Dd’s friends mum always saying she doesn’t like what Dd makes

Your medal is in the post.

Really, you can't just say, well I love them

Teach your child they might be the centre of your universe, but they aren't the centre of everyone else's - surely you're aware of this @Thislawyerguywitharedface

This is true, most of the value is in the making of these things, not in the keeping of them.

I wouldn’t over think this. They young child is telling your dd that her mother doesn’t like these things, we don’t know exactly what was said. Maybe the mum is just drowning in art projects? Maybe the child caught her mum putting said objects in the bin?

No one really wants glitter, paint etc..from another child in their home?

Of course we should act grateful when we receive these things but it’s likely at some point the mum has moaned about it and the child has seen that as them not liking the objects.

The other thing to consider is that at that age, no child is making anything amazing or valuable. It's not like an adult who spent hours crocheting a cute little animal or knitting a scarf and you just bin it. Kids simply enjoy smearing around with paint, glitter, clay, etc. The stuff they make are basically side effects of learning fine motor skills, which is more important for their development than someone keeping all the stuff that gets made.

You can't possibly keep everything small children make and every picture they draw unless you're happy to be a hoarder. Keep a few nice bits and pieces and then it's perfectly normal for the rest to be recycled. If he struggles with the idea although personally I doubt most 4 year olds remember all the things they create show him the bluey episode the dump.

You are overthinking this. Of course the mum doesn't want more tat coming into the house but it's very unlikely that she has directly said she doesn't like it. She has probably said to her daughter to keep it in her own room, or has said why doesn't she keep nice things for her own family (and this has then been taken as mummy doesn't like it).

I’ve got artwork from my children and grandchildren from many years ago. I just can’t throw it away!

You have to get rid of stuff eventually! If I’d kept everything my 3 had ever made me we’d have to have hired a storage unit.

Do they not mind? My eldest is only four but he’d be gutted if I got rid of anything he’d made me!

It’s clutter and maybe the mum is getting fed up of it now and then… I wouldn’t over think
obviously the mum wouldn’t really be delighted with a constant stream of random stuff coming into the house? I don’t understand what’s confusing about that. If the kids are happy then lovely but surely you wouldn’t be all that enthusiastic about a stream of handmade random tat into the house either???

To be perfectly honest, things made by DD's friends are the first to get binned. I love the girls themselves but we simply don't have storage for piles of wonky tat. Especially ones with glitter spilling over, or oversized paper creations that are impossible to fit into drawers. I have no sentimental attachment to creations made by another child and there's no purpose in keeping those forever. Chances are she will have zero contact with those friends in 10-12 years anyway, so what's the point? Photographs or cards yes, but handmade stuff no.

Pretty sure the other mum didn't like it in terms of clutter and space. Possibly the glitter too if it got all over the car seat, school bag or another place that's impossible to clean.

She is probably a minimalist and your daughter is giving clutter.

Yes, probably. I was definitely guilty of that when mine were little. I bet there were plenty of times I wasn't discreet enough about my hatred of slime, glitter and play-dough in party bags etc. Unfortunately I am terrible at hiding the truth from my face.

It is filtered through not one but two 7 year olds. So I really really really wouldn't take it a) as truth or b) personally because see point a.

Yes, that's paranoid. She might be one of those people who is honest with their children rather than gushing over every little thing, but is probably not realising her daughter is reporting back to your daughter ... Eeeek.

Exactly this! You’re being ridiculously paranoid! I used to hate my kids bringing anything home with glitter on it. It didn’t affect my view of whoever was responsible for it being in my house! Gifts made by small children are a bit shit and unless it’s your child or grandchild making it most people wouldn’t find it cute. There really is nothing more to it!

I think this might be being relayed differently to what’s being said. It’s like a school fete or receiving a party bag etc, in the mom’s eyes it’s just more things to clutter her house. Not condoning the mom’s reaction but it could have been something left on the side & DH picks it up & a flippant remark has been made about it. You don’t know why, how or what’s really being said, however, this doesn’t mean your daughter has to stop making her friend things. It’s so thoughtful and lovely she wants to treat her friend. I’d pay it no attention and probably explain to your daughter that the gift isn’t for the mom it for her friend & she loves it and that’s all that matters

I would encourage dd to make things for other people.

Good lesson on only making effort where it's totally appreciated.

I know lots of children that age who are/were that deep.

I do think children of this age aren’t that deep.

I think it is exactly what was said. Probably more on the fact that it’s not just her DD’s stuff she has to deal with.

Some parents are like that.

If you don’t want to find space for the drawings and paraphernalia in the kitchen and don’t want to put cards up in the child’s bedroom or on the windowsill in the living room and don’t want to hurt your child’s feelings by throwing away their stuff infront of them then what do you do.

The stuff is coming home to you whether you like it or not. It’s part of being a parent. For a few short years your house gets filled with drawings of stick figures, potatoe prints and paint daubs and crafting things

Then it goes down and then the next thing you know you have the teenage years and it’s at that point you realise that dealing with a hundred paintings of stick figures and cards that produce double their weight in glitter each day is far easier to deal with than the rollercoaster ride of emotions and nonsensical arguments you are now on

Every stage of parenthood seems hard when you are living it. Then you get to the next stage and you realise that the previous stage was easier than what you are dealing with in the present time.

My mother would have said that when I was a child and then gaslit me if I’d told the friend and she’d asked her about it! (this actually happened - slightly different as mother told me she didn’t like my little friend!)
So yes it could well be true, there sadly are nasty people about who should never have become mothers.
Your daughter sounds like a sweetheart, I feel sorry for her being so kind and treated so poorly. Not sure what the solution is tbh.

She can sod off. The present was for the child, not for her.

Chances are though that the mum hasn’t said that she dislikes the stuff. It’s more likely that the child has misinterpreted/doesn’t like the stuff herself and is using her mum as an excuse/is fibbing to be mean.