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To think the way MN lets anti trans extremists hijack a tragedy is pretty despicable

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Blu3Shoes · 13/02/2026 06:34

I’ve read several threads full of hate filled anti trans ideology diatribes with zero thoughts for the victims, Canadians upset asking for some empathy and making it clear they as a nation just need to grieve, anti trans hate speech….

Jumping on a human tragedy to push your extremist agenda whilst MN just sits back and lets it happen on multiple threads is as low as you can get.

One wonders how low MN is going to sink. It’s such an unpleasant place now. I guess all HQ cares about now is getting a good price in the sell off.

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KillTheTurkey · 13/02/2026 07:05

Blu3Shoes · 13/02/2026 07:00

We all know the anti trans bullies would sweep in and take over any threads about victims.

The point is common decency means the victims is all anybody should be thinking about not glee that it’s a great opportunity to push extremist ideology.

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This has nothing to do with ‘trans rights’.

We are not anti-trans ‘bullies’. We believe that women and children are at risk from male perpetrators of violence, and how these male criminals identify makes no difference to their criminal profile. We simply do not accept male crimes as our crimes, and would like them reported as such.

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Blu3Shoes · 13/02/2026 07:03

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/02/2026 07:02

Who is pushing anyone out? You don’t get to control what threads are started or what is posted on them. The end.

I can call out vile behaviour without being told to leave.

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/02/2026 07:02

Who is pushing anyone out? You don’t get to control what threads are started or what is posted on them. The end.

Shedmistress · 13/02/2026 07:01

Blu3Shoes · 13/02/2026 07:00

We all know the anti trans bullies would sweep in and take over any threads about victims.

The point is common decency means the victims is all anybody should be thinking about not glee that it’s a great opportunity to push extremist ideology.

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The extremist ideology of reality?

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Blu3Shoes · 13/02/2026 07:01

LiveToTell · 13/02/2026 06:58

Makes no difference how long you’ve been here. It’s a valid point - if you’re not happy, you’re free to leave.

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So bullies get to take over and push out people who have been here from the beginning.

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/02/2026 07:00

And also, several Canadians have clearly said they do want to discuss this issue, in one of the few places they can. Who are you to arbitrarily decide which Canadians should be listened to?

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Blu3Shoes · 13/02/2026 07:00

Shedmistress · 13/02/2026 06:56

You could have started a thread about the victims yourself but yet again, women who want clarity about the dire consequences of this insidious ideology are berated for talking about the wrong things.

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We all know the anti trans bullies would sweep in and take over any threads about victims.

The point is common decency means the victims is all anybody should be thinking about not glee that it’s a great opportunity to push extremist ideology.

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Megifer · 13/02/2026 06:59

Is it as bad as starting a thread about the "hate" rather than the victims?

EvangelineTheNightStar · 13/02/2026 06:58

Blu3Shoes · 13/02/2026 06:55

They clearly couldn’t give two shiny shits about the victims in their eagerness to race in to push their irrelevant hate filled agenda. Canadians have begged them to stop.

I can’t imagine the damage such hate and such a continuous harassing crusade at every opportunity has on the MN of young trans teens.

It’s truly awful and not what MN used to be like.

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Ah so it’s NOT about the victims of these horrendous actions? It’s about ‘making trans look bad”?

LiveToTell · 13/02/2026 06:58

Blu3Shoes · 13/02/2026 06:37

Been here 22 years so think I can keep my account whilst calling out the depths MN is sinking to thanks.

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Makes no difference how long you’ve been here. It’s a valid point - if you’re not happy, you’re free to leave.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/02/2026 06:58

Blu3Shoes · 13/02/2026 06:55

They clearly couldn’t give two shiny shits about the victims in their eagerness to race in to push their irrelevant hate filled agenda. Canadians have begged them to stop.

I can’t imagine the damage such hate and such a continuous harassing crusade at every opportunity has on the MN of young trans teens.

It’s truly awful and not what MN used to be like.

