Dd’s friends mum always saying she doesn’t like what Dd makes

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Yep she sounds v mean! If be delighted that my DD had such a lovely friend that likes to gift her little homemade things like this. I'm sorry op xx

When I was a kid we couldn't have glitter in the house as it made our animals sick. Cat, dog, budgie etc . For whatever reason they don't want glitter in the house, respect that. If your daughter really wants to send a gift maybe suggest birthdays only but no glitter.

^ This or my 6yo sometimes asks me if I like her drawing or the one her friend made for her so of course I say friends drawing is good but I like yours the best - so could be a misunderstanding like that?
Honestly the rate she makes things is overwhelming and then to come home with them from several friends 🙈

Tho' most young kids love glitter, it is very bad for the environment - doesn't break down and is bad for wildlife whether on land or in ocean.
This was ""a thing" a few years ago and most stockists seemed then to give up on it. If you think about it, you don't see it around much any more.
Possibly, the mum really doesn't like glitter for those reasons and, if that's the case, she has a point.

It's a bit odd but something you have to let go as you don't know if the mother definitely said it or the context she said it in, the child could be making it up or misinterpreting it.

Maybe the mother belittles the daughter at home, or is emotionally distant, or weirdly jealous of her friendships, or has a controlling partner who wants a 'tidy' house. The daughter might not be stirring. She might be echoing invalidation.

Is there any reason like ethnicity or religion or class that might make OP 'different' from the other parents, I wonder?

My young daughter once told her friend that my DH didn't like her dad. Luckily her friend's mom immediately told me and we figured out that DH had said he didn't like wearing suits, like her friend's dad did. Had a big talk with DD about not repeating things she heard and about being kind. Even if it were true, no reason to tell someone. We all still laugh about it 20 years on (both DH's as well).

Yes it's a bit paranoid!

I guess the mum sees this gifts as yet more tat that she has to find a space for. Lots of parents don't value their own children's art/craft work, let alone another child's. I would try to rein your DD's enthusiasm for gifting in a bit tbh.

Some selfish parents care more about how some little pieces of art can clutter their house. Doesn’t matter how important it is to their child or that another child spent time making a present. We had special boxes for keepsake when mine were younger.

Don't make a big thing out of this. Just explain to your daughter that everyone likes different things and maybe try different decorations instead of glitter.

I think she has enough of her own dc’s models and pictures and doesn’t want added stuff in her home.

Additional crap with glitter on in addition to the stuff your child makes fantastic

Can you encourage your DD towards things that are easier to store tidily away?

• no paper (it just rapidly ends up ripped or crumpled and tends to migrate sadly round the house looking a mess)
• NO GLITTER!!

friendship bracelets or loom band bracelets are smaller and much easier to encourage DC to store away in drawers.

Omg it would drive me nuts if my kid kept coming home with this crap from a friend, its annoying because its just messy tat but kids won't let you bin it because "it was a present from my friend!"

It is probably the glitter - it falls off, gets on hands, clothes, carpet, surfaces. Depends how well stuck on it is.
Someone gave me a card with confetti in and it was annoying.
I think the Mum hasn't been rude and it isn't that she dislikes your child.
It could also be she doesn't like plastic, or anything that cannot be recycled (glitter again). A lot of people don't, she may not encourage or allow her children to buy it or play with it. It is quite common.
I often hate party bags and the tiny plastic tat that ultimately breaks and goes to landfill. It isn't the gifts or the party bag itself, I don't dislike the parents, I just think it is wasteful, we all feel the pressure to do it, and it all just ends up in landfill.

I doubt she says she doesn't like it out loud. Perhaps that's rhe message her dd is getting though.

Tbf, our kids bring home enough home made crap that then takes ages to part with without yet another source of incoming stuff by way of gifts.

I suspect she is trying to grin and bear it but quite frankly peeved. Perhaps your dd could do something else? Maybe a shared notebook to pass messages back and forth.

Her mum is fed with DD for filling her house with useless tat!

I agree with PPs that it will be the glitter the friend’s mum doesn’t like. I got completely fed up with it when my DDs were younger. Glitter is just so messy!

I never had the heart to tell them, though, as they loved it, especially DD1. I just grumbled about it with my DH.

How often does she make her friend things? Once is fine but if it’s regular she’s probably fed up with all the crap coming home with her kid, I ca see why she probably said to her daughter she was sick of it 🫣 I do find it odd you’re so invested in such a trivial thing. I think the best thing you can do to save your child’s feelings is to tell her maybe to stop making her friend so many things and just make you stuff instead if her thing is to make paper gifts all the time. I agree with others here, it’s bad enough dealing with the utter shite your own kids bring home without dealing with someone else’s kids tatty homemade crap 😂 Is your daughter your only child?

Maybe she didn’t say it to her but could hear her mother going on to the dh or family member or friend about how much she hates how her DD’s friend keeps giving her stuff and she wants to make it stop as it has got too much and she hates it.

She’s probably made some off the cuff comment about the glitter or that’s it’s more ‘stuff’ to clutter up her dd room! A bit mean spirited but I wouldn’t give it much thought.

Next step is to teach your daughter how to make a glitter bomb 😉

I think other mum is horrified at the thought of other kids shite cluttering up her house! She's probably juat said something along the lines of 'can we throw this away yet?' She isn't saying it directly so she isn't intentionally being mean. She'd no doubt be mortified to discover her kids grassed her up 😂

I've worked with children for around 14 years, and I can say that children at some point exaggerate, misunderstand and lie...the extent just varies!

I would take what your daughter's friend is saying to your daughter with a pinch of salt. It's possible the glitter annoyed the girl's Mum, and her daughter took it to mean she dislikes the trinket your daughter made.

I'd find it odd for a grown adult to tell her 7 year old daughter that she dislikes every single item your daughter has made for her friend!! It just doesn't ring true!