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What should my dh have done in this situation?

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cateringday · 13/02/2026 06:51

Dh was out doing hobby. Woman is walking a dog and it shits on some grass. Dh notices she doesn’t pick it up so he says ‘excuse me your dog has just done a shit’ she then starts shouting that it’s the fucking countryside and the dog can poo in the countryside.
dh left it there because he didn’t want to be a man arguing with a woman in the countryside but he feels strongly about the dog shit issue

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RhaenysRocks · 13/02/2026 07:05

I think your dh was right to.leave it given the circumstances of a man and woman alone in the middle of nowhere. She was definitely in the wrong but i can just imagine the reverse:

Out in the middke if nowhere, dog did a shit...it's literally the middle of a field so I decided to leave it to decompose naturally. A man came and started aggressively arguing with me. I felt frightened and vulnerable. I know I was technically in the wrong but AIBU to think the man should be more self aware and not challenge a woman alone ..much like men should cross the road and not walk behind women.

Bet the responses, whilst telling her off about the dog, would agree with her point.

RockyKeen · 13/02/2026 07:03

I think countryside has a different to a city because shit is good for plants , flowers etc .

Bunnyotter1896 · 13/02/2026 07:02

You cant reason with the unreasonable. Therefore there is nothing he can do.
Obviously we should all pick up after our dog. But if she wont your dh cant really do anything.
Kids and families should be able to enjoy the country side too.
Having said that....there will be deer, fox and other poo there so whats dog poo added in. Folk dont pick up cat poo.
But I agree. Everyones should pick up after their dog. Some people wont. Its slightly annoying but not your husbands job to fix.
He cant argue with every stranger about it. He made his point and she didnt agree. He has to accept that imo.

Egglio · 13/02/2026 06:57

He should be more worried about his mountain biking behaviours than some poor woman and her poor dog who are out minding their own business. 😉

Not really, she should have picked up the dog poo. So what if it's the countryside, her animal, her responsibility.

PersephoneParlormaid · 13/02/2026 06:56

I think you’re getting confused with road biking, and the many hours men are absent from their families while doing it.

Glitchymn1 · 13/02/2026 06:56

Well it’s fair comment. He can’t make her pick it up though.

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cateringday · 13/02/2026 06:54

But I know mn doesn’t like mountain biking men 😂

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Original poster
cateringday · 13/02/2026 06:54

Mountain biking

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unlikelychump · 13/02/2026 06:53

What was the hobby?

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