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Canadians haven’t “begged them to stop”. They’ve rudely told them to. No.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/02/2026 06:57

Shedmistress · 13/02/2026 06:56

You could have started a thread about the victims yourself but yet again, women who want clarity about the dire consequences of this insidious ideology are berated for talking about the wrong things.

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Yep. Transparent as a window.

Shedmistress · 13/02/2026 06:56

Blu3Shoes · 13/02/2026 06:47

I know it’s just awful.

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You could have started a thread about the victims yourself but yet again, women who want clarity about the dire consequences of this insidious ideology are berated for talking about the wrong things.

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Blu3Shoes · 13/02/2026 06:55

Emotionalsupporttissue · 13/02/2026 06:47

Posters can always start their own thread about the victims if they want to.
Just because a thread is focused on the perpetrator doesn't mean that posters aren't massively sympathetic to the victims.

They clearly couldn’t give two shiny shits about the victims in their eagerness to race in to push their irrelevant hate filled agenda. Canadians have begged them to stop.

I can’t imagine the damage such hate and such a continuous harassing crusade at every opportunity has on the MN of young trans teens.

It’s truly awful and not what MN used to be like.

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Chersfrozenface · 13/02/2026 06:55

KillTheTurkey · 13/02/2026 06:53

How is wanting a crime to be correctly recorded ‘anti trans hate speech’?

Maybe you should direct your ire at the men who commit these crimes instead of berating women for standing up for our right not to be lumped in with ultra-violent men?

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Exactly.

PersephoneParlormaid · 13/02/2026 06:54

Nothing wrong with speaking out to make sure that this is never seen as a female crime.

Skinnysaluki · 13/02/2026 06:53

Agree OP. In the last twenty years this has become a very different place but then so has society in general.
It is impossible to have a genuine and nuanced debate about virtually anything in the current climate.

BreakingBroken · 13/02/2026 06:53

I’m from Northern BC.
IF the shooter hadn’t killed himself a fully accurate description is vital.
IF after killing at the high school HE then took off for Prince George (nearest city BTW) saying M-F transgender with brown hair wearing a dress would help capture him. Female in a dress conjures up a very different mental picture to guy in a dress.
Please never forget this is a male crime against women and children.

KillTheTurkey · 13/02/2026 06:53

Blu3Shoes · 13/02/2026 06:34

I’ve read several threads full of hate filled anti trans ideology diatribes with zero thoughts for the victims, Canadians upset asking for some empathy and making it clear they as a nation just need to grieve, anti trans hate speech….

Jumping on a human tragedy to push your extremist agenda whilst MN just sits back and lets it happen on multiple threads is as low as you can get.

One wonders how low MN is going to sink. It’s such an unpleasant place now. I guess all HQ cares about now is getting a good price in the sell off.

How is wanting a crime to be correctly recorded ‘anti trans hate speech’?

Maybe you should direct your ire at the men who commit these crimes instead of berating women for standing up for our right not to be lumped in with ultra-violent men?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/02/2026 06:52

TaffetaPhrases · 13/02/2026 06:40

It’s a mental health catastrophe that isn’t being addressed and these events are the outcomes.

So YES, we will talk about it thanks.
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Well said.

cariadlet · 13/02/2026 06:52

TaffetaPhrases · 13/02/2026 06:40

It’s a mental health catastrophe that isn’t being addressed and these events are the outcomes.

So YES, we will talk about it thanks.
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💯

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/02/2026 06:52

A trans identified male shot and killed 10 people at his home and a school. He’s certainly not the first “trans” young person to do that and I doubt he’ll be the last. Huge red flags on his social media. It’s a real concern.

harriethoyle · 13/02/2026 06:51

YANBU - some of the threads yesterday were appalling. It’s so crass.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/02/2026 06:49

How is it “tenuous” or “barely related” in this case?

Emotionalsupporttissue · 13/02/2026 06:47

Posters can always start their own thread about the victims if they want to.
Just because a thread is focused on the perpetrator doesn't mean that posters aren't massively sympathetic to the victims.

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