult to explain to a 7 yo without being brutally honest.
I would think that neither the friend nor her mum is trying to be hurtful.

I wouldn't make a big deal of it if I were you.

It's a strange and somewhat tactless thing for the little girl to say, but kids are strange and tactless!

If it's upsetting your daughter, suggest she stops making things for this friend.

I doubt anyone is being deliberately malicious here.

This.

What actually springs to mind for me is nothing to do with the glitter. It's kids being kids. Your DD's friend has likely said to her mum 'do you like it better than mine' or is trying to give your daughter a backhanded compliment.

maybe ask if its the glitter and if so ditch the glitter

And that’s your opportunity to explain to your DD that everyone is different and we all like different things. We different tastes in pictures just the same as we have different tastes in food and drinks. Her friends Mum might not be being nasty about the stuff, she could be having a conversation along the lines of ‘well, you like it but it wouldn’t be my choice’.

Possibly selective hearing from dd’s friend.
’It’s lovely but ‘I don’t like it’ as much as yours’.

Yes. It is.

I think its lovely your DD makes things for her best friend. And it's not unusual as lots of kids draw and make things for each other.

I wonder whether the other mum thinks it's all a bit over the top getting loads of handmade gifts or embarrassed that her DD doesn't reciprocate? Some parents hate getting all their own kid's arts and crafts from school let alone extra from friends. The glitter would definitely piss me off as it gets everywhere.

When I was in primary school my friend got me a heart shaped soft toy. My mother had an issue with it because it was a heart and kept asking me if we were lesbians...
I didn't even really know what a lesbian was as this was years ago and there wasn't many lesbians who were out
So random thought but could it be that?
Her mum's a raging homophobe like mine?

Agreed. It sounds like the child might be trying to be kind and tactful in a misguided way!

Actually your update makes more sense to me - there are a lot of scenarios where the wee girl might want to put it on the mantelpiece/middle of the table/wherever and the mum just can't take clutter or having even more kids' crafts on display, and so it gets relegated by the mum saying she doesn't really like it there, or similar.

Of course it could be nasty! But I think there's also a more innocuous possibility.

This seems a heck of a lot more likely than the friends mum directly telling her child she doesn't like the cards and gifts.

This. The child could me misinterpreting what was said. Or she could be fibbing.

Hmmm..It just seems an odd thing for as adult to say. It could've been something like the kid gets out all her craft stuff and toys and these bits that the other kid made, and makes a big mess. The mum says she doesn't like the mess and the kid is equating it with the gifts? That or glitter got everywhere.

Honestly I have to put up with all the various crap lovely art my daughter makes and store long enough for her to not notice I've chucked it. When her friends also give her lovingly made shite art I tend to feel hateful thoughts about it. There is only so much room in our house and DD room to store this stuff.

Stop getting so personally involved. The intended audience your daughter's friend loves it. Her mum isn't the intended audience.